Is it OK to be a loner and be positive about it?

Question

I've been a loner through the past 5-6 years and I've been positive about it ever since. Can this cycle help me?

Answer 1

sure it's okay!! some people like you just don't like to be with group of people but there's nothing wrong with that. Just as long as you know the reason why you are a loner, but if your reason is for fear of acceptance or ridicule...uummm understandable but not everyone is like that. It's just a matter of finding the best group or few people that meets your needs and accepts your belief, values, hobbies, etc. nothing wrong with being a loner but sometimes you need to associate urself with others because that's how you would learn. If one of the positive you possess about being a loner is control and discipline of yourself then no need to fear. Just as long as you do it for the right reason but if you prefer to be a loner because of fear of any kind...trust me someone out there would open his/her mind to your being. hope this helps.

Answer 2

It really depends why you are a loner in the first place... some people are loners due to their mental state, some people are loners because they dislike being around other people and some people are loners because they simply enjoy their own company but by the same token some people are loners because they are outcasts... I think if you choose to be a loner then indeed yes you can be positive about it, but if you do NOT choose that way of life you can hardly be positive can you?

Answer 3

Dear Mr Hank,
I am not sure what you are asking, but I do know that if you really do like isolation and really are a loner, then you may want to get tested for a genetic disorder called Pyroluria. Isolation is a symptom. 10% of the population of the world has this disorder although the symptoms are mild in most people. Look up pyroluria on the internet. Humans are social although we don't want to be around others 24/7.

Answer 4

Ever since highschool ended and all of my friends went their separate ways, i have basically become a loner as well, sure i have a boyfriend and my family and people i talk to at work... but when i'm not with those people, i'm usually alone, and i don't mind it at all.... i find that it takes very little effort to occupy myself and being alone i have no one to impress or anything like that.... i don't think there is anything wrong with being a loner, it's much easier than putting forth a ton of effort to make friends that will eventually stab you in the back anyways!!!!! ^_^

Answer 5

If you like being alone, and being a loner makes you happier than being with other people, then it's absolutely fine to be positive about it.

Not everyone prefers being around other people. There's nothing wrong with being a loner if it makes you happy, even if society suggests otherwise. You just like different things than most people, but your preference doesn't hurt anyone so there's nothing wrong with it.

Answer 6

I like to think of it as being independent and happy spending time with yourself. The fact that you don't necessarily NEED people around is a good trait.

I'm sure a lot of us know people who can't stand being alone so they bounce from one bad relationship to another and never seem to be happy.

I honestly believe that if you can be happy and positive about being a loner that is wonderful.

Answer 7

I believe it's okay. I also don't agree with the term "loner" because it implies there is something wrong with being alone and enjoying. Nobody would ever tell an extrovert that they should throttle back some and stay in more. Nobody would ever tell the "life of the party" they are over the top. Yet, somehow it is automatically assumed that those of us who are introverted and introspective are miserable with it. In short, yes, it's okay and it's nobody else's business if it works for you.

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Answer 8

Go for it dude - if you're happy with yourself being a loner then its fine Everyone has a different personality, some people are introverts they like solitude better. I ready in a psychology article that people with introverted personalities tended to accept more stimulation from the world. (over-stimulated) Whereas extroverts filter out stimulation (which is why they are always looking for other people and coverstation. If you're positive dude, then just go with it

Answer 9

Time alone is a good thing man. I love to go hunting and just sit in the woods and watch nature at work, or just go for a ride in my car by myself smoke one and just ride with the music on blast. It gives you time to think without thinking about other people or their problems basically just some focus on you time. Just make sure you dont do it too much becuase thats unhealthy. With all the computers and ways to contact the outside world without any real contact society is already leaning towards that and its not a good thing

Answer 10

A little alone time never hurt anyone. I'm a loner, and I love it. I'd rather be at home with my dogs than out partying with people I don't even know.