How do I convince my Mom?

Question

For about 4 years my Mom has been wanting to take me to a concert. I'm 17. We finally have the money and my favorite band, Tool is playing at the city next-door. She thinks Kelley Clarkson would be more of a calm crowd. There's NO way I'm going to see Kelley Clarkson. How do I convince my Mom that's it's about the band and not the other people that go to see them?

Answer 1

DO NOT take your mother to a TOOL show, though. They are one of my favorite bands but it is totally not appropriate to take your mother there. There will be nudity, people geeked outta their minds on drugs and violence. The tool show I went to years and years ago is not the place to take anyones mom UNLESS they allready dig the music and understand what the band is about.

I agree it's about the music and not the audience, but COME ON!!! Wait for TOOL until you can go with some friends.

Answer 2

Once again you're both right. For your mom it is about the crowd and for you it is about the band. I can't really tell from your question but it does not sound as if you can only go to the Tool concert if your mom goes with you. If I am right you should go with some friends and not your mom. You have already said in the past that she is not too fond of them anyway. If you can go on your own you should.

If it is about the band she should be able to enjoy them too and you should go to a show you'll both enjoy. But for your mom it is entirely about the crowd because she wants to go WITH you. She wants to share something with you and if she doesn't like the band you see together she won't be sharing the experience she'll just be watching you.

Most of the time parents do enjoy it when their kids have fun but sometimes they like to have fun with them. Maybe Kelly Clarkson is not the show where it can happen because you'd be miserable but there has to be something out there you can both go see. I don't know all the stuff you like that your mom would like but in my experience I have never seen or heard of anyone not having fun at a Jimmy Buffet concert. Unfortunately he is almost done touring by this point in the year. Try something along those lines.

You will probably never have the best time of your life with your mom but there is a pretty good chance that your mom could have the best time she has had in a long time if she can share something fun with you. As corny as it sounds she is trying to connect with you. Give her some slack.

I am sure if you both try you'll find something you can agree on. Good luck and have fun at whichever show you choose.

Answer 3

Tell her you appreciate the sacrifices that she has made to save the money to go to the concert and you would really love to see Tool. Tell her that Kelly Clarkson might be a music that she enjoys but you truly wouldn't enjoy it. You have been dying to see Tool, and it is your favorite band. Most concert venues have a "parents section" out away from the speakers. Talk to her like an adult, show her respect, and I hope she will do the same for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

Try to sit down with her and explain to her that you don't think that much kelley Clarkson and that since she wants to take you to see a band it should be your chose and Tool is the band that you want your mom can't predict what other people would be doing at the concert its their money and all they'll be allowed to do is dance since security is going to be there i hope you can get threw to your mom : )

Answer 5

Hi Lady,

I've seen a lot of bands in my lifetime. The Rolling Stones included. I totally respect how you feel about not wanting to see Ms. Clarkson, however don't discount any musical experience until you see the performers "live." While in San Francisco my friends were trying to decide what they wanted to do for the evening. Of all things, Betty suggested the San Francisco Symphony. Being a good friend, I went back to my hotel, got cleaned up, put on a suit and tie, and joined my friends for our "evening out." I can honestly say it was the most memorable live musical experience of my lifetime. The conductors antics onstage were so funny, I actually had tears streaming down my face from laughing so hard. Acoustically speaking, it was quite a magical evening.

Please consider that your musical tastes may change during the course of your lifetime depending on your personal experiences, friends that you associate with, and wherever lifes journey may take you. You will however only have 1 biological Mom. She is only attempting to guide you, which in essence is an act of love.
My aren't you a fortunate girl. Your respecting her choice is an act of love returned.
That's not an opportunity I'd pass up. Count your blessings that she is actively involved in your life.

Respectfully,

Sam {(:>)+< (Like my mullet?) LOL

Answer 6

Sounds like she'd rather see Kelly Clarkson. Maybe you could make a deal, Kelley for Tool.

Answer 7

Haha! It really sounds like your MOM wants to see Kelly Clarkson. It would be awesome if you could get you mom to go to the Tool concert. In the end, I think she would have a blast. Of course convincing her will be tough. You could always hang in the back where it is more "calm".

Answer 8

I took my son to a ICP concert...I took ear plugs of course ;)
I would let your mom know that honestly you don't want to see Kelley and it would be a waste to buy a ticket for something you won't enjoy. Some moms are WAY put off by bands like Tool and find it hard to get past the image.
Maybe if you have some friends who's mom's have either let them go or have gone to concerts with their kids, see if they might be able to reassure your mom.
It's pretty scary for us parents to let our kids step into a world that we really don't understand sometimes. It's out of our comfort zone, but if she can participate in this with you, I bet it would be a GREAT experience for the both of you

Answer 9

I have a couple of suggestions:

1) Play her a couple of DVDs of Tool and Kelly Clarkson that show how similarly safe the crowds react in the DVDs

2) Play her the music of an artist that she loves and an artist that she absolutely hates from her own time. Ask her then how she would feel about going to see the artist that she loves live? Ask her then how she would feel about going to see the artist that she hates live. Ask her to put herself in your shoes after this about seeing Tool and Kelly Clarkson.

I wish you the best of luck convincing her...specially considering how much I'd absolutely hate going to see Kelly Clarkson and pretending to like it :-P

Answer 10

Tell her that there is no way you can go and see Kelley Clarkson play. If you did, you would be totally unworthy of the LedZepBabe title.