I have a boy friend who has a fantasy of threesome relationship. He also likes to watch porn. I have suspicious about him cheating on me so I looked on his cellphone message records. I found couple girls sent him messages that were not usual friend relationship. I think he problably had sex with them too because I found used condom in the trash bag but when I convinced him he said that he put it on when he was masterbating himself. I don't think it makes sense cause why do you need to put condom on when you masterbate? I want to break up with him but for some reasons I just can't get over him. I want to catch him bringing the other girl home while I'm not there so I know that I'm not crazy. Can anyone tells me how to catch him cheating? I'm thinking about buying hidden camera. Any suggestions?
2006-07-27 11:07:36 · 24 answers · asked by poohbearprince 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sweetie look men are gonna be men i have my thoughts of my man of 10 months cheating on me but he's with me all the time but for you if your gut feeling tells you he's cheating listen run like hell cheating is one thing but to come back and be with you after being with the other female is something my ex husband use to do that cheat and he even bought me home a std from another woman i had to talk with a social worker because condoms break and things can get ugly and you won't have to worry about him cheating just if you feel he is then he is he can't be much of a man to tell you the truth then leave don't get a camera just to catch him if your heart is not worth him not breaking then leave him he's not worth a camera to see him cheating on you i hope this helped email me at www.puppyluv_1975@yahoo.com if you wonna talk about this stay sweet and good luck!!
2006-07-27 11:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A hidden camera may work pretty well actually. There are also other ways to tell. You ever seen the "Maury" show? In that show they catch cheaters by using decoys. They put the suspected cheater in either a limo or a secluded room together. The guy thinks that they are both waiting for someone to talk to them about the show that they're going to be on. The woman is the decoy. She tries to entice him and if he goes for her then he is a cheater. Maybe you can try getting someone who's really good looking to come onto him. If he tries to get physical with her then she can just leave and report back to you. Or you could just ask around. His friend will probably just cover for him, but if those friends have any girlfriends then they may be more sympathetic toward you. One more thing. No guy needs to wear a condom to masturbate. it's a waste of a perfectly good and somewhat expensive condom. If a guy maturbates at least once a day then using a condom would not be cost effective. Also the up and down motion of a guy's hand is a lot faster, harder and rougher than when the condom enclosed penis is inside a woman (or guy, what ever floats your boat). Chances are he used it on someone. Let me know how it turns out if you can.
2006-07-27 18:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont really know if hes cheating, but if he cant even be honest about the condom thing and the texting of girls, why bother with him. You dont want to fight with porn and dreams of threesomes, thats his desires not yours. Let him go. You dont need to catch him doing anything. Just tell him you dont approve of his behavior and move on.
2006-07-27 18:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop playing around and let that loser go. If your inner woman says that he's cheating AND your common sense tells you he's cheating, leave him alone before you get hurt even worse. He must have thought you were retarded when he said that he put the condom on to masturbate!!!
Let trash go be trash in a dump, not in your heart!
GIRL POWER!!
2006-07-27 18:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Lilstrawberry112 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're suspecting him cheating on you, then obviously the relationship isn't worth working on, because if you confront him or ever catch him cheating on you, he'd still be doing it to the next person he's dating, so therefore I don't think it's worth the shot of trying to catch him cheating on you, plus if you catch him cheating on you, you'd just hurt yourself even more knowing the truth, so I say end the relationship before you get hurt even deeper.
2006-07-27 18:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah get a hidden camera, and try calling the girls on his cell phone, but be nice to them, and they might talk to you. I found out a guy I was dating was seeing four other women at the same time and it was a circus. He left his cell phone at the chicks house that he was gonna marry, and then I was blowing it up when I found out he gave me crabs, and then she asked if I was the chick he was writing love letters too, I was not but I knew the chick who was getting them. Try stealing his cell phone, then answering it to see who is calling him. Take out the battery till he leaves so he cant locate it by letting it ring, them put it back in and later tell him you found it under the couch or something. Good luck.
2006-07-27 18:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know the answer ..u just dont want to let go of a loser like him because you dont really value yourself much, you dont have any pride about yourself, and your just basically in love with the IDEA of being in love......i mean what other reasons could there be for you to stay with a boy who you can OBVIOUSLY see is cheating on you...
am i wrong?
prove it.......
p.s. the clue should have really been when he said he put "a condom on while he masturbated" are U SERIOUS?!!..i am a grown woman and i have YET to meet a man that puts a condom on himself for himself....you have got to be either really stupid or really desperate to stay with him after that OBVIOUS LIE...
2006-07-27 18:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him you'll be at his house at 4:00 pm, show up a couple of hours early. But if you are convinced he is cheating why not just break up with him and find some one new.
2006-07-27 18:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by mistymeadoww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. It is now just about your self respect. You need to value yourself more than a boy who has text msgs from other girls....Work on yourself, school, activiites and life. You will be better off without him. The 3some thing isn't the reason though.
2006-07-27 18:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't need 2 catch him cheating......if the guy really cares for u, there would be no reason for u to suspect he's cheating. I never caught my bf of cheating....i just left the relationship. it wasn't worth the stress...Oh, I forgot to tell you, my exbf and i were together for 11 years before i left.
2006-07-27 20:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋