I just found out I'm pregnant with my ex child and he agreed to b suportive although he moved back to home state. The problem is I scared to be alone throughout this pregnancy and the fact I did not care for his oldest child and she did not care for me I will be scared to have my child around her. What should I do.
2006-07-27 09:57:42 · 14 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You will be fine. I know that its scary to be pregnant. I am married and have 4 kids and each time I had a positive test, and we were trying, I was scared crap less. There is always someone that you can talk to or lean on. If you don't have any girlfriends or family to help you during the pregnancy, ask the doctors office for support groups for single parents. There is always someone that will listen to you, go to appointments and classes with you if you need it.
Now, when it comes to the father, you can always go to the state and find out what your legal rights are when it comes to insurance and financial support are. If I were in your situation, that would be the first thing that I did, after my doctors appointment. Just because he isn't in the state with you, that doesn't excuse him from helping you with support. Good luck with this and hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy and baby!
2006-07-27 10:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by brittme 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU CAN DO IT ALONE do it and at some point find a stable man to be a great step dad to help you. Be sure this guy is here to stay before he meets the child. It is a very hard job you will lose a lot of freedom. If you are not ready do the best for the kid allow a 2 parent home with money love support to raise the child. Besides abortion those are your options.
2006-07-27 17:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let fear rule you honey. 2 Timothy 1:7 says that God did not give us a spirit of fear...so get rid of that right now. You are not "alone" just because your ex lives far away. You can make new friends and talk to him on the phone from time to time. About the daughter... she now is going to have a new little sister or brother. You all need to set aside your differences or at least be peaceable for the baby's sake. Calm down. Anxiety is very bad for you and the baby. You're thinking of stuff and making yourself crazy for nothing. The girl's not a psycho....would she hurt her own flesh and blood...does her father have no power or influence over her. Ask the LORD God Most High to give you a clean heart, a renewed spirit and calmness and confidence. This should be a time of joy and beauty for you, not worry.
2006-07-27 17:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. You will be okay. Do you have any family at all around you? I don't think you should worry about his oldest child. You two not getting along probably won't have any bearing on the baby. I mean, she is not going to dislike the baby because you two didn't get along. She will probably fall in love with the baby. It will be her baby sister, man!! It may ever bridge the gap between the two of you. Wish you all the best!
2006-07-27 17:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Author Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make the best out of the situation. Try to mend the relationship with his first child, because you will be connected with them for a long time and the best for everyone is just to get along. When you make Dr appointments try to let him know in enough time to make it to a couple of them. If it is not completely out of the question you might think about patching things up with him, your baby will need him and it will help out alot to have him around for the pregnancy. If not be in a relationship together then at least try living close together.
2006-07-27 17:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by crenshaws_apache 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do at this point. If you were having problems with your ex, why wouldn't you have used proper protection? Now that he knows about it, and will support the baby, he is also entitled to spend time with it, which will include the baby being with his other child. YOu should have thought of all this beforehand.
2006-07-27 17:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have an abortion. Do you really want to bring a child into this confusing scenario? Do you think your child deserves a wonderful family with a mom and a father? If not, join a support group. You can do it! You're stronger than you think.
2006-07-27 17:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by coconut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't much you can do now. You can't not let your ex see his child. It will be tough with him out of state but if he is agreeing to be supportive be happy that he isn't saying forget this I'm not helping you. As far as his other child..not much you can do about that either. I guess youll have to trust him when he has to baby.
2006-07-27 17:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring the child up in the best way you know how. The child's future depends on the decisions you make now. It is about your unborn child, follow your head, heart, & intuition.
you know what your doing.
2006-07-27 17:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by B.Dahlia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your ex out of the loop and do as many other single parents have done, Create a life for the both of you.
2006-07-27 17:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋