my gf told me that i am a soft guy , she said i am not like a tough guy. i am handsome , slender.
I care about her a lot.
i pay attention to her , i treat her nicely and i use romantic words when i talk to her. also i never talk loud with her , kind of treating her politly.
but today she told me the way i act and the way i talk is not like a tough guy. she knows i am not gay but she things i am too soft as a guy.
what should i do to be a tough guy ?
how can i change ?
what are the aspects of a tough guy in female's perspective ?
2006-07-27 10:09:03 · 11 answers · asked by Alex Sexy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think she want you to stop putting her up on a pedal-still. Maybe she wants you to talk to her like you would anyone else. Maybe she doesn't want you to worship her, she wants you to be her equal. Maybe she wants you to be more jealous of other guys. She might want you to treat her like she is yours.
Good Luck!
2006-07-27 10:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by meisa777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are who you are. You just happen to be nice! A tough guy to be is a guy who is conerned about how his muscles look and if he can win in a fight. If your gf is saying she wants you to be tougher do something to show her you can protect her (this makes you a strong guy). I dont think she wants you to go out and fight people to show you are tough but maybe she feels that you are not playing the sterotypical role of a man. If you are the one cooking dinner and being "cute" all the time maybe she feels like you are taking over her role as the woman. (not saying that you are gay).
2006-07-27 17:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by KLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change for her, my friend. It sounds like you are a caring and thoughtful person and this is very rare in male or female these days. If she wants a tough guy, let her try out a few ... she'll miss you when you're gone.
2006-07-27 17:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to change anything about you, then she is not the girl for you. I think a man who treats you like a lady is so much more masculine than being a tough guy. I think she is lucky to have someone like you, and if she doesn't know it, it's her loss.
2006-07-27 17:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by rosemary83060 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to him he's ignorant. Women just want a guy that takes charge every once in awhile. being sentimental and poetic doesn't make you less of a man it just shows you have respect. But if she can't accept you for the person you are maybe she isn't the ONE. Don't try to be something your not because then you'll become unhappy with yourself. Make sure your happy and if she loves you that'll be enough for her too.
2006-07-27 17:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not change. Tell her to take you as you are, the way she fell for you.
After a matter of time everyone questions their partners, but not to their faces! That was kinda a bad slip on her part and I am sure she would not really want you any other way.
Don't change.
2006-07-27 17:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by KEOE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is I wish there were more guys like you around here. You seem like a softy but you're a romantic, it's your personality.
2006-07-27 17:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she wants you to slap her around alittle so go and put on the wife beater and show her your tough side
2006-07-27 17:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by deepbushhunter69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sheesh, if i had a gf like that i'd break up with her. if she doesn't like me for who i am then i don't give a damn. there are many fish in the ocean.
2006-07-27 18:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by naruto_otaku 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you - it'll all work out better in the end.
2006-07-27 17:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋