2006-07-27 13:44:10 · 7 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm 31, have post partem depression (just had my meds upped as well). My oldest is 10 and has ADHD. I have a five year old with asthma, and my new baby has acid reflux. She says she is in a bind and she is more my husbands friend than mine. My husband is a workahloic and hardly ever home so it would be me and six kids for at least 11 hours a day.
2006-07-27 14:29:28 · update #1
You aren't dumb - you are just overwhelmed! Tell your friend you would love to help her but that you can't right now. You have 4 kids and a new baby, you clearly have your hands very full.
You should be the one asking for help, especially if you are having issues with postpartum depression. Try to recruit one of the grandma's to come to your house and help you out.
2006-07-27 13:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 13⤊ 1⤋
Your not dumb! Maybe you think that you can do this? Are you up to this? These are the questions you ought to ask yourself before you commit to this. A two year old is quite a handful, and they don't usually sit still for long! You will have to run after this child plus tend to your other children as well. If you really aren't then say so. It's perfectly alright to say "No". You don't have to feel guilty about it either! Tell her that you really can't right now that you need some time to get it together but you would consider it in the future. She should understand your circumstances.
It would be even better if she lent you a hand!
2006-07-27 21:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about you first. Stress is very dangerous and can lead to many health problems. As much as i am sure you want to help your friend you need to think about what is good for you. I am sure your friend will understand. and if she doesnt.... well i dont think that is a very good friend. Think about this.. would she watch all of your kids at the same time if she were in your situation?
2006-07-27 20:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Nora A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is rude of her to ask you. I think you should not right now as you have enough going on. Maybe later when the kids go back to school and yor baby is older.
My friend used to watch my son while I went to work, but I paid her.
2006-07-27 20:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not dumb but your friend should understand if you cant look after her child you seem to have your hands full as it is, i think you might be the one that may need a weekend away, any ways take care
2006-07-27 20:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by sugarpantsangel21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Maybe part of the reason you're depressed is b/c you can't say no?
2006-07-27 20:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind and sensible to yourself and your own kids: tell her that you can't, that you have to set priorities. If she complains, tell her your doctor said you can't.
2006-07-27 20:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋