we have been together six years and have a child thats 1 and a half, she told me she was tired and not in love anymore how long do i wait before moving on, i've tried everything to make it work and still would love to have and marry her and spend the rest of my life with her she just doesnt want or dream of the same things how long before i should move on.
2006-07-27 13:50:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait until she begs.
2006-07-27 13:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by TruthIsRelative 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to wait around,if you have tried and you say that the child is one and a half years old.
Maybe she does not want the commitment The problem today with living with someone is that people get comfortable living together and even if they are not in love sometimes they stay in a relationship because it just feels right, without ever knowing what else is out there for them.
Shake yourself loose from the ties, and do your own thing.
2006-07-27 21:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by brown.gloria@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, I would say don't move on too quickly. I have a 14 month old daughter with my "high school sweetheart" and I have been with my boyfriend now for just over a year. I started dating him when she was 4 weeks old, and i wasnt completely over the other guy. It caused me to be depressed that i now loved two guys, but i couldnt be with the father of my child. Now i reallize that it was silly to want to be with him in the first place, but that is just my situation. You dont want to feel "stuck" in a relationship with someone you care about and want to be with someone else at the same time. If i were you i would take some time and just "mope" i guess you would say. And when you do begin to move on, dont get into anything too serious at first, you should just date for a while. If you have any questions just send me an IM or email me.
2006-07-27 21:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait, move on. Do stay friends with her, you've had a relationship that produced a child so it couldn't have been all bad. She may just need time to decide what is really right for her. If the relationship ends then you will still have that wonderful child to be with.
2006-07-27 20:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps now is the time to move forward in your own life. She has made it clear, perfectly clear her interests are else where. It's hard to move on especially when it involves a child. Make arrangements to see your child on a regular basis. Keep close contact with child throughout he/she's life. In time all wounds heal. Take this all one day at a time, never anticipating what each tomorrow will hold. Also get involved in church and ask God to help you through this..
2006-07-27 20:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried everything then file with your local child support services to start support for the child and get a lawyer to set up visitation it may tick her off but this can be the first step in moving on
2006-07-27 20:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by twistedsingle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol i am in the same boat with u , me and my husband told tuesday that he didn't love me no more , and that we was over and we have being married for almost 9 yrs in nov , and have two kids together i was wondering the same thing , how long should i wait to move on
2006-07-27 20:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop waiting she left u and now u have to move on. it is hard at first but it only will hurt more if u wait and she never comes back. i'm sorry, my boyfriend left me,after 8 yrs and a 4yr old son, because he was not "in love" with me and it hurt but it is something in life we just have to accept
2006-07-27 20:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by RocKsTaR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait any longer because there are probably some other women out there who are waiting for a guy like you and she'll come back to you when she's ready.
2006-07-27 21:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was wrong in the relationship? Make real changes! Go to concelling with her, take parenting classes, learn what is going wrong and get educated on it. A light bulb moment may come on!
2006-07-27 21:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋