I don't care for my spouses sister. Is this a big deal? She doesn't care for me either. This is important to my husband. Do I pretend to like her? It has been 8 years. I have never gotton to know her and now that I know what kind of person she is, I don't want to get to know her. I like his 2 other sisters and 1 other brother, however, this is his favorite sibling and he wants us to get along. Advice?
2006-07-27 08:37:54 · 21 answers · asked by Colleen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Best advise would be to encourage your husband to spend time with her alone but feel free to enjoy the time with his other sisters. When contact with her is unavoidable just grin and bear it.
2006-07-27 08:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would just be polite towards her, much like you would if meeting a foreign dignitary whose customs you don't really understand. Appreciate her for her good qualities-- everyone has some. You married your spouse for his good qualities, and he's the only person you really have to worry about in the long-term. Most of us have one (or more!) in-laws, family members, etc. whom we just can't stand.... so unless you live close together, there should be no major problems.
The cause of your mutual distaste may be a simple case of jealousy.... but if your husband loves you, he will not make you spend time with someone you don't want to.
2006-07-27 08:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been 8 years and I feel that that has been long enough for you to have developed a relationship with your s-i-l-, if you don't like her, I believe it is better to be cordial than to start having words and bickering if you think this might occur, explain to your spouse that you love him, and you are willing to tolerate his sister however you and her are not on a social level, you can respect her without going out on a limb and letting this escalade to non sense, it is your right also to speak to whom ever you wish, this just did not occur over night- it has been eight years- not everyone will get along, but we can all respect one another, and remain cordial and lady like!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-27 08:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by kimberly R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put on a fake smile and get on with your life and take care of YOUR family as best u can. I have the same problem with my brother in law and for 10 yrs. we have not spoke a word. and i really dont care...my sister is the nicest person and her 2 kids are the cutest but when it comes to him i have no comment i just pretend he is not their and he does the same.
2006-07-27 08:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has a sister i cant even talk to. just pretend when he is around. when u r alone u both know u dont like each other so u dont have to pretend when u guys r alone. i u were living with her thats another story but it doesnt seem so. tolerate her for the sake of ur husband
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2016-10-15 10:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one! It's a positive sign that you are asking our advice. . You didn't really explain what kind of person she is, so I can't say for sure, but I'm hoping you can find something in common with her. She's got to be okay if she's your hubby's fave. Give it a shot...you never know. I hope you find something you like about her. Good Luck to you!
2006-07-27 08:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by tfoxgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make an attempt to get along with her for the sake of keeping the peace. If she's intollerable and he loves you, then he'll take your side.
Your man's top priority is his wife and kids. If it's not, then you have a lousy man.
If you love him, you'll try to make him happy by tollerating her.
If she's as much of a witch as you say she is...and it's unbearable to be around her, then your man needs to stick up for you.
2006-07-27 08:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try going to lunch or shopping with her and maybe find you two have something in common, after all if she's his favorite sibling there must be some reason why he prefers her.
2006-07-27 08:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him of the 3 sisters....2 out of three ain't bad! You can't be expected to like everyone in his family just because your married to him. You like who you like. Just tell him it's been 8 years and you're not likely to change your mind after all that time and he just has to respect that. Just because she's everyone else's favorite, doesn't mean she has to be YOURS. Good luck!
2006-07-27 08:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋