well the thing is that i have this friend that i gave her # to one of my homeboyz and well they wanted to get to know each other! well the talked but then one day he started to go off on her and tellin' her she was a B**** and H** and well all of that! and it made her feel bad! and he only did that b-cuz he didnt want to talk to her nomore! Stupid right! well all im askin' is should i keep on talkin' to him even though he didnt do or say anythin' to me but he hurt my friend? if i keep on talkin' to him am i a true friend?
2006-07-27 11:39:50 · 30 answers · asked by Maria V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you're sure your friend isn't making it up, don't talk to him anymore - he's a jerk.
2006-07-27 11:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by nkasoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're worried about not being a true friend? Ok...first of all he is the one that went crazy on your friend. Isn't that a sign of disrespect towards you on his behalf? I think you should stop and think about in what way does this scenario make him a good friend. I don't think him acting that way is any sign of friendship or respect. If he can't be honest and tell a girl up front that he doesn't like her, then that shows me a weakness and that he may not be honest with you either. Maybe you need to just stop hanging around with each other, or just discuss the problem.
2006-07-27 11:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice you can get is the advise you give yourself. I personally would still be friends with this guy provided he knows how I feel about what he has done. No one deserves to be treated with disrespect no matter what they have done. Ask yourself if you want to be the bad guy or the better guy? Most likely you will get further in life being the better guy. This guy has done nothing to you personally so it should not reflect on your friendship, but if it does then he probably isn't a good friend to begin with. Life's to short to pick and chose what people you want to get to know, so my theory, just get to know everyone, you never know who your missing out on.
2006-07-27 11:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by bbschwarm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they both are your friends. I'd say that you get the story straight, and if that was the reason why your guy friend said all that stuff to your girl friend (because he didn't want to talk to her anymore) then perhaps you could get him to straighten it out with her saying that he didn't mean to call her that it's just that he felt that they didn't click and didn't want to carry on that type of friendship with her. That way, things would get resolved between the two of them and you won't have to lose one of your friends. If you guy friend can't do that, then he probably doesn't see your friendship as much, so there's no point in hanging on to a friendship like that.
2006-07-27 11:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by LTD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He clearly did wrong in verbally abusing your g/f and sometimes women need to band together and step up to help improve the maturity of this type of man by giving him the cold shoulder as a consequence for his own bad actions.
Should you continue to support this man, soon a similar situation may happen to you, and you would like for your girlfriends to stand by you against this person.
Remember what goes around comes back around.
2006-07-27 11:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
straight up = stay well out, cause third parties always get burned.
if thats not an option , then i gotta say stick with the person your closest to - the one who you would go to , if you were in same situation.
Personally id say the girl - as the guy sounds like he doesnt have much respect for women.
2006-07-27 11:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldn't be talking to that boy, he's a loser. He didn't need to say to your friend what he did. He should have just told the girl politely, that she wasn't what he was looking for.
What he did was crude and rude, to say the least, and is someone, you should avoid. Stick by your friend, as you are responsible, for her having to go through what she did.
2006-07-27 11:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you have merely been hit on the arm or somthin incorrect then...nah. in case you have been getting abused tho,to the factor the place you have bruises/bleeding or multiple soreness... then... yea... in the event that they locate out then they could alright take you far flung from her. Now son...pay attention... if your mom is constantly abusing and beating on you...then tell the social centers human beings. they're there to help. If she is thrashing you down then she is doing somthin VERY incorrect. additionally...pray son. God will enable you to thru all issues in case you do.
2016-11-03 03:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't hurt your feelings. All you do is let him know that your not down with him disrespecting your friends. If he's smart he'll apologize for his actions. Obviously don't hang out with both of them together. But don't burn any bridges, never know when you might need some1...
2006-07-27 11:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by ashley.steele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer your own question. If you do continue to talk to him, you will very likely loose your friend. You are going to have to choose which one is more important to you.
2006-07-27 11:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to lose your other friend. It's your choice to stick up for her or not, if you keep talking to him it's like condoning how he acted towards her.
2006-07-27 11:42:51 · answer #11 · answered by singforsingsing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋