2006-07-27 08:55:14 · 24 answers · asked by denestewart2k6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how old are you? are you financially stable? do you really understand what it's like to have a kid? it's not your choice. it's her body. maybe she's scared of what it will do to it. or maybe she's not ready to care for another human being yet. it's her choice period. get over it or you need to start making some decisions as to whether your relationship can endure this type of struggle
2006-07-27 09:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by shortnsweet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing would be to find out if she wants to get married first, and then the two of you can decide whether to bring a child into it. Believe me, I was born out of wedlock, and it's hurt me all my life. That's why I decided to get married, and stay married, in case I ever had a baby. Boy, was I glad I did. When I had my son, I realized how truly difficult it would've been if I hadn't been in a committed relationship. And, believe me, if you're not married, you're not committed. Either person can decide to leave at any time. And if you have a child in that kind of situation, it's not you that really suffers. It's always the baby that suffers if their parents aren't married. I don't care what anybody says to try to justify having children this way. It's hurtful to the child.
I would definately recommend taking things slow, taking all the right steps, and then deciding if and when to bring a vulnerable child into the world.
2006-07-27 09:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by cara24@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is why would you want to have a baby with your girlfriend? It is fine to discuss this with her if you have plans on becoming serious and getting married to this girl, but if not, then why is having a baby so important to you right now? She is probably right in telling you no, maybe she is wanting to see more of a committment from you before she agrees (such as marriage). Babies are expensive and require a lot of attention and care. Have you sat down and thought about that? Are you ready financially for a baby? This is a human being you are talking about bringing into this world, so my advice to you is to sit down and think about what you're going to do. This baby deserves the best and deserves two loving parents to raise it and who are mentally, emotionally, and financially stable to take care of a child. Just think about it.
2006-07-27 09:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she first of all, and second that is a decision that has to be on both of you, if she is not ready to be a mom then you cannot make her or she will regret the baby and blame you. A baby should be a happy time for both parents. if your older and you feel she will never give you a child then maybe its time to find someone that has the same interests as you. like having kids.. good luck to you
2006-07-27 09:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by sassy_girl200501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find other girlfriend who want to get pregant. If you do love her then wait when ever she is ready. If she said never ever want a baby then you need to find someone.
Can't force woman to have baby when you want one. I remember my wife want a baby so bad I not ready and I told her she can find someone share life to have baby. She knew what going to happen when she get married. Later married 97 and until 2002 she told me that she is pregant and she was scared to death thinking that I am leaving her. But You now I told her it take two people make baby and I am ready to be a father.My daughter born 2003 and then my son 2004 and now working 3rd. People do change mind some don't depend.
2006-07-27 09:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're not marry then you shouldn't be having kids in the first place. And think about it, are you still going to love her the same even if she gets fat and can't lose weight? And you should respect her because shes not ready yet for all the responsibilities. Maybe she still wants to have fun.
2006-07-27 08:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until she is ready. You can't force parenthood, because there are alot of children out here abused, abandoned or dead because their parents didn't want them. If this is a major problem, then sit down and talk to her about it, if she has her mind made then either walk away from it or deal with it.
Good Luck
2006-07-27 08:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you are married please.
i can imagine she is afraid of having a child and then what would happen if you break up.
of course before you ask her to marry you, have the conversation about having children. if she doesn't want children at all, then you should really reconsider your relationship. you should not have to give up something that you want and need.
show her you are responsible and that you are really ready to be a father. but if she does decide to have a baby then please get married. it makes things easier in the long run.
good luck to you and i hope you have the family that you want.
2006-07-27 09:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by KAREN A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have one. It has to be a mutual agreement. She is the one that has to carry it around inside of her for 9 months. Maybe you should consider getting married first, or moving on to someone who is ready for that kind of committment.
2006-07-27 08:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out why she doesn't want kids also how old are you if she doesn't ever want them then maybe you should end your relationship before someone gets hurt
2006-07-27 09:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋