My wife does not let me fondle her breasts when we start making love.She does let me do it when we are in the middle of it.I think one should start with breasts.Am I mistaken?
2006-07-27 09:30:48 · 16 answers · asked by BlueLens 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its her body and she knows it best.. if she likes it after she is excited then go with it.. that way you make her happy and get good sex.. lol and who the hell cares if its normal.. ( what is normal).. shes telling ya what she likes.. just go with it
2006-07-27 09:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by michelle_az_22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I don't prefer to start there...the breasts are a great place to start IF you like and your partner likes, but if not, either ask her...or start someplace else. Everyone gets turned on differently on a consistent basis, as well as differently each time. It could be that she does not like or feel a great sensation there until she is aroused. Then again, it could be you are too rough, or approaching it incorrectly. Ask her if her preference is the nipple or the areola. The outer and upper part of the breast have the most nerve endings, so maybe you are trying too hard on the nipple? Gentle caress, hot breath and a little tongue go a long way. Perhaps even a little ice cube and hot tongue. Again, ask your wife what trips her trigger. Knowledge is power.
Also, be happy your wife is telling you her likes and dislikes. This will lead to incredible sex and with the knowledge of how to turn her on!
So worst case scenario, you pretend you are Magellan, and explore her body in other places to turn her on. Try gently sucking on her toes, kissing the small of her back, hairline, eyelids or the inside of the knees. Perhaps a gentle tongue along her ear, or practice your cunnilingus. Practice makes perfect! :)
2006-07-27 16:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by BlueFire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I am the same way so I would say that she is pretty normal! The only thing is usually I am really excited before we actually have sex its normally I don't like them touched durring the begining of 4 play but after I'm aroused I'm fine. My breasts are very sensative and hurt when touched when I'm not aroused I have been like that since I got pregnant and once I had my baby it never changed....my son is 3 now!
2006-07-27 16:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by I wanna stay on maternity leave! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are very, very mistaken and here is why.....If its normal for her then its normal and would you like for your wife to try to start a sexual encounter with something you didn't like? Do NOT try to change it, don't try to get her to see it your way, she doesn't like it thats the end of it. This isn't about right or wrong or normal or abnormal, its about thats who she is and if you want to get where you want to get you will stay away from her breasts until the middle. Everyone has things like that, I can't stand having my belly button touched, ewwwwww, i don't know why, it may not be normal but it isn't going to change so if my man insisted on doing it because thats where HE thought he should start, he wouldn't be getting laid anytime soon and since he wants to get laid he doesn't touch my belly button!
2006-07-27 16:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why she doens't like u to touch them at first, but will allow u to touch them later on, maybe she just gets distracted later.. anyway, ask her genuinely , not in the middle of when you are having sex of course! whatever she says, respect her wishes and don't put pressure on her to change her opinions about the matter. tell her you loooove her breasts and they are beautiful. that might help too! :) good luck
2006-07-27 16:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, whatever rocks her socks as long as it involves adults is normal. Obviously, you and she have different ideas of what is stimulating when. That's okay, as long as you can respect her desires and stay down low until things are really moving around.
2006-07-27 16:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels akward and sensitive. Trust me. You should be kissing her first, and carressing her to get her excited. Sometimes all that groping really hurts. Give it some time. Goodluck.
2006-07-27 16:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start by asking a normal question.
2006-07-27 16:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is very sensitive and or does not feel pleasure and prefers you fondling them only when she is aroused. Ask her.
2006-07-27 16:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sucking on the nipple first see if she is up to that. I prefer the sucking over pinching and groping
2006-07-27 16:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋