my husband has been gone for 8 months to iraq. he comes home on r&r for 2 weeks and everyday he wants us to spend with his family. everything that was done was with them. the only time that we done something alone was when i said something about it. then he would go back and tell his dad that i am bitching about him being around them! And when we were alone he wouldnt talk to me and he acted very misereable. is it just me being jelous or is he pushing me over when it comes to them?
2006-07-27 11:19:26 · 9 answers · asked by better_than_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is being selfish. Unfortunately, most men are. I do not think it is that he doesn't love you as much, he is just selfish and wants to do what he wants to do. Give him a bit of a break considering he has just put his life on the line for his country, but once he returns for good, I would lay down the law and tell him that he needs to take your feelings into consideration and that you love him...
2006-07-27 11:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well neither. Your hubbie is probably looking at it that he only has two weeks and wants to spend as much time with everyone that he can. You are with him when he is with his family so he sees it as you are together and probably doesn't even realize that you are feeling jealous. He is in an awful situation over there and knows that no one is safe while there and wants to make the most of this time with family. Although I am sure he missed you while he was there he misses them as well and needs to reconnect with all his family while home. Make the most of it during the day spend the time with him and his family and be happy, at night make the most of the time you are alone with him and spend it talking and catching up cuddle up with a movie. Don't make him feel as if he has to chose while on r&r or he might come to resent you. They may have his days but you have his nights and those can be great
2006-07-27 18:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been in Iraq since Jan of 05 and he came home six months later for the birth of our daughter and then again in Oct. I was having surgery. He only came home cause he felt obligated and it was the trip from hell. He was cheating on me and didn't tell me until this last March. He took her to Italy at Christmas and everything. I don't want to burst your bubble. And it may be nothing. But I would get your guard up just incase. Good luck.
2006-07-27 19:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by vvvlambert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a tour in Iraq he is probably having some issues with the tour and being around his family such as his father he may be able to discuss those issues. It takes time to adjust to life after such a tour. Please just support him and don't push the issue. I do understand you wanting him all to your self after all its only 2 weeks he is home but be a good wife and just be there for him and do what it takes to make him happy.
2006-07-27 18:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you there when he is with his family ? he probably wants all of y'all to be together everyday while hes home.... two weeks is not that long....you cant make him feel guilty for wanting to spend time with the people who took care of him most of his life be understanding and supportive of him hes had rough year....
2006-07-27 18:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been in Iraq..... how about you just do what he wants since he's only home for 2 weeks? Keep hassling him and he might actually look forward to going back into combat..... you don't want him feeling that way, do you?
2006-07-27 18:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by BrownTown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like something happened in those 8 months and he is't comfortable being around just you. I suggest counseling, as he seems to have forgotten the point of marriage
2006-07-27 18:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his position, he wants to see his family as im sure you would do the same. He also has you with him when he is around his family so hes seeing you both at the same time.
Just remember your the one he goes home with..
Good luck....
2006-07-27 18:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes pushing u over i think that stupid
2006-07-27 18:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋