well thanks for the answers guys! this is something serious. they've been married for 5years now, sort of like an accident. baby (as you all know). we met here in hongkong and we both felt like we can be together for the rest of our lives. i really am deeply in love with him and believe me i am motivating him to be stronger for his family but he plans to do the other way around. he wants us to get married, same wish i have but tell me is it wrong to follow our hearts? his wife in phil. doesn't know about me yet but they plan to talk and i'm scared. what should i do? should i go on with him and get married or break up?
2006-07-27 12:08:26 · 11 answers · asked by inlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to follow your heart is not wrong...it depends on where your heart will lead you..what i know is that once you're married in the philippines you cant get a divorce..so i dont know how can you get one..that's jsut one of the issues..another thing is, a lot of people will get hurt here..his wife, the child, you and the guy..whereas if you choose to break up, it's gonna be just the two of you..well this is just one of the consequences of your actions..i guess you didnt thought about it before things get out of hand..although in fairness to the situation, there's not telling your heart whom to love, sometimes we need to use our head too even if just a little :) love most of the time comes in the most unexpected way and it doesnt choose who...if you both love each other, you must be ready to take the consequences of your actions..but if there;s a chance for you both to tke a 'breather'; like stay away from each other for the time being, do so..and do your best not to think of each other and go on with your separate lives..if it doesnt work, then, do what your heat wish and hope that it will work out ;)
2006-07-28 01:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by just me:) 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is not serious, this is pathetic. This is the American Dream, turning into the American Nightmare.
This country is all about moving up, moving on to better things - since when did that become part of our creed for marriages.
Guess what - you dream partner is nothing but a cheating, lying, deceitful, spineless jelly fish who is incapable of committing to any women. And you - you are the sucker who is playing "Who wants to be the next Mrs. Right Now".
I don't care what his excuse is for the cheating on his wife, the truth of the matter is he is still married, and obviously not making an effort to stay married (no matter what he says). And this is the guy YOU want to marry?
If I could recommend one thing, I would recommend counseling - to figure out why you have such a low self esteem to let your self get tangled in such a dirty web.
2006-07-27 19:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options...
You can continue this vicious cycle of so-called love..Please know..If he isn't faithful to his current wife, what in the world makes you so sure he will not do the same to you? Remember...what goes around comes around.
Or..you can do what I hope you parents taught you. TO be a respectful young lady and get your own man. This guys is married and has a family. What more needs to happen before the light comes on in that skull of yours that you call a brain.
Regardless of the situation that's going on with him, you, and his family. The most important factor is...He's married.
period end of story..
2006-07-27 19:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by WhatEVER27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy has a child and a wife? I guess the relationship between them is not that good otherwise he wouldn't have cheated her.. however it happenend to me as well that I fell in love with someone who had already a gf.. but ur situation is different.. is he really sure that he wants to remarry so quickly? and what about u? I think u shouldn't jump the gun on it... Don't rush!!
2006-07-27 19:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lemi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is dating you behind his wife's back dont you think he will do the same behind your back after you two marry?
if he keeps you a secret from his wife, dont you think he will keep another women a secret behind your back after you two marry?
you should break up with him. he is not a man. and your not a woman if you are dating a man who is married. cant you find someone else who is single????
leave the man alone. tell him to go back to his wife and have a life with her. fix problems between them.
you need to move on and live your life with soemone who is NOT married.
2006-07-27 19:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dating a married man? You should of never done that in the first place...Karma's a b*tch!!! Leave him alone and let him figure out what he needs to do...
2006-07-27 19:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say if you're just the other woman or if he's actually separated. If you're "the other woman" hun run!! If he's willing to cheat on wife number one who's to say he's not willing to with you as wife number 2
2006-07-27 19:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not only messing with your lives and his but what about the kids? Please put some serious thought into this whole situation the is other people's lives you are dealing with
2006-07-27 19:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Candice S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh crude, you had a baby with a married man...oh boy...Leave him, he cant marry you he is already married.
2006-07-27 19:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get married just as soon as he gets a divorce that way your marriage is legal
2006-07-27 19:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋