all the people i know call me gay or gaywod im really getting angry at it. i swear im not gay. i like girls and not guys. im 12 years old and male. not gay!!!!!!
2006-07-27 09:24:38 · 17 answers · asked by jjhghgfhgfgfhfuytf t 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
stop worrying about it soo much
theres a dude like that at are school
the more u whine about it
the more they will bug
and think ur gay
2006-07-27 09:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably have different views on this than I do, so you should go to them for advice. I'm sure they wouldn't appreciate a stranger handing out advice to their son.
You should talk to your parents about it.
*Ahem* But if you want to know what I would say:
My advice if you were my son, would be to learn some boxing moves, and beat the hell out of them. But that's just me.
If you go with my advice, don't back down if you see your own blood. Make him bleed and then let up when he runs off crying like the cowardly bully he is. That's the fastest way to get respect with other boys your age. Show no fear. If you're really hurt, fight through it, unless it's like, hospital serious, then go to the doctor and then learn more moves and go back and try something else with him.
But, your parents if they're anything like most parents are today, would say that violence doesn't solve anything or something like that. Or that you should turn the other cheek. Let me tell you something kid: You will be miserable if you don't stand up for yourself. Insulting them with your best and wittiest words will either A. make them want to beat you up B. Garner no results because they are too stupid to know they were insulted or
C. Make them laugh at you and just pick on you the next day.
Ignoring them will either A. make them do it more because they think your a wuss, or B....well...see A.
Telling the school to tell them to leave you alone will A piss them off and make them think you are a wuss because you have to bring in the adults to fight your battles for you or B. Make them really angry and want to hurt you because it went on their permanent record.
Clearly your only choice is to hurt them.
The movie version of boys overcoming bullies through verbal insults or whatnot, is complete fiction. That never happens in real life. Unless the bully isn't a real bully and he's a complete wuss and runs away crying if you call him a pansy.
I would have been a lot happier had I played the insane chick flying off the handle angle. Sorry kid, as a boy, you have it tough, and society today doesn't understand you. They want to castrate men these days. Don't let them do that to you.
But, that's just one persons opinion.
2006-07-27 09:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by militantfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me!" ?
It is a way of dealing with hurtful names, stupid kids label others. I have a 12 year old boy, who has been called 'gay' too. It upset him and I told him that it is just the way boys try to make themselves look better than others. Not a nice thing to do, but it happens.
You have to just let the names just slide off of you and don't take them to heart. You know you aren't gay. Once you start dating, they will see that you aren't.
Kids can be so cruel. You need to learn to build up yourself and look beyond the taunts. It really does make them look bad.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 09:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, don't worry about what they say, if they think your gay its probably b/c u have a better sense of fashion than they do. When you start high school gurls will be all over you believe me, i'm a senior in high school and i think that guys with a good fashion sense are hot! and plus you will have a clean slate to start off of, so don't sweat it, and if they keep tellin you that your gay, then punch em! they're jerks!
2006-07-27 09:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are just making fun of you. Tell them it hurts your feelings. If these are your friends and they don't stop, get new Friends. If this is happening at school tell your teacher or guidance counciler. Talk to your parents about the problem. You are not alone. May teenage boys and girls are judged and made fun of the best thing to do is try to ignore it and seek someone to talk to about your problem. The problem may simply resolve itself once you are older and go though puberty and start dating.
2006-07-27 09:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u want ppl to no that u are not gay just maybe one of ur really close friends (it has to be a girl) will do u a favor and give u a kiss in front of everyone so ppl will no u r not gay.
2006-07-27 09:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by armpitt_spray44350 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. People who are getting older spread rumors that are not true. Especially kids around age 11-13.
2006-07-27 09:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me & my friends call each other gay all the time for no reason just if someone says something dumb or for any reason, just forget about it
2006-07-27 09:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by a8enyne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just chill out and be secure in who you are. kids are cruel to one another because of their own insecurities. i know it pisses you off but the more it angers you and gets a reaction from you the more they will say things and tease you. i remember being your age and it sucks. life does get much better. what goes around comes around so they will get theirs!
2006-07-27 09:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must be acting soft dont just chat 2 girls dont wave your hands about dont wear pink
2006-07-27 14:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by kalahari s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋