Has any women on here ever been hit by a man?

Question

It hurts like hell on the inside and the outside. How did you handle it? Are you supposed to fight back or just try to get away? I personally tried to say whatever to make it stop. Or should you become super woman and stab him with the first available object?

Answer 1

I've been there. The first time I just covered my face and let him hit me in the head. The second time he smacked me twice and walked away. They third time, I had enough. I fought like hell. I picked up shoes and anything else I could grab while throwing punches. After that he never hit me again until I put him out and he did that outside while I was holding our baby in my arm.

To tell you the truth I don't know how I handled it. I cried and prayed. I never trusted him again and always watched his hands when he got mad. It's not a good way to live and if you are going through it I hope you can get the strength to get out of it. It's not as easy as people make it out to be but one day you have to decide who you love more: yourself or that man. Hopefully you pick you. Tell that man it's hurting you and if he doesn't stop and try to make it better than you need to leave. Beware of the "honeymoon" period. I fell for it everytime.

The pain is left there in your heart. My new friend just went to lift his hand in the air and I jumped. I had to explain things to him and I have to tell myself that not every man is going to hit me.

I hope things get better for you.

Answer 2

I lived with domestic abuse for a few years. It does hurt.. not only physically but emotionally as well.

I was very young.. was my first marriage.. and I'd do or say almost anything to make him stop.

Eventually it got to the point that he nearly killed me. I never returned home from the hospital.. I just went and stayed somewhere else.

If the same situation were to happen to me today.. knowing all that I do and having lived through it all... I'd jerk a knot in a guy that tried to hit me. I've developed a lot of self defense tactics and have learned to fight from some rather nasty guys.
However, fighting back often just encourages abusers to hit harder, the best thing to do is leave and never look back.

Answer 3

sorry but i watched this growing up, i learned from my mom's mistakes and i walked at the first blow. had to deal with a face that make-up couldn't hide. so i walked. didn't look back just kept walking. now i am happily married to a wonderful man who would never hit a woman or our children. this is the life i never thought i would get and it is wonderful.
men that hit, will hit again they can't help it, they need counseling, and even then if you go back to them, after or during counseling, they hit you again because it is OK, they know that you will tolerate it (because you love them so much). so walk away and keep walking. believe me love doen't hurt if you are with the right person.

Answer 4

Yes, my ex-wife got hit by a man. I spent time in jail. I was released only after the court ordered me to seek Domestic Violence counselling. I completed it, and now there is one less man that is prone to violence. Something similar can happen to your man. Have you considered calling the police anonomously to get information about treatment of DV offenders, and victims. It sounds like you are a victim, and there may even be psychological services for you to deal with loneliness, fear, communication, and/or other issues.

Answer 5

girl I haven't been hit by my man or any man before but I do kinda understand where u're comin from, n of course u're hurt n upset u have every reason 2 b. but don't let him continue 2 hurt u u need 2 find da courage 2 stand up 2 him n let him know dat u're tired of his sh** enough is enough i,m mean how much can a girl really take.but if u keep lettin him hit u n hurt u den he gon keep doin da same damn thing its ok 2 b scared but u need 2 have more respect fa yoself as a female girl if not niggerz gon walk all ovea u n u can't let dat happen. jus stay strong n do u but don't keep puttin up with his bs or any men bs hell with dem.fight back girl n stand up fa yo self.I have much love fa u

Answer 6

Call the cops as soon after it happens and get a restraining order for him to stay away from you ... a man that hits a girl is an insecure SOB . OR try to move far away from him . Anything you do to him will be on selfdfense...

Answer 7

I have. It hurts and fighting back makes things worse on the woman's part. I called the cops a few of the times it happened, other times, I just ran away.
If he hits you first, you can fight back, it's self defense. I don't think you should KILL him though he may deserve it.

Answer 8

I wish he would hit me.And he is not a MAN if he is hittin you cause real men don't hit there woman!
If I didn't kill him then my brothers and uncles and my daddy would have!
So I am going to tell you to kick his a** when he is asleep! And hit ya girl up and tell her to come pic you up when you get done. or you can stab him and be super woman!
Either 1 works for me!

Answer 9

One guy did hit me in college. He walks with a limp now. I fought back like hell and then called my brother and male cousins. Never had that problem again. You need to get out of that situation quick. You deserve better. First throw hot grits in his face and then leave.

Answer 10

my ex-husband got pissed because I asked him to help with the baby, so he grabbed me by the throat and hit me in the face. He is no longer in the picture and allowed the least amount of visitation with my son as possible. Be strong, don't sink to his level by hurting him that could only end up back firing on you. And don't allow yourself to be treated like that. No matter what he says to you, you are beautiful and deserve better.