revised help im a teen mommy?

Question

ok im a teen mommy & i can bearly b w/ out my sweet baby girl 4 5 mins i miss her WAY 2 much & i need tips for when i go back 2 school n 2 weeks btw she is almost 5 months old & n my last Q. i saw that people thought i was meaning like a baby sitter but thats not wut i mean i mean from missing her cuz i feel lost w/ out her she is my world

Answer 1

You need to finish school. Yes you will miss her but your education is just as important as your child. You also need to get yourself a part time job to support that child as she is your responsibility. No one else is going to do it for you. I have kids and they are my world and I miss them like crazy when I leave them with a relative or friend so I can go to a doctor's appointment or run an errand but your child needs to learn how to socialize with the world and you need to learn to be away from your child as well because you do need to go school and work to provide for her.

Answer 2

Doesn't your school have a program that they take care of the child for you and that during your lunch breaks and other breaks you can go and visit her? Our school does that and it's helpful because the daycare system is free and you're always near your baby. If that's not the case then I'd say you'd have to either 1. Get homeschooled or 2. Put her in a daycare service.. but REALLY look into the daycare before you put her in there.. but it can wrack up the bill. But if you don't want daycare then I'd leave her with a sitter that babysits other children about her age.. that's what some people I knew did because it was cheaper and more hands on. I wish you luck.

Answer 3

You need to realize you are a seperate entity that you are not defined by just being her mom and that she's a million times better off with you going to school!! I got pregnant at 17 I know how you feel, but think of this way, if you get an education you will be better prepared to support her and the time you spend with her will be well spent because you'll be less stressed about money and things like that. I missed lots when my daughter was a baby because I worked 7 days a week sometimes double shifts, i did things like watch her sleep, or i spent hours playing with her and reading or singing to her when I was home...she's almost 7 now and we're very close.

Answer 4

Oh honey I am so sorry for you what your are feeling is universal there is not a new mommy out there that hasn't had to go through this no matter what age when she has to first go back to school or work. I know this doesn't make it any easier but you just have to do it. Can your mom be the one to keep her while you are at school? That would make it easier. If not just know there are so many moms out here feeling for you. Good luck and congratulations not only on your baby but being so responsible to go back to school and make a better life for yourself and your baby. High school first then college there are lots of programs out there to help you. E-mail me if you need to talk.

Answer 5

That's great that you love her and want to be with her all the time like that but there is a world out there that you need to consider too right now.

I'm not talking about parties and dating and the mall though, it's education. You want the best that you can give to this precious little bundle and that my dear means you have to get some kind of degree.

You will miss her, a lot in the beginning but it will settle down and you will be able to get on with what you need to in order to ensure the future for you both.

Sit down and make goals then go for them and remember that Heather is your reason for doing all of this.

Answer 6

Hvae you looked into home schooling? Then you don't have to leave her. If you really don't want to do that then your going to have to start spending a little bit of time away from her every day to get used to the fact. Whjat you have to keep telling yourself is that you are doing it for your beautiful little girl who deserves so much in this world. You need an education to raise her and give her the things she needs. Keep that as your motivation. I understand not wanting to leave your baby I have 2 of my own but you have to if you can't be home schooled. My honey's cousin was home schooled and he pretty much taught himself it is a course you should talk to a counslor at school. Good luck and enjoy your baby.

Answer 7

Part of parenting is learning to let go.

I am 27 and a mom to a 2 year old. Every day when I go to work it kills me to leave him.

Hun, it never gets easier but it is what we have to do. Maybe can someone bring her to school so you can visit at lunch?

Just know all parents go through it and you are not alone. Going to school is what is good for you and her in the long run.

Answer 8

I know how you feel, I was a single mother of my now 8.5 month old. I had him C_Section, left the hospital in a day in a half, and went to work when he was a week in a half old to go back to work. I cried for the first few days when I had to leave him... The two things you must do is leave him with someone you ABSOLUTELY TRUST, and not to let her sense or feel that you are upset leaving her, then she will start to cry and not want you to leave, making it harder for you to go to school. Trust me, it sucks, but you have to. Email or IM me if you want to talk no a newer single mom also... [e-mail]

Answer 9

Try taking her pictures. You may be away from her for a few hours, but you have to know that she will be well taken care of and you will see her soon. Maybe that will even make you have a stronger bond with her, you know? Cause you will look forward to seeing her and spend the moments you have with her like it was heaven other than just you being there all the time and taking advantage of the time yall spend together. I am about to go back to work myself, but I don't want to cause I want to be with my daughter. And she is gonna be one next week.

Answer 10

How to deal with the seperation issues?
Oh it is hard to leave your baby. I know. However put your baby in good care, that will ease your mind.And call in on her during your breaks. take a picture and place it in your locker. every mommy goes through this. Just think about the life you are going to give her after school is finished. Good luck!