i have been divorced for 6 years now from my ex and his brother was the only kind one to me in the family beside my sister-in-laws,me & my brother-in-law never had a sexual or any kind of relationship just family , but since my divorce i have not been able to get him out of my head i am always thinking of him. and this month i went to the rosary for the other brother-in-law whom passed away well i seen him and he seen me but we just looked at each other but as i was leaving i tried to just shake his hand but he grabbed me and hugged me tight . and when i turned as i was walking away he kept looking at me. Is there feeling he has for me as well .. . we spoke one time about if things could have been different if he had met me first instead his younger brother meeting me how he wished i could have been with him but we just left it at that i just dismissed it cause he had been drinking .
2006-07-27 13:31:14 · 9 answers · asked by country_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have been divorced for 6 years now from my ex and his brother was the only kind one to me in the family beside my sister-in-laws,me & my brother-in-law never had a sexual or any kind of relationship just family , but since my divorce i have not been able to get him out of my head i am always thinking of him. and this month i went to the rosary for the other brother-in-law whom passed away well i seen him and he seen me but we just looked at each other but as i was leaving i tried to just shake his hand but he grabbed me and hugged me tight . and when i turned as i was walking away he kept looking at me. Is there feeling he has for me as well .. . we spoke one time about if things could have been different if he had met me first instead his younger brother meeting me how he wished i could have been with him but we just left it at that i just dismissed it cause he had been drinking . i have 4 kids with my ex , the youngest my ex says it is his brother's daughter
2006-07-28 09:57:48 · update #1
and besides at the rosary he didn’t seem to upset about losing his brother , but why did he wait till his brother , my ex was not around to hug me, inside the funeral home he just said hi and he did not try to hug me then like the other family members were doing I hugged everyone inside when I first seen them but my brother-in-law waited till I was outside when no one was around , does it mean there is feeling still
2006-07-28 10:02:29 · update #2
and besides at the rosary he didn’t seem to upset about losing his brother , but why did he wait till his brother , my ex was not around to hug me, inside the funeral home he just said hi and he did not try to hug me then like the other family members were doing I hugged everyone inside when I first seen them but my brother-in-law waited till I was outside when no one was around , does it mean there is feeling still
2006-07-28 10:03:18 · update #3
ignore the double print i was trying to add additional info
2006-07-28 10:08:33 · update #4
Since you are divorced, especially for so long, I would say talk to him about that converstation and see if he still feels that way when he is dead sober. Just keep in mind, your ex-husband would become your brother in law if you married, and you would have the same mother in law again, heck, same in laws all around, and if they were mean to you the first time, they will be mean again the second time around. And there is the chance that both brothers have the trait that caused the first divorce. Just make sure you are prepared for those facts if you do get into a relationship with him. Also, keep in mind, when he hugged that night, he was also emotional about losing his brother. Go ahead, see if there is a chance, but make sure you give him a chance to heal from his loss before things go to far.
2006-07-27 13:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what to tell you but you are free to do what you need to do. How do you think this will go across to your ex and what about their relationship as brothers? I would back out of this if I thought it would hurt his relationship with his brother. Family should be forever. Blood is thicker than water. You don't want to be a stumbling block between brothers.
2006-07-27 13:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated this guy for over a year, thought I was in love with him. He cheated on me and we went our separate ways. Shortly after I found myself attracted to his younger brother. We will have been married for ten years this January. So go for it if the two of you have feelings for each other.
2006-07-27 13:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it, you have been divorced for a long time.
Just make sure you can deal with his famly.
Otherwise go for it
2006-07-27 13:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the bang and see if it is good for you
as far as a relationship it would get weird but it can work
2006-07-27 13:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not really since you and your ex are divorced i think its a okay
2006-07-27 13:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its okay because both of you already divorced.
2006-07-27 13:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly okay
2006-07-27 13:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong
2006-07-27 13:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by angelwinks619@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋