Why do women go downhill once they get married?

Question

They gain weight, stop wearing makeup, chop off their hair, and dont dress up. This happens almost immediately after marriage. WHy?

There are no kids in the equation. Housework doesnt take all day!!! Least you can do is look good for the man who pays your bills!!!

Answer 1

they feel there's no need to impress anymore.

Answer 2

Things change and that's how life goes! It is our choice to not wear makeup or to cut our hair. What is the point of dressing up to do house work? It doesn't happen to every woman that gets married and it isn't always immediately after that it does happen. There must be something going on in the marriage for the woman to "go downhill" and usually it has something to do with their husband! Try treating your wife with a little respect and tell her that you love her more often. You guys tend to push women "downhill" then complain about it after you do it!

Answer 3

To give you a serious answer sometimes women feel that there is so much that they have to accomplish in a day that there is not any time for it. I know that women that have children soon after marrying can feel like they have lost their identity and they are overwhelmed. If you want to help your wife and this is happening to her (whether children or not) give her a reason to get dressed up. And I dont just mean take her to dinner and to a movie I mean take her dancing or to a show. Take a moonlit stroll on the beach. Or better yet go get her a beautiful dress tell her to wear it tonight and take her out to the most romantic resturant where there is dancing and continue to tell her how beautiful she is. Sometimes this is all it takes to help a woman feel like she is worth it. Marriage can be very hard on a woman and sometimes things have to be sacrificed and unfortunately taking the time to get dressed up is the first to go. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Because once the couple is married, the man does not think he has to work at the relationship anymore. He figures that he's got the girl and thats all there is to it. He doesn't show her respect and love, and fails to bring romance into the relationship. The woman's efforts to be pretty are not appreciated so it's no longer neccessary.

ps. modification
besides, women dont always wear make up and dress pretty, only when they are going out. That's how she is most of the time, relaxed and herself. As a married couple, the man finally gets to see that

Answer 5

I'm a woman and I am not sure of this either. I suppose since they feel secure and there is no longer a need to impress, they don't think they need to get all dolled up anymore;

I like to get dolled up, married or not!! I didn't do it for him; I do it for me!! "You look the way you feel", not to mention, it is nice to get dressed up and stay fit for your man and even if he doesn't notice, you can make certain that he'll notice when you don't!!

However, if they have kids, they won't get dolled up as often bc it takes up too much time and they end up neglecting their own physical and emotional needs for the needs or their kids. Which I agree, kids always come first; but you do have to take care of you too, otherwise, you'll end up being in a position to not be able to tend to your kids needs.

Answer 6

Let me see....

1) I gained weight because I had a BABY.

2) I seldom wore make-up to begin with.

3) I cut my hair shorter so it could be healthier. It needed it.

4) I seldom dress up anymore because I am a teacher of young children. I get snot, dirt, paint, and glue wiped on my almost daily. We seldom go out, so it wouldn't make sense to dress to the nines just to sit around the house.

5) When I have enough energy I go to work with screaming kids from 7:15 - 3:15, come home, do the laundry, dishes, and any other housework, take care of the kids, cook supper, prepare my lesson plans for the next work day, make sure the diaper bag is packed, etc. Finally get to bed around midnight by the time hubby and I have our intimacy, and the kids are asleep, wake up with the baby at 4 A.M. to feed her, alarm goes off at 6:15. Then it starts all over again.

It is a proven fact that if you want your woman to be satisfied more often, help around the house as much as possible so that she actually HAS THE TIME to spend on herself.

Answer 7

Yep and men stop showering as often, start farting in bed and at the dinner table.. take their clothes off and just dump them on the floor for their wives to clean up for them.. leave the toilet seat up as if they are the only one that has to use the rest room.. start projects that they never finish, pick their noses, stop being romantic, start drinking like a fish, come home constantly from work in bad moods.. Oh i dont know why women would suddenly fall in to depression realizing they married a "CHILD" instead of a man..and fall into the gaining weight , not caring mode?.. Stop actting like men have zero factor in the way women do what they do..

Answer 8

Because all their energy that was once put into finding the right mate can now be saved for other things - career, children, looking after house and husband. Also, quite a large part of the chopping off hair and not using makeup is to reduce signals of sexual availability to other men who are not the husband - so you see, none of it is selfish, and definitely none of it is wilfully designed to irritate you. As for putting on weight, I think women are probably happy to be able to relax from dieting in order to get a man - they may (sometimes wrongly) think that if a man loves them enough to marry them he won't mind a few extra pounds. And not dressing up - probably too tired, I dunno. Is a married woman's most important job to be permanently attractive to her husband? I'm not sure...I don't understand marriage myself - but I don't think it is.

Answer 9

They are too complacent after married. They thought everything will be fixed and fine as it is, so they subconsciously ignored their external appearance and behaviour.
Actually husband should do the reminder and compliment, but beware some women might feel sensitive.
To lead a better marriage life, both wife and husband must be receptive and open to opinion positively.

Answer 10

I've ALWAYS had short hair, NEVER worn make-up, and NEVER dress up. AND I lost weight after I got married and lost even more AFTER having four children. I'm about to attend my 20yr reunion and don't look a day over 25.
Perhaps you are being way too shallow. I have only gone uphill.

Answer 11

Because the men get 'beer bellies', only put cologne on when they go out without her, and don't treat her as nicely as he did when he was dating her. They point out all her flaws, ignoring their own, tell her how worthless she is, expect her to do all the housework, hold a full time job, cook the meals, do the laundry, pick up after him and the kids, when the only thing he has to do when he gets home is plop down and use the remote control. Anymore questions?