It was two years ago.
He was a married man when we got together.
I've never gotten along better with anyone in my life.
He has done everything to try and make me trust him, but i don't seem to let it go.
2006-07-27 11:52:38 · 50 answers · asked by clevavenus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
definetly marry him...but make him sign a prenup that way if he cheats on you you can take him to the cleaners
2006-07-27 11:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony V 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This man could not have cheated on you if he was married. In details you both
committede adultery against his wife. Then the two of you got together and you
fear the same thing will happen to you by him being unfaithful. You getting alone with
now cause apparently you are not married to him. No one can tell you what to really
do except pray and that way you know you cannot go wrong. I sincerely hope the
best for your future.
2006-07-27 12:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! If he was cheating on his wife when he met you, what makes you think that you're so special that he won't do the same thing to you?
The reason things seem to be going so well with you two is because it is still an illicit relationship. Once you marry him, and the fun, games and sneaking around is over, and the REAL WORLD sets in what makes you think he won't look for excitement someplace else?
A leopard NEVER changes its spots. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-07-27 12:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look familiar. Are you from Boston??? Anyway, NO,NO,NO. It will only be a matter of time before he gets bored and cheats on you again. Obviously if he cheated with you he will cheat on you. You look like you are in your 40'[s, so you should be smarter than that and not stupid enough to think he will change. You already know the answer, or you wouldn't be asking. He can pretend all he wants but eventually another woman will catch his fancy and he will do it to you....
2006-07-27 11:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning this...then you already know the answer. There shouldn't be doubt if you really want to marry this individual, I think the problem will just escalade once you guys are married. Try to sort issues out before making any major decision..get some counseling if you think this will help. Good luck!
2006-07-27 14:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have heard the statistics about marriages, 50% of them ending in divorce. Well, guess what - for marriages that began on an adulterous relationship, that statistic goes up to 75%.
I say, you deserve what you get - marrying someone who had an affair with his first wife to be with you.
The reason you can't let it go is because you know your relationship is based on deceit and illicit sex, and it is just a matter of time before that comes back on you.
Seek counseling.
2006-07-27 11:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you trust him, and why shouldn't he cheat on you? He cheated with you while he was married. He cheated on you later. He IS a cheater, as are you. You two can never trust each other, so do yourself a favor, and stay single. At least until YOU grow up and decide NOT to cheat, or date cheaters.
2006-07-27 12:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you can completly trust him, no. And what does he think about you being the "other woman" in his life? If you messed around with one married man who's to say you won't do it again.....Not to make you out to be the bad gal here but you did do something that isn't very good either.
2006-07-27 11:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already cheated on you, he left his last wife for you so he has proven that he is a cheat. You know the answer to this question, let him go and if you marry him don't come crying wondering why he cheated on you. Girls like this drive me crazy!
2006-07-27 12:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Brooke 32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't have to get married to him, just live with him in the same house that will be sufficient. That will give you plenty of time to realize if he'll cheat on you again, then if he does, you don't have to worry about paying for a divorce.
2006-07-27 12:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by Halal Pig Ok in Islam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart! There is more to life than sex. A lot of things depend on what you want for yourself. When we make decisions to stay with someone like this we usually trade one thing for another. So it is a trade off. Some guys don't cheat and some do. If you take advantage of his guilt feelings you can probably get him to do lots of nice things for you.
2006-07-27 11:59:56 · answer #11 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋