her boyfriend kicked her out of their apartment, got with a new girl, my friend went lesbian, and when she got kicked out she had two other friends living with her in the apartment....all of them moved into my 1 bedroom apartment....her son is driving me crazy and she just started working today.....they all have been living with me about 2 weeks now...what do I do?
2006-07-27 13:18:33 · 16 answers · asked by Im just me2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
since my friend went lesbian, she brought her girlfriend the day after she moved in, she stayed for a full week, she just left yesterday and I dont really know when she's comming back, they are all smokers and I am not! just left the habit a year ago! During that first week my grandmother came to town so bascally I was never home, I stayed at my parent's house the first week,m so that first week didn't really bother me at all.
2006-07-27 13:59:43 · update #1
You are not your brother's keeper and that applies to friends too. Sit down with your friend(s) tell them your house rules and give them an amount of time to get themselves together and set a dollar amount for how much they will have to pay you and when.Please get your agreement in writing and follow through with the arrangements. All of what I am saying relates only to your friend and her child...you are not obligated to house "her" friends and their excess baggage. Simply tell them you are sorry but they need to find some place to go ASAP.
OR, you can always tell them that their staying at your place, outs you in violation of your lease. This violation is a cause for eviction (you won't be lying) and they have until the end of the month to find somewhere else to stay. That kind of takes the monkey off your back and gives you a way out that won't offend anyone...not that you should care about offending them anyway.
You need your place to yourself before you lose your sanity, your place and your friend. Good luck and next time when you hear a hard luck story like that, sympathize with them and go on about your business. Learn from this experience and don't allow yourself to fall victim to unwanted guests again.
2006-07-27 13:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you taken it on yourself to take care of her?Why was it your job to take care of her friends? This is unmanagable.
I would say if she is a good fiiend, let her and the kid stay and kick out the two extra people. Afterall this is your place and you have worked hard to get it.
Write down a list of expectations and things you won't tolerate. For instance if you can't tolderate all nite TV noise and they do that, then you can ask them to leave. YOu warned them. Or call security gurads at your apartment to escort them off the property.
Learn the think twice before you are so nice.
And if the baby is not being well taken care of then call social services in your area.
Good luck
2006-07-27 13:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to have a talk with all of the people living in your apartment. Tell them that you are not the only one living in the apartment and that you are not reponsible for all of the rent and money that you have to spend. Also tell them how you feel about all of them living in the apartment and how the 2 year old is driving you crazy. That is what I would do.
2006-07-27 13:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by J-Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a comfortable figure and that i moved out of the abode at 19 even as my toddler got here. i trust that the daughter and the baby might want to be able to stay at abode because she needs each and every of the help she will be able to get pretty if she is going to varsity. Who knows how lengthy the daddy will be round? they are not married and that is extra of a reason she might want to change into autonomous. the daddy might want to both make a contribution or commence saving his income right into a joint account so as that it will both get an section to stay. The daughter has made a mistake besides the undeniable fact that to make her study the hard way isn't the answer. undergo in options the its no longer the baby's fault her mom isn't autonomous and it takes a village to strengthen a toddler.
2016-10-15 07:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got a little girl and got kicked out to. Just help her out a little bit and give her time to find a place no so much for her but the baby. In the end you will feel better cause you will know that the baby had a save place to live while the mom got on her feet.
2006-07-27 13:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very unthoughtful of them to probe into your privacy and taking advantage of you. I believe you did it because u have a kind heart and u have great sympathy for the little kiddy. But things are not going too well because u r living in a very crammed apartment. Suggest you tell her that her friend's must go as it is over-crowded and it is not good for her kiddy. Take it from there and see what happens ok. it is normal for 2 year old kiddy to be 'nautty'. it is their natural learning cycle when they starts to learn, climb everywhere and 'damage' everything. lol
2006-07-27 13:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your girl went through some drama.. so I would let her stay. As far as the rest of the friends, they can find a place ASAP. As for your friend, remind her that you are not her baby sitter. Draw some boundaries. Offer to help her look for a place to live.
2006-07-27 13:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too nice. I would NEVER do that for my friend. I say, you kick them out. Give them an ad from the newspaper with homes for sale so they won't think it's the end of the world.
2006-07-27 13:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie! I would give her no more than 3 months to get out only because she is your friend and at the moment she lives with you. However, you need to lay down some ground rules. 1st being that she needs to control her child.
2006-07-27 13:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by black beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that she put this baby up for adoption to a loving, 2-parent family home!!! What she does then with herself, only effects her.
2006-07-27 13:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋