i just met him a week ago,he says he has no kids and he's not married.me on the other hand i have three kids and have been with my boyfriend for 11 years,and im just not in a good relationship with my boyfriend because he drinks alot and never pays attention to me?? is it wrong to want another man....i've been on two dates with this guy and he seems nice,he likes to hold me and wants to massage my feet,when i tell him i'm tired,i never have to ask him if i look pretty cuz he tells me on his own,he does things my boyfriend dont do...so im just confused on what i should do,cuz i havent felt this wonderful in a long,long,time...do you think it would work out for me to date him.... i just want someone who's gonna pay attention to me and show me affection that i dont have right know.it's not like i went out and was looking for someone,this man just stared talking to me...my friends all have different opions one says i should just date him,the other says i should think about it..
2006-07-27 08:41:50 · 13 answers · asked by meli25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
break it off with your boyfriend, and see how things go with this other guy, if thats what you want. You dont have to rush into anything serious
2006-07-27 08:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl_mandy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still living with your boyfriend of 11 years? If you are...well, thats a problem. If you aren't...then date the 40 year old man...thats not much of an age difference. As for how he treats you...let me tell you....in the beginning they all treat you like a princess and after awhile it all fades....trust me...its true. Thats why you really have to look at the whole picture...not just the nice sweetie pie stuff. Before you break up with someone try to see the new man entirely...don't be caught up in the massaging of feet and all that...However, your present boyfriend drinks alot and never pays attention to you? Its not wrong to want another man...maybe its time to talk to your present boyfriend and end it...as for the 3 children...As long as your 40 year old friend knows that you have 3 children...no problem. I guess you have to end one relationship before you begin another. Just look at the entire picture...as I said...in the beginning of a relationship its all sweetie stuff....it doesn't always last! Of course, that doesn't mean you should stay in a bad relationship. Lots to think about.
2006-07-27 15:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always always end a relationship before even dating anyone else! not doing so would only add to your problems,I KNOW!
be careful since you all ready have dated him.dont confuse the good things you are feeling for a relationship,you may not be fair in the end with either guy...one makes the other look worse,one makes the other look better....too much!
I did what you are doing and ended up with neither guy and all 3 of us in alot of pain!be careful! you of the 3 will be hurt the most. slow down with "the good guy" and maybe end it with the boyfriend? as for the age thing,thats nothing relevant! you are over 18 and a consenting adult and so is he,who cares the number of years ya been kickin!! Im 32 married to a 23 yr old guy! Ive dated all ages and numbers dont mean anything! the inside does! good luck
2006-07-27 15:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by adc7492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all you are being unfaithful to your current boyfriend no matter if you are in a good or bad relationship, it is still unfair, so you need to end the relationship with him first if you are interested in the new guy (and it sounds as though you are). And out of respect for the new guy you need to end it with your current boyfriend.
Second of all, age is only a number.....word to the wise, just be cautious. Don't jump right in all the way yet, slow things down and get to know him, because you could get into this and realize you don't like him either. So far it sounds like he is a good guy and he treats you right and ultimately that is all that matters. If you like this new guy, I say go for it. Just make sure you've cut all ties with the other guy first. Good luck!
2006-07-27 15:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see - you are living with your boyfriend of 11 years - have three kids with him - but are dating other folks
I think you would be better off to do the following
1-stop dating the 40 yr old
2-Document all your current joint financial & legal affairs and see a lawyer
3-Drop the deadbeat Boyfriend and start to be an example to your kids
4-don't get involved with anyone else - ever - you demonstrate a complete lack of judgement
2006-07-27 16:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by roadrunner426440 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question:How many times does 40 go into 25?
Answer: As many times as he wants as long as he's gentlemanly, handsome, gallant, well off and mentally stable and heaps of fun to be around.
Otherwise, what does your intuition tell you? Does it tell you to run or to see what happens? As for the boyfriend, give him an ultimatum and go from there. Life is too short to waste it on dead weight, Honey
2006-07-27 16:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to analyze your life right now. If you're with someone and you're looking at others, you need to decide if you want to be with your boyfriend. That is your main priority. If it is not to be with your boyfriend, you need to tell him. Rest assured it will prevent alot more problems down the road.
Otherwise I'll see you on the next episode of Cheaters
2006-07-27 15:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by nWo_Spon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax... date him if you feel like it. Age is just a number, and do what makes you happy! That's not too much of an age difference.
2006-07-27 15:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by woodwinman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st problem is...your still with your boyfriend..but going out with this guy too??????????
sounds like you need to go ahead and get rid of number 1..looks like your cheating..and that's not cool...
then yeah..go ahead with number 2...age is just a number..it all depends on the person and their personalities and maturity level.
but don't be with both.
asking for trouble.
2006-07-27 15:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should totally date him a boyfriend is someone who cares about u and he oviouly has that
2006-07-27 15:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋