My wife thinks its ok to be fat.. I want a skinny wife ..what do i do?

Answer 1

It is okay to be fat! She thinks it's okay to be fat because she thinks you love her already and it won't change but obviously that is not true!

Answer 2

I guess you should have married someone else. Was she fat when you met her, skinny women rarely turn to fat women, those that are a little on the chubby side do. Besides she is your wife, not your own personal swimsuit model. You should love her for WHO she is not what she looks like. On the other hand if you aren't attracted to her then you just aren't and thats something she has to decide whether or not she wants to let go of. You can encourage her, you can work out with her, she knows deeps down its not ok to be fat, its kills you, how is that ok? You can't be rude or mean, that is not going to help you any. You can tell her you simply don't find her attractive anymore, if thats the truth, its hurtful and awful but it is honest and its better than waiting until you are getting sex somewhere else and then springing it on her. Yes, thats incredibly politically incorrect but I couldn't do a fat man either so I can't blame you. I don't know why but a lot of women use having kids as an excuse for getting fat, if anything you should get thinner because you don't have time to eat and you are chasing a child around, probably more exercise than most get in their lifetime. I have three and weigh what I did before I got pregnant the first time, as do my sisters and my daughter and my nieces so thats all just lame bs to me. Fat is a choice as far as I can see.

Answer 3

Wait a minute!
You're a soldier, aren't you?
Didn't you know that most soldiers have fat wives?
I live on Fort Bragg, so I should know.

But, seriously....
There is obviously some underlying problem with the woman if she has let herself go.... Maybe she's depressed. Those deployments can be very difficult, too (especially if she's got young kids in the house).

You should encourage her to join a health club. That will also give her time away from the kids (because most of them have free childcare). You could also suggest a change of eating habits for your entire family (that means you, too!) - no more sweets or junk food for the kids (which usually get consumed by the wife when she's bored or depressed).

Whatever you do, don't criticize the woman.
For goodness sake, it's hard being an Army wife.

Answer 4

I assume that your wife was once thin. Did she gain weight after Child Birth? Either way If you want a Skinny wife. Rather than complaining about her weight Why not try and Encourage her to lose some. Don't make her fight the battle alone JOIN IN. Work out together You'll BOTH end up healthier for it and hopefully have alot more years to spend with each other.

Answer 5

Well, first you need to ask yourself one question, was she "fat" when you married her? If she was, well, guess what you married her that way and thought that was fine, so you're out of luck most likely. If she wasn't, then you need to go about this carefully. Number one, you can't make someone lose weight. They have to want to do it for themselves. Now, it does help if they have an incentive, like, for every 10 lbs. you lose I'll buy you a new... If you really want your wife to lose weight, don't nag her, belittle her, or tell she is ugly. Talk to her about it, if she refuses, then there isn't much you can do. Also, if you are heavy, well, whats good for the goose is good for the gander. In other words, if you are heavy, then why should she lose weight? My suggestion, whether you are heavy or not, work out together, suggest changing BOTH of your diets to a healthier diet with lots of fruit and veggies. I know that this is what my husband helped me with. I have now lost 40 lbs, he could stand to lose some more, but I feel so good, and I am happy with how I look. Also, I don't mind how he looks, I love him anyway. And that's the biggest thing, you need to love your wife regardless. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

You need to grow up. Even if you divorced and found a skinny wife you would find something superficially wrong with her too. Was she big when you got married? Has she had kids? As people get older it's harder to lose the weight in some cases. If otherwise she is a good wife I think the problem is with you and not your wife.

Answer 7

do you nag her about her weight? if so, that could be part of the problem. She might be getting heavier as a (misguided) way to express some independance.

You would be better to get her to participate in physical activities with you. Join a bowling league, go for a walk, go hiking or bike riding.

Remember she needs encouragement, not ridicule. And all in all, you should love HER, not just her body. What if you lose all your hair and maybe she can't stand bald men? Or think about Christopher Reeve, and how much he changed and his wife stood by his side!

Answer 8

Well whatever you do, please don't hurt her feelings. I have no advice, just know how it feels... my husband saw my thickness (I'm tall it carries very well!) and now he's on my nerves. He should have kept steppin. BUT now that you are where you are be gentle about it and tell her you want to eat differently. And don't be lookin at her all funny either. Skipping sugar, bread, pototoes and sugar snacks can help her loose a couple pounds a month. Go for a 30 minute walk everyday after dinner. Hold her hand and never mention her weight. If you mention it, she'll be stressed and guess what: that makes women RETAIN fat. Be careful and loving.

Answer 9

Well, do you love your wife or the body she is in? There is a difference. If you want to force your wife to change who she is on the outside, then you should examine the feelings you have for her. Sounds like you just want a skinny woman who looks good on your arm to me. But, if you really love her and you are actually concerned that her weight is detrimental to her health, then sit down and discuss it with her seriously.

Answer 10

ask her to go on a diet together. (IF YOU ARE NOT FAT EAT WHEN YOU ARE NOT WITH HER) take all junk food out of the house and ask her to try to be healthier. Tell her this is affecting the relationship and she needs to do her part go on a diet. BEING FAT IS OKAY IF you like her that way but if not it is not ok. Let her know that slim women really turn you on and you wish she would loose weight. She would also feel better about her self

Answer 11

You should both be happy, If you wanted a skinny wife u should have married 1, but i think u looked deeper than her looks when you got married, u probably saw her for who she is not what she looks like, but if it becomes unhealthy for her, try exercise..like just walking or something the both of ya can do together!!!good luck!