I am reading all of these posts and there are a ton of us that are just lost and confused in our love life, does TRUE LOVE really exsist? If so how do you know when you have it???
2006-07-27 08:28:39 · 32 answers · asked by sweet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks for the uplifting remarks..
2006-07-27 08:33:01 · update #1
now, that some of us believe true love is out there, what if you are already married and you find it?? THen what???? I know here comes all the bad... That makes you such a bad person.. Because you married someone else and now you are in love with someone else, funny how we are so quick to judge others..
2006-07-27 08:36:26 · update #2
True love exists. When the other person's happiness is at least as important as yours AND they feel that your happiness is at least as important as their own, they are truly in love. You will know if you are truly in love after you have known that person for at least two years and don't want to change them.
2006-07-27 08:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Paula P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have got so many answers and opinions. I don't think you are the only one feeling confused and lost.In my life, I have met a man I really love and admire and respect but living together brings something to my life (routine i guess) that i feel like"oh and this is what it's all about?!" i think true love does exist, i am not sure if you still going to have butterflies in your stomach after many years of marriage, BUT love is not enough to make relationship work. It's just the beginning of this whole journey. I am scared that i can ruin my relationship just because some days I feel lost. I thought it's going to be like a magic every day but unfortunately we make the magic, romance etc esp.in marriage. I felt in the beginning of the relationship that's the one,but then this feeling of " I cannot live without you" becomes pale.it's kind of sad
2006-07-27 13:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bonanza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think True Love exists. I think couples need to learn how to communicate with each other. I think a couples class would help a lot. I think most couples now are from divorced or abused parents. So I think this generation is just following in that same pattern. I think if there is enough education on relationships and communication then there would be less divorces. I think this class should be done outside of the church then after completing the class then go to marriage counseling through the church if desired or required. I think you will know if you truly love someone after you have completed the classes and counseling.
2006-07-27 08:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club honey!!!!!
Life reserves a lot of secrets, gifts, treasures and rocks which are difficult to excavate, roll over or simply enrol into wihtout leaving a massive scar behind it.
Love is supposed to be one of the most beautiful things that can happen to an individual. However love is expensive, very hurtful and heavy to carry throughout our days.
What is the definition of true love? Many people say marriage - WRONG. Infact many people think true love is binded by marriage but after a few days it flies into space and disintegrates into a far out orbit.
However even though all these issues do pull down a black curtain over our hearts, love still remains the utmost of an individual's life-style.
Love involves a lot of sharing, forgiving and forgetting. WILL-POWER to enjoy your life and live through eternal happiness remains entirely in your hands.
Cheer up and do not hesitate to find your true love. The majority of days are beautiful. When it rains, open a colourful umbrella that will lighten up the dark alley in order to allow you walk out to a brighter sunshine.
Good Luck
2006-07-27 08:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe true love exists, but it doesn't come and stay for good unless both parties keep it alive. I certainly feel lost and confused about love most of the time. I had it for 20 years, but the ex and I did not cultivate and keep it growing. It withered and died and I mourn its passing. I have learned my lesson and will work toward a happy relationship next time. I am concerned about meeting the right person and recognizing love when I see it. I am afraid I may confuse attraction with love. I plan to take a long time before deciding to commit again.
2006-07-27 08:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every now and then, people tend to feel lost. Even I have been upset at times, and thought, why did I do this or that. I just try to take it one day at a time and see what really makes me happy.
True love is when you feel your heart aching everytime he leaves. When you feel like you can't breath if he's in the hospital or sick.
True love is letting him see you eat 2 big macs in 1 sitting, or 6 pieces of pizza at once. Letting him see you fall flat on your face when life comes at you hard. True love is standing up for him when everyone laughs at you for doing it.
You will know you found it when you find it.
2006-07-27 08:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I believe that True Love exists but it all depends on how you look at it. The worst thing you can do is have expectations of someone or how things should be when you are with that someone. Some days you will be so happy with your loved one that you WILL believe True Love exists. Some days you will be disappointed and angry and doubt every emotion you have ever felt for him/her. The trick is finding a good balance between both emotions. My fiance once told me, "My worst days with you are better than the best days on my own". It the sweetest thing I have ever heard and realistic.
My advice for you, really live for the moment. Be open to love and life!
2006-07-27 08:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why so many of us are lost and confusing my dear... and the reason is, that life is confusing... we live in a random world, with countless events and infinitely incomplete information... yet we all have somewhat of a faith in nature's laws or concepts deeply rooted in our brain... who knows what's true and what's not...
As for true love, the good news is that it does really exist (everyone knows of at least one miraculously happy couple, I am part of one such couple)... the bad news, it is not necessary that everyone of us can or will find it...
it's like anything else in life, some people are lucky some are not... to me true love is kinda like having a natural talent for something... e.g. tiger woods in golf... everyone probably does have a similar passion, natural skill like that for something... unfortunately for you, the "skill" that you might have, might not be as popular or econimically viable...
so back to true love... yes, i am sure there is someone out there who would click with you in a heartbeat, and you two can live very happily even on a desserted island forever.... but that person might be on a mountain in unchartered parts of siberia right now... or it could be the person you see at the bus stop everyday... there is really no way to know... so u can't build or focus your life around finding it... u have to continue life and enjoy it without depending on finding true love... as they say "believe in miracles, but don't depend on them"... cuz honestly, I don't think anyone garanteed that everyone would find true love... you just have to make decisions based on the information you have and hope for the best...
hope that helps...
2006-07-27 08:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Another Addict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is real and for those who think it doesn't, sorry. The way to tell is hard at times. I've been married twice. The first I thought was true love, but not. It lasted about a year. The second was and has lasted for about 25 years. Good Luck!
2006-07-27 09:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married and then find your true love you need to look deep in your heart. I say that if it is your true love, then you let go of your marriage and be true to your heart. Watch the movie meet Joe Black "Fall in love, fall deeply in love, find someone you love and who will love you the same way back. When you find him you stop listening to your head and listen to your heart.....To live life without this, you haven't lived at all"
Of course if you are married, your head and heart will battle and you will feel lost and confused. All logic may say stay married, and the heart will say go for the love.
I believe that true love does exist, but I also believe that some people will listen to their mind and let their love go.
2006-07-27 09:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a problem, but it's not a problem with you.We are all searching for ourselves and once we find them we try to grab hold of them. Maybe you felt this when you met your wife> But don't jump into conclusions so quickly, make sure that the person you think you are in love with really will stay true to you? What is this persons past? Past relationships? I've felt in love before. I felt like this guy loved me for who i was, i felt that we were perfect for each other, but he cheated on me. After i realized what he was after, i felt so shitty about myself, i didn't know what to do. Go after what you want, but don't make a mistake. The last thing you want to happen is regretting the fact that you left your wife for someone you though was someone else. Think about where your at now, and where you will be, just make sure to trust your instinct.
2006-07-27 08:43:58 · answer #11 · answered by alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋