We let my brother's girlfriend babysit our son today. Not normally a problem except I just realized that she GOT HIS HAIR CUT!!!! Is it just me, or is a baby's first hair cut something that the parents should get done or at least authorize? I know it's just hair, but he's our first child and it's his first hair cut! My hubby is pissed. I have no idea what to do. Well, there's nothing I can do about the hair, but what do I do about her?
2006-07-27 13:45:25 · 36 answers · asked by redpeach_mi 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I would suggest not letting this woman watch your child again. I suggest talking to her (when you have cooled down) that she crossed the line. Explain it to her like you did on Answers. That this is your first child and that its important to you to be apart of the different milestones in his life. Ask "how would you would feel in the same situation". She might not of thought about it hurting your feelings...she might have thought that she was doing you a favor.
2006-07-27 14:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be upset over it. It's a milestone that you normally will note in your child's baby book, keep a lock of hair from, or take pictures of. Just like you wouldn't want her to go out and get a baby's ears pierced (if you had a girl) or feed him something you hadn't authorized. Although it's just hair, it's YOUR BABY'S HAIR. Let her get her OWN baby's hair cut.
2006-07-27 13:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...personally I didn't get all emotional over my son's (now 2) first haircut. I didn't even take him somewhere to get it done, I just noticed one day he had these long wisps in front of his eyes, and I cut them. Now I trim it up every few weeks when his curls get out of hand. So....Try not to make such a big deal out of the haircut, there are many many many special milestone moments on the trip to adulthood, and this one probably wouldn't even make the top ten when he's grown.
That said....I would be upset that she did it without asking permission, as this could be a sign that there's lots of things she'd do with him without permission. That would anger me, and give me second (and third) thoughts about allowing her to watch my son.
2006-07-27 19:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do about the hair, but I wouldn't let her babysit again. She seems to have a problem realizing where boundaries exist between being a baby sitter and being a parent.
2006-07-27 13:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by sibelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how upset you are and that she had no right to get his hair cut without your permission. If it was me I'd be pissed too. That is a milestone in your childs life and you should have been the one to get his haircut!
Some people are just so pushy!
2006-07-27 18:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by rowdygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's this chicks deal, anyone knows something like that is a big deal...just like first foods and all that. She knows what she did was wrong and that the parents should be the ones to experience that....otherwise she would have asked you before hand. I still have the hair from my four year olds first hair cut...sorry that you had to miss it.
2006-07-27 17:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by littleone101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONFRONT HER. TELL HER HOW UPSETTING SHE DID. EXPLAIN WHY.. YOU KNOW ITS JUST HAIR BUT YOU ARE THE PARENTS AND ANYTHING THAT SHOULD BEEN DONE TO THE BABY SHOULD BE CONSULTED TO YOU FIRST, SAY TO HER YOUR EXCITED AND LOOKING FORWARD TO CUT THE BABY'S HAIR AND HAVE A PICTURE OR VIDEO OF IT BUT ITS TOO LATE, (HOPE SHE FEELS SOMETHING WHEN YOU SAY THAT).. WHAT WOULD SHE FEELS IF YOU BABYSIT HER FIRST BABY AND YOU PIERCE THE BABY'S EAR WITH A CUTE EARRINGS SAYING YOU JUST WANT HER BABY TO LOOK CUTE.. ITS THE SAME THING.. YOU HAVE TO SAY WHAT YOU FEELS THAN KEEPING IT FROM HER COZ SHE REALLY CROSS THE LINE, AND SHE HAVE TO BE CORRECTED SO IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN..
2006-07-27 14:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was very rude of her. Who in their right mind would take someones child for a haircut without the parents permission, no matter what age they are. And this is even worse as it was his 1st haircut. There is not much you can do about the hair but, I would definitely confront the babysitter.
2006-07-27 13:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lucid Secrets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is very upsetting i get mad if someone cuts my childrens hair with out asking and its happened at many ages
but absolutely a babbys first hair cut is special and now you dont even have a lock of his baby hair to put in the book! id be very PISSED
as for the sitter.............. if otherwise she is a good sitter i would tell her that she was wrong and why.................then i would meke up a punishment like reducing her pay............
but also you have to set boundries early ....... make a list of yes's and no's for her and tell her that if it in any way concernes your childs looks or health she must ask first!
2006-07-27 14:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be FURIOUS. What right does your brother's girlfriend (not even his wife, but his GIRLFRIEND!) have to cut YOUR baby's hair? Did she at least save a lock of it for his baby book??
If I were in that situation, I would confront her, and not hold back...I'd let her have it. If it were his wife, it might be different, but since they're only dating, I wouldn't be too worried about sparing her feelings.
2006-07-27 14:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋