My Husband likes to stay gone. He will come home at 4:00am or 6:00am. I use to complain but then I finally stopped and start going on about my business. I don't call him unless he calls me and i don't bother him when he goes out. I have gotten fed up and stopped caring. But last night he decides to come home early and I wasn't there. So now he is accusing me of cheating on him. Which I am not. I just have given him the space he has always asked for. So whats His problem he wants space I give it to him now its me who is causing the problems. Im confused I dont know what he wants. One second he wants to be with me and then the next he is evil. Then last night he tells me if i want him to leave just say so. So I told him to go. And he is still there?Whats wrong with him? Am I doing something wrong?I think he is cheating thats why he is questioning me so much.
2006-07-27 09:50:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When he comes home at 4 in the morning he is with another woman, th esecond you feel that he wants to be with you again is when he's having problems of some kind with the other woman. He's only still there because maybe he's got no where to go right now.
2006-07-27 09:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by RICH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen closely,
Bars and clubs close at 2-3AM. He's playing you! Wake up! Jeezus! Women are supposed to be more intelligent than men! He comes home early , wanting you not to be there and wanting you to be cheating to ease his conscience. How do I know this?? I am a Man and did this time and time again in my early and mid 20's with my first wife. Same excuses, accusations and M.O.'s Tell him to leave! and if you tell him to leave do it legally. Take his belongings when he is out cating around getting his booty calls take them to a local storage. That way when he has a place to stay you can give him the key. Change the locks on the doors tell your landlord he left you call the police when they show up and tell them he left you. Then make a false persona and tell him someone loves you more than him (your self) don't tell him who and watch this macho,macho man fall to his knees! LOL!! JUST DO IT! I guarantee this really works..
Out
2006-07-27 17:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's highly unusual for a husband to be gone that much. I think your intuition is correct and he is cheating. Why don't you have him followed? When he brings up that can leave him, if you want to, indicates that he is looking for you to be the one to leave. That way, he doesn't look like the bad guy. If you think your relationship is going to fail, you need to start preparing for it, to protect yourself. You have to find evidence that he is cheating or doing something immoral or illegal. There is no reason for him to be gone that long during the night unless it is for an affair or illegal activity. Either way, you need to get that information. If you leave him without proof that he is doing wrong, then he will make you look bad. If you have kids, you might lose them. Be prepared. Don't let him know what you are doing. Good luck
2006-07-27 16:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, sweetie, but he is up to no good. It is time to ask yourself if you are better off with him or without him. His double standard on behavior is a little scary. Don't expect him to change. He won't. You have to decide whether it is worth putting up with the rest of your life. You might have other reasons for deciding to stay with him. If you decide to seek your freedom, be logical and cover all the bases first including your own safety before you break the news. Definitely talk to a lawyer before you take any steps.
2006-07-27 17:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how can I am cheating on you? you told me not to call you at the office and not to call you if you goes out. unlessyou call me. So, DUH that why nothing I can do and I gave you space and so I went out and do something. If you did want me to tell you then you would change that rules that you made for me to follow. So how can i be cheating???? why didn't you don't want me to call you at work or cell phone??? so that mean you cheating on me? wow, you do cheat on me becasue you too busy scewing woman? You need to have common sense. Tell him that.
Becasue make no sense to me you cheating on him how?? My wife and I always call eachother lunch time to see how it go and she will call me let me know if somethig she need t share or something I need for food store and I do the same thing for her too. It about trust and honest.
Most the time I tell my wife and my wife didn't even have to look at my cellur phone becasue she see her phone bill and she will not ask me who is this or that reason is that becsue of trust and honest and I always tells her before anyone tells her .
I hope that helps your answer you looking for.
2006-07-27 17:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from perspective of a man, he is cheating on you, normall a person will accuse you of something because out of guilt they need reassurance what they did wrong was justified, by saying to you if you want me to leave, he is trying to make this very easy on himself, confort him, explain to him about giving him space, for all you know u both have a communacation problum, if there is infiduality that i suggest you either seek counsling both of you, or wish each others life turns out for the best and move on !
2006-07-27 16:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok - a real quick evaluation of your situation:
he stays gone till whenever he wants and does whatever he wants and expects you to be home waiting on him - sweetie he is a controller and you need to get out now before it gets worse.
the only time someone starts accusing the other person of cheating is when they are either thinking of doing it themselves or are already doing it themselves.
the tramp I left thought he could stay out and do what ever he wanted to. he expected me to be home waiting on him. well when i told him to get out he didn't either, so one night when he decided to stay out i packed up all of my stuff and left him - not much he could do!
take control of your life and leave before something really bad happens. (turns out he was doing drugs and screwing around)
God had his hands on me - he is watching out for you - find the opportunity to get out and fast!
2006-07-27 17:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by lady left the tramp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have his cake and eat it to. Of course he is cheating...that's why he thinks you are. Easier to place the blame on someone else. Only thing you are doing wrong is staying married.
2006-07-27 16:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by vato_loco_in_Texas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule of thumb is "The best defense is the best offense".
There definitely something going on. If you are done with him (really done), maybe you should just pack up and go. Your happiness and satisfaction is whats important. If children are involved, you should pack them up to.
2006-07-27 16:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kwan fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have not doubt. He is cheating. It is obvious that he really doesn't care for you or he would treat you with more respect. you have also stated that you do not care about him. It is time to kick him out for good and try to get on with your life.
2006-07-27 17:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋