Why can't I feel like a valuable person? Why do I have to fear life and be so afraid to step out? Is there a way around this? Can I make it right/better? Is there a way I can feel better about myself?
2006-07-27 13:17:18 · 18 answers · asked by MyCompass23 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I reckon you need to get a hobby and stick to it. Reason why? Well, it will allow you to focus on something you love doing, and not wondering about the bad things in life.
You need something to look forward to everyday/week/month. Even if the hobby is a once a month thing, if you love it enough, you wont stop thinking about it.
Another thing is your self esteem. Everybody is valuable, and the 9/10 chance you feel invaluable is because someone said something to you that you dont like, and it gets you down whenever you think about it.
Good luck, trust me on the hobby thing, and by the way, wear sunscreen!
2006-07-27 13:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nick K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are clinically depressed, then as someone else suggested, you should seek a doctor or a psychologist. If not, then just know that everyone feels this way at times and is searching for something meaningful in their life that gives their existence value. As for what you say about "fearing life," I wouldn't be too quick to believe that sort of idea. Just because the average person recklessly pursues strong feelings and goes out and does whatever feels good at a particular moment does not mean that you have to do the same! This is the perfect opportunity for you to just sit down and analyze your thoughts and feelings. Investigating and improving in particular skills or ideas of interest can be engaging and also make you feel as though you are making the best use of your potential.
The best thing you can do though is to recognize that thoughts and emotions, in general, are quite temporary and have many different causes. If you think that your life isn't exciting enough, I think you should look at it from a different perspective and see your life as very peaceful. Look at how everyone is torn apart by passions, and rather than having the expectation that you can only be happy if you are in a jubilant mood all the time, be content with a steady, peaceful mood that is only very slightly joyful. The main things that make me happy are fulfilling small goals that I set on a daily basis, successfully controlling my mind and body, and finding new ways to live a more moral, peaceful life. If you have a religion or particular philosophy that engages you, that is a very good place to look for meaning in life and try to live in the best way possible.
The wonderful thing in hindsight about being in a state of mind where you are unhappy with the way that you are living is that you have more motivation to improve your life and plenty to learn from the experience about how to avoid such suffering in the future.
2006-07-27 13:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Clueless 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humans by nature are perfectionistic and are imperfectable. We set higher standards than we can achieve because our imagination excedes our abilities. That much is constant. Our emotions are infinite in the way of having no ends, like a thing would have, but everything else in life measurable. Treat yourself better and when you discover the correct treatment for yourself, you shall feel better. Burning of that fear with physical excersize should help in many ways. To be responsible for yourself in this way is your first duty to others. Try to be realistic and accept that you and reality, while not being fully reconcilable to each other, may experience some satisfaction in being for each other. Feeling love first gives hope. Know love as being self supporting is your acceptance of the inner experience as strength independent of the objective reality. Love is the ideal, the only idea worth having.
2006-07-27 15:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to find the reason why you feel like that first. You may need to look at things differently.
Try to look at things in different angle, and perhaps you will feel valuable. If you fear life and not able to enjoy, perhaps you should try to work form little things first. Try to talk positive, if not, get to know some positive people. Talk out your problems...
Last of all, read the Bible, God will help you in every way. Pray!
2006-07-27 13:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe this is 9 years later! Did not know I asked this. Glad I did, now I can reflect. Times got okay, times got worse. But now I look at this... everyone had a great idea. It was not 1 thing, it was many things. There is not 1 good answer to make your life Worth Living and have Happiness. Smiling now. Thank you everyone! Took a VILLAGE!
2015-02-01 12:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by MyCompass23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of us feel this way once in a while. You will soon find a time, perhaps you have found that already that you were so wrong about the assumption that you made about yourself being unworthy. It is a passing period in everyone's life and ever day is definitely not smooth sailing. There are bumps along the road for everyone.
2006-07-27 13:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Gane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting others run your life.
When you realize that any emotion, idea, feeling, thought, or action that you choose to do is done by your own choice, you then have the responsibility and right to create in yourself whatever you desire.
You alone choose how you feel.
Start by volunteering at an independent daycare, or nursing home.
Start work in a church, or social club.
When you are helping others, you help yourself.
Feed the homeless, visit prisoners, or widows.
You can only keep as much as you give away.
2006-07-27 13:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by Honesty is the best policy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are depressed. Honey, go talk to doctor. They can help. It will also help if you can find anyone to talk to. An adult that you trust. The doctor can often advise you of someone to talk to if you don't feel like you have anyone. I often get depressed and I don't leave the house for days. Some days I have to make myself get out of bed to shower. I sleep until about 2:30 everyday. I am depressed and feel the things that you say you feel. It just happens. I just pray and things start to look better that way. Everyone is different. I hope you get to feeling better soon. Take care of yourself.
2006-07-27 15:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can make yourself a valuable person. make a list of all the qualities that you think make a valuable person, think about what you can do to become like that, and then start trying to do so. then realize that you dont have to become that perfect person to be valuable, but that the act of trying each day to be as good and awsome as you can be is what makes you already a valuable person.
2006-07-27 13:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by dolphin_chic_15 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is like a roller coaster you simply go up and down with the flow. Keep in mind that things will get better and that you can do more for yourself to keep up.
2006-07-27 13:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋