Feminism vs decorum?

Question

Girls scream femenism, be treated as equals, etc. Yet, they like their door opened for them, chair pulled, get their coats, walk in first, etc., I'm confused.
Totally equals would be adding females to the NFL teams (not just kickers), boxing, even unisex olympics? (By the way I'm not a sexist)

Help me understand.

Answer 1

Unfortunately girls want their cake and to eat it, too. We want equal pay for equal work, but some of us realize that it's nice to have doors opened for us, dinner paid for, flowers, etc.... I do agree that men and women are not the same when it comes to physical strength (with occasional exceptions) and if women want to be cops, firemen, etc... then they should have to pass the EXACT same tests as the men do!

Answer 2

Well, it seems you have the wrong idea about feminism, this might help.

Feminism is a diverse collection of social theories, political movements, and moral philosophies, largely motivated by or concerning the experiences of women. Most feminists are especially concerned with social, political, and economic inequality between men and women; some have argued that gendered and sexed identities, such as "man" and "woman," are socially constructed. Feminists differ over the sources of inequality, how to attain equality, and the extent to which gender and sexual identities should be questioned and critiqued.

Feminist political activists commonly campaign on issues such as reproductive rights (including the right to safe, legal abortion, access to contraception, and the availability of quality prenatal care), violence within a domestic partnership, maternity leave, equal pay, sexual harassment, street harassment, discrimination, and rape. Many feminists today argue that feminism is a grass-roots movement that seeks to cross boundaries based on social class, race, culture, and religion; is culturally specific and addresses issues relevant to the women of that society (for example female genital cutting in Africa or the glass ceiling in developed economies); and debate the extent to which certain issues, such as rape, incest, and mothering, are universal. Themes explored in feminism include patriarchy, stereotyping, objectification, sexual objectification, and oppression.

Besides, it's not about the physicality of the genders, we're supposed to be complementary to one another.

Answer 3

Whether you are holding doors or giving a friend career counseling, come from a place of respect and you won't go wrong. Come from a place of duty to the role your gender has been assigned and you'll get it wrong every time.

Sometimes you have to be the man (most women won't lead you into bed, for instance), sometimes you have to realize that what people call being the man is really little boy's nonsense. Respect tells you which you need at the time.

BTW, if a woman calls you out for something you did out of respect, don't take that--argue your side and get mad if you have to. She'll respect you then. (Of course, if you really were disrespectful, apologize and let her enlighten you.)

Answer 4

you are right! It doesn't make sense- women want to step out of their God given roles and take over mens roles and critcize and demean men all the while expecting men to treat them like princesses - I don't get it either and I a ma woman!
I don't expect my husband to come home from his physically laborous job and cookd dinner, wash dishes, mop the floors etc. an he doesn't expect me to bring home the bacon or other things that are his responsibility. I take care of him by making sure he has what he needs in order to provide for the family and he treats me like a lady and makes sure I have what I need to keep order in and running a functioning household. Neither one of us holds our jobs or responsibilities over the other's head- I appreciate him and what he does and vice versa and it works REALLY nicely that way!
And no, I don't stay barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, uneducated and not realizing my "true" potential. Spend a day here and see what I have to do and know and learn on a daily basis- it is enough to keep me busy and satisfied , knowing that I am doing what I am supposed to do .

Answer 5

We want to be equal where we are capable - finance, business, as doctors, teachers, and other knowledge workers. I know I don't qualify as a linebacker. And, we want equal protection under the law and equal pay when we have the same experience and education.

And, I certainly don't mind when someone is kind to me and wants nothing in return.

Does that help?

Answer 6

You're right...I don't think it's a matter of equality as much as everyone being appreciated for their own unique abilities and not being treated as less than anyone else. Women should be happy with what they have to offer and men the same..there's no reason to try to do what the other does or to prove yourself to the opposite sex. Everyone should be treated with respect and greatfulness, and women should be happy to be themselves!

Answer 7

You don't have to be the same to be equal

eg 4+3 = 6+1

Men and women could have equality without us being the same.

Answer 8

Women want equality in the business and political world. All the other things you mentioned don't count as feminism. I hope my answer helped you.

Answer 9

I think that most feminist don't like their door opened for them or anything that makes them seem as if men are more powerful. Women who do like that are women like me and I like to feel protected and safe and I like to be respected. I'm as far from feminist as they come. They really get on my nerves. And I hope they never add women to boxing. Don't we have enough domestic violence in the world?

Answer 10

Don't worry about feminism. Just be a man, and the rest will take care of itself. If some woman complains about you and yells feminist, let that be her cross to bear, not yours.