I have always had severe marriage problems, me and my man do not live together due to this, he dont even have keys. I have felt used, like an object and a doormat in this marriage. I am emotionally very reliant on this man as when we met I had many personal problms. recently people have been pranking me, throwing poo in my garden and knoking on my door and running away. He has been getting people calling him and saying i sleep around when I never have and never will, i have always been loyal to him. someimes I think hes responsible for all of this it all happens when hes not around and he hardly is.The police no but theres so much they can do as they dont no who or y any one would do this, neither do i, I have never upset anyone. but he uses all of this against me so badly when I dont help him with money or do what he wants, he makes me out to be a bad persn when half the time I dont no where he is, the only reason I allow him to com is coz I have a child and feel sceared alone help??
2006-07-27 08:15:54 · 29 answers · asked by sweetlikehoney_73 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GET OUT YOU CAN DO MUCH BETTER THEN HIM,DOES SOUND LIKE HE RUNS YOUR LIVE,MANY PEOPLE HAVE DIVORCED WITH KIDS,IF YOU NEED A FRIEND LOOK ME YOU,I AM 50 I DO NEED A FRIEND TO
2006-07-27 08:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by tay3r 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is time to grow up and take control of your life.
1) Get counseling - check with family service groups to find low cost or free counseling.
2) Move - find any place you can that has no history for you and you can start over. Sure it's hard to do. You can begin your new life with a clean slate.
3) Divorce - let go of what has not worked in the past. You will find someone better once you have become a stronger person inside. Don't rush into a relationship until you have been able to live and function on your own for at least a year.
If you follow these ideas, in two years you will look back and see it is the best thing you have ever done for yourself.
2006-07-27 08:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have some severe insecurity issues. you definately wouldn't be the first woman to raise a child alone and you won't be the last. I understand the "being in love" part but how can you love a man soooo much without loving yourself first. You need to do whatever it takes to pull yourself from this man-both emotionally and physically. You need to sit down and have a nice, long serious talk with GOD! {pray} You need strength and understanding to know that with or without him life goes on and you can make it what you want it to be. You're better than what you are giving yourself credit for so stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about this situation. You only live once so make the best of it. Try to live to where you feel no regrets. Think about the situation that you are putting your child in. You wouldn't want him/her to grow up thinking that it's okay for a man to mistreat or disrespect a woman. Do whatever you have to do to pull yourself out of your situation and get it together.
2006-07-27 08:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baji ji, i'm very sorry to take heed to your marriage situation. the main marriage are like that on and rancid. i'm married for a million year and four months hamdullallah so we constantly went like on and rancid as I advise as quickly as we argument and different time we making a love. he's likewise my cousin. i don't be responsive to what up on your husband. i'm particular there ought to be some thing reason that he do no longer talk with you. I additionally be responsive to that your husband does not love you in that way. attempt to take a seat down with him and speaking with him very nicer way and ask him what undertaking situation he have. Ask him a question as plenty you are able to. which you think of it significant you to ask. pay attention, it may be somebody have placed the black magic on your husband because it happen load people have a situation over the moneys, the marriage, the residing house, the relationship, won't be in a position of have a infant and etc. you are able to desire to make certain approximately it if he have or no longer. Inshallah Allah (SWT) would be restoration your marriage artwork and supply plenty love between you and your husband, Ameen, Baji...
2016-10-08 09:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is the one doing all of this to you. Why don't you just leave him. If you're there alone anyway, why give him the satisfaction of coming to your home when he wants too. Don't be afraid. You can make it on your own. Anyone can. It may be hard at first but you will be a better person when you do this. It makes you have confidence in yourself and lets you know that you don't have to take a bunch of sh-- from a man. Good luck to you.
2006-07-27 08:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need help, and you can start by getting out of the marriage if he's not there and you have to do everything for you and your child alone. Don't let him intimidate you with threats, just get your divorce and work toward being happy without the stress he's causing you. He will keep hurting you as long as you don't take a stand to stop it.
2006-07-27 08:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you should be scared to be with this man!!! If I were you move very far away he sounds like a lunatic!! All those things that are happening to you and whatever he is claiming that people are calling him and telling him about you - is a joke - it's him doing all of this!!! That is so sick - you need to move away from him - place a restraining order - child visitation should never be alone but with someone such as a social worker there. Protect yourself - he really sounds crazy!!!!!
2006-07-27 08:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get mad GET EVEN!!! I know you don't even have to question if he's doing all of this or not... you know he is. Go rent or buy "Waiting To Exhale", watch it with a bunch of friends and set up a plot to make his life miserable. Tell people he has VD. Is he living with another woman? Have a pregnant friend pee on an EPT test & put it in a little gift bag with a nice little note with someone elses name on it and leave on his doorstep... Be a strong woman and do the right thing for you and your child. Or, you can hit 'em where it hurts, the pocket.... take him for child support......all men hate that!
2006-07-27 08:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you have a child with him but why are you still married? Especially since you dont live together. You should not be afraid to be alone. You have your child to think of. Your child is number 1. You can meet him places to spend time with your child. You need to get a divorce and file for sole or joint custody.
2006-07-27 08:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to know is that no one attempting to answer this question can solve your problem for you. The second is that you need to figure out what the problem is before you can even think about getting help solving it. Your question makes it clear that you do not have a very good idea of what the problem is that you are trying to solve.
2006-07-27 08:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe you are co-dependent. Look this up in Google and you'll find articles to help you understand-- and then call your local mental health agency and ask about support groups. Your man is abusive and he is able to continue to abuse you because you are not strong enough to stand up and say NOOOO!!!. Please seek help. I know you are scared and the issues might be complex, but you deserve to live in peace and have those around you, respect you. Think about the message you are giving to your child. You deserve better. Good luck. P.s. I don't believe he will change w/out professional help
2006-07-27 08:33:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋