How do I tell my parents im gay?

Question

Im a 17 yr. old Spanish male, living in the US, I am gay and dont know how to tell my parents, I feel really guilty and sick like im an evil person, everyday of my life I feel sad, depressed and worthless. I cant take the pain anymore...

Answer 1

There was someone else on here that had a similar problem. Here is my response to that person. I hope it helps you..

This is a life changing situation for you and for them. You might be surprised to know that they may have already guessed the possibility exists.
An honest and open communication is paramount to your happiness. Sit them down and lay out the truth. Dont be surprised if they are a: hurt, b: angry, c: in denial.
If they love you they will come around. They may not always accept your decisions, but you are 17 and making grown decisions. You must emphasise that you need to be happy. Just because this isnt a choice they would make, it doesnt mean it is a wrong choice.
Make sure that you live your life honestly and without regret.
I wish you well..


On that note. I know that the spanish culture really looks down on this situation so make sure you tell them before you tell anyone else.. You need to help them through what your culture perceives as embarrassing to the family.
I really wish you well.

Answer 2

The bottom line is they will love you no matter what. At first yeah it might shock them and they might not talk to you for a while but soon, they will have to accept it. Tell them that you don't know why but men just seem to attract you, and nothing will change it. Tell them how you feel guilty and sick, like you are an evil person, and you just can't change the fact that you are gay...it's just you. And dont' ever think your worthless...theres nothing wrong with being gay. Tell them they are going to have to accept it because no matter what they say it's not going to change they way you are. Good Luck! And dont' worry about it too much...:D

Answer 3

It will take time to muster up the courage to say to you parents that you are gay. But the best thing you can do is wait tunitl the best time tell them.Don't hold the secret too long. You would want to be upfront with them.

So get them together, take a deep breath and say it. how will they react is how you will never know until it happens. It may not be as bad as you think or it may.

But you can not let any one put you down because you are gay. like it or not that's, who you are and it's now apart of you.

God bless you and you are in my prayers. GOOD LUCK .

Answer 4

YOU ARE NOT AN EVIL OR SICK PERSON! Every gay person I've met, I've loved (as a friend). I find them nicer and more compassionate then straight guys. I think it's great that you know what you want and if your parents truely love you for you, then you wont mind. Perhaps work it into a convo. Maybe mention that you met this gay guy and he seemed pretty nice. See how your parents react. Test them first. See if the ground is solid. :0) Good luck!

Answer 5

Research literature on the subject of coming out and if there is someone they respect that will help you, then have them help you. You need to tell them so you can finally be who you are meant to be. You will finally feel free and happy once again. Just tell them that you love them and respect them, but that this is a life decision that you cannot change and that you hope they will love you enough to support you in any lifestyle you may lead, but if they don't then you are sorry that they will miss out on such a wonderful life you plan to live... Good Luck

Answer 6

You are absolutely not evil. Do you have a counselor/minister or some other human being you can share these feelings with? Open your phone book and look up hotlines. These are free and you can speak to someone trained to listen to you and help you.
Regardless of your parents' reaction (positive or negative) you ARE A WORTHWHILE PERSON! Sexual orientation simply is -- it is neither good nor bad. Research indicates that there may even be a biological basis for your orientation.
Please, go and talk to someone -- it's hard but worse to suffer in silence. Please go.

Answer 7

what are their views on homosexuality? of course this is going to be really difficult for you. Most people feel as though theyre letting their parents down. You're not. You're hiding from them and that will hurt them more than you telling them. I'd definately let your mother know first. Father's tend to feel emasculated when the topic comes up, or they used to. Be gentle, pick your words carefully, but TELL THEM. They'll love you (being gay doesn't change that you're their son!) but things will be awkward for a bit.

Answer 8

You don't. You start giving signs, let yourself go... your actions, your ways, your preferences, everything. It's just a matter of time before they realize you're gay. You don't have to tell the world "hey, I'm gay", you don't care, they have nothing to do with it.

If one day your folks ask you questions about it, you can tell things like "I'm not sure I like girls", "I'm afraid ... Maybe... It could be that... and such things.

No offense but some people are just hypocrite, they know when one is gay and they pretend they don't and if you try to tell them, they act like it's the end of the world.

Answer 9

You might wait until you have some time for them to both sit
down with you (vs, when you're all about to get into a bus) ...

But yeah, just tell them. Tell them together.

They are your parents, and they love you.

Clearly, we can't tell how they would react from here, but
you don't want to live a lie and there is no way you can tell
them that won't be jarring to them.

It may suck big time for awhile, but it WILL get better.

Answer 10

No, because you're nevertheless youthful. Wait it out a pair extra years and observe in case you nevertheless experience a similar OR tell them that you imagine your gay and why in case you truly favor to inform them about the way you're at the moment feeling. yet I nevertheless propose waiting it out a couple of minutes longer.