I am 16 my boyfriend is 18 and I think I might be pregnant I know my mother will be there, what if he leaves?

Question

I am 16 years old, I live with my mom, my step dad, and my little brother, I have been dating this boy for 8 months now and we recently have been together sexually and now I just have this weird feeling I am pregnant. What if I am? What do I do? Do I keep it? I know my mother will be there for me, but what if he leaves me? He is 18 and he has a job and his whole life ahead of him and I'm afraid he will leave me and blame me for ruining his life. I feel like such a fool for getting myself into a position like this. Will someone please help me decide what to do. I dont know if I am but I dont have any money to buy a pregnancy test and if I tell my boyfriend he might leave me and if I tell my mom I need one then it turns out to be negative then she would know we had sex and I REALLY dont want to have to look into her eyes and wonder if she is thinking bad things about me, I hate having her be dissapointed in me so PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME OUT!!!!

Answer 1

Even though it will be difficult, you need to get your mother involved. No more shutting her out. If you are pregnant, she can help you make a decision. If you are not she can help you get on some type of birth control so you do not have to go through this anxiety again. She will be a little angry but she will be glad you shared and are showing enough maturity to get the help you need. As for your boyfriend. If he is big enough to do the deed then he is big enough to give the feed! Meaning if you are pregnant make sure you get court order for child support. It is his child and even if he leaves he is connected to you and this child for at least 18 years and needs to help. Good luck to you dear.

Answer 2

16 is pretty young to have a baby. Your should go to a free clinic. You should also tell your mother ASAP. It's your choice. If you're broke it will be a long hard pull for the rest of your life. Pregnancy is a difficult experience when you're not into it. Raising a child is a life-long commitment. Obviously, you feel you love this guy. Why should he say you ruined his life? You gave him your love and your body. He is just as responsible for this preganancy as you are. Your life is even more affected than his since he can just walk away. If he does, he's a creep and would make a terrible father. If he's a good guy and really loves you, he will say, "It's your choice and I support you whatever you decide." Even if the relationship doesn't work out you can still give your child a good life. Your decision is between you and God. He will understand either way.

Answer 3

Since u don't have money to buy a pregnancy test borrow some money from someone. If u don't want anyone to know then lie about what it is for or just don't tell them and make sure u pay them back. If u r pregnant don't get a abortion the baby is your responsibility. If u want to get a abortion talk to your bf and parents adn know the effects it can have on your body. U knew u could get pregnant before and after u two had sex. Tell your parents and talk to them about it and then talk to your boyfriend. If he does leave make sure or at least try to get him to be in the child life. If he denies it, get a paternity test. Get a job and start saving up. That all the advice i can really give u.

Answer 4

First of all, you are both equally responsible for having unprotected sex and for a possible pregnancy. You say you know that your mom will support you. Tell her what has happened so that you know for sure if you are pregnant so that she can help you make the best decisions for you and the baby. Your mother will most likely be disappointed with your choices that you have made; you can't avoid that. If you are not pregnant she will most likely aid you in getting birth control now that she is aware that you are sexually active. And if you're not pregnant and you continue to have unprotected sex, you will become pregnant. This is not going to just "go away"...if you're mature enough to have sex then be mature enough to be protected so that you can continue to make the kind of choices that make both you and your mother proud of you. Your choices will be far more limited with a teenaged pregnancy. You cannot and do not have any control over your boyfriend's response or actions. He is also responsible for this. You do have a right to demand he use protection or NO MORE SEX.

Answer 5

First thing is first buy the test and do it alone before you open you mouth to anybody.
Don't pu55y foot around what you will say and do until you have your test results.

If you are pregnant you yourself need to make the decision on what to do Yourself nobody else should do it. Your future is in your hand it is up to you what you make of it.

Its a lot of pressure and sadly it would be early on in your life to have a baby which is a tragedy for you future as you kind of expect as a child you will have a whole lot of experiences to share with your kids but when you have a child and your still really a kid yourself you just have hard time to share at first. You have to do what is best for you and block of others pressure.
If your mom will be there than you are really lucky if that is what you want and if you think now before he knows if you are pregnant that he will be leaving you holding the baby then maybe he is not the right guy for you anyway.

Do the test take it easy one step at a time and email me if you need to talk.
[e-mail] I'm Sarah

Answer 6

Hi,
In away I know what you are going through and it sucks big time I just recently found out that I'm pregnant. And it is a wonderful thing. You say you don't have money to get a test well I live in Oklahoma and we have a womens clinic were you go get your birth control and ect. I don't know were you live but if you have one go because they well give it to you for free and they are not suppose to give out your info if you tell them not to because alot of girls don't want their mom or who ever to know. so try that first if not go to a dollar store and pick one up they are just as good as the others if not go to Wal-Mart or some kind of a store and get the cheapest one. But you schould let your boyfriend know that thier might be a chance but you are not for sure and if he is a good guy then maybe he well give you $5.00 or something to go get one and then tell your mom but the way that you sound is like your mom would be their for you in a heart beat and that is great especially if you boyfriend has nothing to do w/ you and if he doesn't then you don't need him and you well make it I don't know if this well help you out but I hope it does. And just remember that their are alot of girls out their that make on thier own.

Answer 7

You shouldn't feel responsible for the mistake that u both made 2gether. If u r pregnant and he leave u it wasn't ment 4 u 2 b with him. There are some free clinic out there that will help u with the test. If u r pregnant than u should let your mother know and you all can work it out. Don't worry about him if he not man enough 2 take care of his baby than he is not man enough 4 u. Please don't give that innocent baby up or have an abortion When I was pregnant I i told my mother and she was shocked but we delt with it it will be ok GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

you should have thought about this before, but you dont know for sure if your pregnant.
your first step is to get a pregnancy test, if you dont have money you can go to a planned parenthood they do it for free.
next step if positive or negative you need to get an STD test,
then if your positive you need to make a decision on to keep it , abortion , or adoption.
i had an abortion in march and I'm still depressed from it yet i know it was the best for everyone.
If you are pregnant, and your Bf doesn't want it , you need to consider what he wants also. many girls decide to keep the baby just to keep the guy

Answer 9

You've got to get that pregnancy test. Tell your mom that you need some money or something, just get the test. If you are pregnant, your boyfriend has no right blaming you for ruining his life. He made the baby! I wouldn't say anything to my mother until I was for sure. You need to talk to your boyfriend about it, though.

Answer 10

do NOT have an abortion. that can screw you up physically & mentally. you should get some money from a friend or someone you trust and get the pregnacy test. if it turns out that you ARE pregnant, you should tell your mom. your mom loves you and im sure she would help you out. (plus she would find out anyway) about your boyfriend, he cant get mad at you for ruining his life. it takes 2 to make a baby, and he happened to be that other person. so take a pregnacy test before you tell anyone that way you know for sure. best of luck! :-)