my moms acts fake peppy, Really fake. and always way too damn happy. all the time and tries to act perrrfect. its annoying the **** out of me like shes the damn stepford wives or something what to do? im 20 and we dont live together btw!!!
2006-07-27 09:32:48 · 38 answers · asked by linseyleigh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my mom is the same way.. I have to just suck it up and let her be her.. I tried to talk to her about it and she just gets pissed so I just let her be and try to avoid public interaction as much as possible
2006-07-27 09:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by michelle_az_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It merely shows the way you've became out to be amuch smarter individual than she is. the final analysis is, she remains your mom and also you need to't administration what she does in her existence. What you may do is attempt to stay a existence it really is sturdy and accountable and one it really is not any longer fake. She isn't your responsibility in existence, she is her own responsibility. in case you father is on thes ame web page as you, get your suggestion/help from him and merely attempt to make it by the terrific few years until eventually you could start your own existence. yet no remember how "undesirable" your mom is, under no circumstances alienate her through way she acts. save her on your existence because she is relations and also you need to save relations close. It does no longer mean you'd be desiring to develop into like her.
2016-11-26 19:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by leitner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer a question that doesn't have this little information, but let's see:
Your Mom probably is putting on an act in order to convince herself that she is happy.
You are 20, an adult, and no longer live at home -
Then TALK TO HER. Don't say "you annoy me" etc. Just ask her why she feels this way, why she must pretend, etc. the answer might surprise you.
2006-07-27 09:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't live with her and it annoys you, then it's your loss for not understanding your mom better.
That fake, preppy, always happy go-lucky gal gave up a lot of her life and went through labor to have you. She changed your diapers and cleaned up your messes as you got older too. You darn well know that.
You should be ashamed to complain about your Mom having a positive attitude and a positive outlook on life.
You obviously reacted against this, you ingrate runt of a son.
Regardless, your mom still loves you and I'm sure you still love her.
It's all good.
2006-07-27 09:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by rightonrighton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On your next visit take a bottle of nice wine. When you have her off guard start a real conversation. If she answers with a "stepford wives answer" call her on it...Good Luck
2006-07-27 09:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by Clayton J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are not going to follow in moms footsteps so you are already breaking the cycle. Let mom be mom even if that means for her being fake. I have an older sister who is the same way and I hate it but i've learned that people eventually see what's genuine and what's not. Just continue to be true to yourself and continue loving your mom unconditionally.
2006-07-27 09:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Shikibeeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 20 years old and don't live with your mom, you can keep your distance and just visit with her from time to time. How your mother behaves is none of your business. I should think that by now, you would have a life of your own to live.
2006-07-27 09:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.King 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is one of the hardest things for kids to accept is that their parents are people too. They have made mistakes, they have learned many lessons. Once a child(no matter the age) learns that and accepts that about their parents, then and only then can they move on and have a wonderful relationship with them.
2006-07-27 09:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask God to help you to not be angry with your mom. You don't sound like a Christian, but He really does want to help you and be there for you. You need to accept him. Just meet him halfway and whatever you're going through He'll help you with it. I'm a teenager, but I'm old enough to understand. Just have faith that you're gonna get through with God's help. I'd like to talk to you more sometime if you don't mind. Just try to calm down and then talk to her about it. Don't be all worked up when you decide to talk to her about it because you'll end up totally exploding on her and then the situation will just be worse. But believe me, there are much worse problems out there. I just got back from El Salvador on a church trip and I saw so much poverty and abuse and drugs and just stuff you don't even want to see. But I didn't realize that one of my very close friends was and is still being verbally and occasionally even physically abused. Just calm down and try to get through to her gently.
2006-07-27 09:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by bcuzihatehim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mother before I was 15...there is not a day I don't miss her. My daughter and I arent talking. Not since Oct. of last year, and I hate to say it, but my life has improved . She made the decission, she's over 21, and I wish her well.
2006-07-27 09:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it bother you if your mom acts a certain way? Maybe she's not being fake at all maybe you just have a problem with happy people.
2006-07-27 09:36:54 · answer #11 · answered by Airam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋