How can u stop someone,calling your home 50-60 times a day and hanging up,Changing my phone # is not an option

Question

my fiance's ex-wife calls between 50-60 times a day every few minutes, and hangs up on our answering machine, when I am not at home I will check our messages and it tells me my machine is full, Yeah full of hang ups, when I get home< check the caller ID and its her # comes up only.I have called her and asked her to stop and she sayes she has every right to call a million times if she wants because her daughters reside with us. And the courts tell us since we live 1500 miles away from her that we need to provide our Phone # for her to contact her daughters..But at this point she is totally abusing that privlidge...Please help..Does anyone know any recourse or laws that protect our sanity??? Is this considered Harrassment??? Thank you for all that answer...

Answer 1

Yes you are absolutely right. This is phone harrassment and you have every right to call the police and turn her in. Yes, you have provided her with the phone numbers to check in on her daughters, but that does NOT give her the right to abuse the court order and be a nuissance. The problem you have here is much deeper than merely her "concern" about her children, she is just using that as a cop out, which is really pathetic and sad on her part. Call and talk to the police in your town and see what kind of options they can give you. Try talking to your lawyer or some other authority to see if you can come to an agreement some how or someway. If mom feels the need to call so often then maybe your husband and his ex may want to purchase a cell phone specifically for her to call her daughters if it is that much of a concern. At least that way she won't be bothering you so much on your home phone and his daughters can be responsible for answering the phone each and every time it rings. I think if she knew that the phone was for the girls only and that you or your fiance will never answer the phone then it will take all the "fun" out of it. You will probably find that she doesn't call quite as often. (You can even put the cell phone on vibrate or turn it off altogether so you won't have to deal with the constant ringing either, ha!) I would explain this to her as well that it is meant for her to call her daughters on only. Then that way you would still be providing a # where she could reach her daughters and allows you to change your home phone number so she will stop harrassing you. You should not have to put up with that kind of behavior.

Answer 2

Yes, it's absolutely harrasment. If the court didn't say you had to give her the number, I'd say just call the phone company and ask for call blocking. Since they did, and this may be an irritating few days, but totally worth it, have your house number forwarded to your cell phone. Answer every single time she calls, and if she hangs up, call her right back. If she doesn't answer, leave a polite message every single time that you're returning her call. She'll stop. Make sure you take pictures of the CallerID box completely full of 50 consecutive phone calls to show the court for the harrasment complaint. Good luck.

Answer 3

The first answer is short, sweet, and absolutely correct. A copy of all paperwork, provided to, or generated by any agency involved should be sent to the court that "authorized" her behavior. It will take a while to get action because it will have to be verified but I bet eventually his ex will be in hot water up to her eye balls.

Good luck, and don't stop if you only land a jab, you want a real knock out punch to land right on the button. Just keep swing with every law abiding thing you can find.

Answer 4

That many calls is harrassment, and it is against the law. You have every right to injunctive relief. You'll have to speak to a lawyer. While the woman does have the right to contact her children, there is a limit, and she's knowingly crossed it. Do not whine that you cannot afford a lawyer. It will not cost an arm and a leg, and if, after being told she must back off, she continues the harrassment, you can take her to court again and make her pay.

Answer 5

Contact the courts that ordered the custody arangement. You can tell them what she is doing and maybe they can set boundries for you such as only calling at scheduled times or writing letters or emails if she does not control herself. Good luck, not much you can do. That can happen when you get involved with someone who has an ex spouse.... some people just can't let go.

Answer 6

I suppose you can't block her number....does she only speak to your husband? Have you given the daughter a cell (depending how old she is) so that she can only call that number? Wow, I'm sorry - that is a really hard situation. I hope that everything works out - good luck! I think this is a form of harassment -- I agree with you totally.

Answer 7

Is it possible that with the technology of cell phones that the judge would consider her having to have a cell phone w/ family share plan and the daughters each have one? Maybe an option to ease your insanity. Probably wouldn't hurt to check into right.

Answer 8

If you live in the United States you can block her number from your telephone and she will not even know it. However I really don't understand why the father and a shack up (you) have the daughters. This is not a good situation. Why don't you two get married and stop playing house.

Answer 9

Yeah, that's considered a form of harrassment. I would see if you can go to the court and get some sort of restraining order or something of the sort. Consult someone because that is ridiculous.

Answer 10

Since there is already a court order involved - go back to the court.

Alternative: get a second phone number, give her only one number - use the other number for your life's business and pleasure.