I cant stand having sex with her..she is really a bog woman, hard to get turned on.
2006-07-27 09:44:55 · 21 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bog=big ..typo
2006-07-27 09:45:19 · update #1
I would hate it if my man told me I was to fat to have sex with, But I tell you what, that would make me loose weight, Sex deprevation is the worst. I think you should tell her that you would like to see her shed a few pounds and eat more healthy. Maybe you could excersise with her. If she wont then you have a no choice but to find a new woman. Yeah everyone says it's ok to be fat, well only if your spouse or significant other is ok with it. I see why you would be upset about her weight. I myself am a plus size chic, but let me tell you Im not sloppy fat, I wear my weight pretty good. And my man loves me and we have a great sex life. I wish you the best and hope she looses the weight ..not just for you but for herself.
2006-07-27 10:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by saraidan 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, was she always fat? If so, then you're just being petty. But if over the years, she's put on some pounds, the best way to help her is to motivate her and encourage her...and join in some exercise yourself. Tell her that you love her and you're concerned for her health because some of the weight she's put on over the years could adversely affect it. And if you've put on some pounds too, go ahead and point the finger at yourself too...it will make her feel less like a big fat pig, because no doubt she notices she's not a waif. Get active and go for walks. Throw out all the fatty snacks in the house and be supportive of her efforts to lose the weight. The kinder you approach her, the more receptive she will be. She probably feels hopeless right now and as her husband, you married her in sickness in health, richer or poorer, and fatter or thinner...you need to be there for her and give her a chance to get it together. I wish you the best and I hope you don't judge her too harshly.
2006-07-27 09:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting her involved in physical activities you can do together. Maybe the two of you could join a gym, Buy a pair of bicycles and Bike together. Your suppose to be there for her to lean on in her time of need. STEP UP. I'm sure you could probably use a little physical activity yourself. If you both work out together before long you'll also be working out in the bedroom. Sex burns alot of calories. Whatever you do DON'T QUIT. It might be the hardest battle you've ever waged but, I'm hoping you think your marriage is WELL WORTH whatever it takes. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.
2006-07-27 09:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are married you should be able to be honest with your wife. If you want to stay with her you need to encourage her and help motivate her to lose weight. It's very hard to diet and or excersize alone so maybe you can do it with her. Also you need to find out what turns her on. It could be simple stuff such as a kiss on the neck or a massage. Pretty much just be honest but not hurtful.
2006-07-27 10:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by babe112083 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her you hate sex with her...she will feel demotivated...But than the amount of love and respect she had towards you will be way less...In her mind you will be an insensitive A***ole. She might lose weight...but she may never ever feel like making love with you again.
She will have a mental blockage when making love towards an uncaring biotch like you. So it is better to tell her gently that she needs to work hard and lose weight. Motivate her and aupport her..she will not only lose weight but will LOVE you more for helping her and motivating her.
2006-07-27 10:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Someday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty is the best for you!!! If you are unhappy in your marriage and sex life then I think you should do something about it. Trust me I am going through a divorce right now, it took me a couple of years to get the balls and shout I want a divorce. A good friend of mine sat me down and told me that you get one chance in this world there is no coming back and doing it all over!!! You need to be happy in life, you only get one.
2006-07-27 09:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a b*tch! You're thinking of f*cking your black skinny friend huh! Of course your wife should be pissed off! With a a**hole husband like you! Of course she should be suspicious, you hate it that she's fat and you want to f*ck some other girl! Go around asking people for advice and putting it in a different way so people would answer like how you want it to so you'd feel okay to have an affair! You selfish dumba**!
2006-07-27 10:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by lila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER . she may go on a diet and lose weight if you tell her you are turned off. It may hurt at first but she needs to at least know so she can do something about it. If not tell her about weight loss surgery
2006-07-27 09:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by LETICIA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ACCEPTED HER THE WAY SHE WAS AND YOU SHOULD LEARN TO LIVE WITH THAT HAPPILY.
NEVER TELL HER YOU DISLIKE HER BEING FAT.
BUT IF YOU ARE VERY ATHELETIC AND WORK HARD TO KEEP YOURSELF IN SHAPE THEN ASK HER TO PUT SIMILAR EFFORTS FOR YOU.
PHYSICAL APPEARANCE IS EXTINCTIVE ITS WHAT IS INSIDE THAT COUNTS.
I THINK YOU NEED TO IMPROVE IN THINKING AND YOU WIFE SHOULD STAY PHYSICALLY FIT.ASK HER TO DO THAT.SUPPOT HER FOR THAT.GIVE HER SOMETIME SHE CAN CHANGE HERSELF.AND THAT DAY YOU'LL BE THE PROUD MAN.
2006-07-27 10:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by theoden of rohan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you intend to get hit or divorced. Try something encouraging instead "Hey, I'd really like to take walks with you..." or something of that nature. Unless you intend to crush her spirit and leave her - dont say it.
2006-07-27 09:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by Strange question... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋