My father smacked me in da face today because someone in my family started these stupid rumors about me and he believed them and today he got home yelling at me and smacked me in the face. I'm 19 and i live at home but i don't think that he should be worrying about what i do or don't do because im old enough to make my own decisions and old enough for my dad to be yelling at me i mean this was the first time in my life that he laid a hand on me and i know he regrets it but what would you do if you were in my shoes forgive him or what?
2006-07-27 08:21:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i don't agree with what he did, but the truth is that it's his house, his rules. i suggest you get a job and move out.
2006-07-27 08:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all if you are old enough to make your own decisions and too old to be yelled at then you need your own place to live.
Do you contribute to the household financially as well as help out with the chores? Do you have a job that you work at regularly? If not, he has a good reason to believe any rumors that come up. People who do not work for a living tend to find ways of getting into trouble.
If he smacked you over a rumor, chances are there is some truth to what was said about you. A few inaccuracies and some minor false facts in a rumor does not make the whole thing false.
He didn't smack you for that one rumor. He smacked you for the culmination of all the other crap you have been getting yourself into.
2006-07-27 15:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your old enough to make your own decisions the get the hell outta of your parents house and decide on where to live. I don't think he was right to smack you before sitting down and listen to you and hearing your side of the story, but then he should smacked the **** outta you if he believed there was evidence enough to prove you were lying! Should you forgive him... what the hell does that mean, like what... your parents don't have the right to smack there children. I don't believe in beatings but a damn smack now and then never hurt anyone. Thats whats wrong with the disrespectful a$$ youth of today. Anyways, to many parents are scared to take a hand to there kids A$$es! Thats why we have so many gangs now... so many teen killiings ....and teen pregnancies... scared a$$ adults.
I told my 15 year old if he didn't like the way I run my house.. i'd help'em pack his bags!!!!!!! and if he ever wanted to call the police because I spanked him, I'd make sure to really whoop his a$$ when the law got there. I don't want to be my sons friend... he'll have enough of those growing up... Im his damn parent, I just wish more parents were like that so I wouldn't have to worry about locking my car doors or house doors at night. Yeah Im an 80's kid, and growing up even just a short time ago in the 80's we didnt have those problems!
I can't stand to hear young people ***** about there rights and how they can make there own desicions. When you want to be an adult get the hell out in the wold and become an adult.
2006-07-27 15:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by xxx SiT On My North Pole xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 19 and this is the first time that your father has laid a hand on you, consider yourself unusual. Your father should have discussed any concerns with you and treated you like an adult. But, you need to realize that you are still his child and you live at home. If you can't accept the way things are in your father's home, get out. Adults have their own living space. Forgive your father and try to move out as soon as possible. It is obvious that you have outgrown your father's techniques.
2006-07-27 15:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think regardless of your age, I don't think it was right of your father to smack you in the face. If that was the first time I would sit down with him and explain to him how that made you feel. I would also explain the rumors. It sounds like he responded out of anger.
I also think that the "his house his rules" is true BUT I don't think it gives him the right to hurt anyone physically. I would say to forgive him and if his actions continue then I would look for another place to live.
2006-07-27 16:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess since this was the first time he's ever hit you, I'd EVENTUALLY forgive him. But if you're 19 and you want to be treated like an adult, you need to start acting like one. You need to sit down with him and talk about what happened. I would also get a job and get my own place to live (if I were you). It is obviously getting to the point where your father doesn't believe what you tell him (for some reason) and he is getting violent. Who knows if this could happen again. (I personally wouldn't want to find out!)
2006-07-27 15:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive him cuz he is your dad. Talk to him about it, Let him know that u are not a kids and u deserve some respect. That's the thing with parents, they don't know when their Little girl or kids are growing up. U are an adult and can make your own choice in life. U will always need your parents but they also needs to know when to let go, Just let him know that the next time he smack u, u will never talk to him or call the cops. heheh just to scare him
2006-07-27 15:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of your age you still live under his roof, no that does not give the right to smack you, but i would think you still have to abide by his rules ( if that is the case) I dont know what the rumor was but obviously he got very upset over it.....Forgiving him is up to you. no one here can tell you the answer to that since we really dont know your relationship with your dad. Since this is the first time it has ever happened maybe that will make your choice easier.........Took me 20 years to forgive my father for smacking me and it didnt just happen once. (did i mention he's been dead 20 years)
2006-07-27 15:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by srymybad 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think you can make your own decisions then why don't you "decide' yourself to an apartment of your own?
If you can't discuss this like an adult with your father and be rational (assuming he will be because he feels badly about striking you) then find your own place to live.
Part of being an adult is being able to discuss things in such a manner that all differences are in the open and concessions are made.
2006-07-27 15:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be making plans for moving out ASAP. if you can't afford an apt. even with a roommate, talk to the parents of your friends to ask if you could stay at there house for a few months.
he didn't ask you your side of the story. He didn't talk to you about it.. He just hit. You should not stay in an environment where you can be hit at any time.
2006-07-27 15:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this was the first time I'd forgive him, but not until you had a good talk and he agrees to talk to you first about anything that upsets him and agrees that you're to old to hit.
2006-07-27 15:25:42 · answer #11 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋