ok this is REALLY complicated for me and I don't know what to do. My friends sister is pregnant and she is thinking about aborting the baby and NEVER tell her family...I am TOTALY against abortions...but this is not me...its her and her body...I feel she should not be alone and she should be able to at LEAST talk to her sister about this...someone to be able to be there for her emotionally and supportive...and yes HOPEFULLY talk her OUT of doing this..I would talk to her...but she doesn't know I know...I found out because her boy friend can't keep his mouth shut, who by the way is the ONE trying to talk her into this....
2006-07-27 07:30:42 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know a lot of you are saying none of my buissness...but this is my friend I am talking about..how would YOU feel if YOU had a sister thinking about doing this..would you NOT be mad if you knew YOUR friend knew and DIDN'T tell you? I would not go to the one thats pg, I hardly know her...but I am very good friends with her sister...
2006-07-27 07:39:41 · update #1
no the one that is expecting is NOT a single mother..she has other children from other men, and your point is? kill it cause its another mouth to feed? I am not up for debate on abortion...my question is should I tell my friend that her sister is pg, whom is thinking about killing the baby inside her, simply because the father wants too...and no I am not a single mother...II have two children ages 3 and 7
2006-07-27 07:44:49 · update #2
I say if there is anyone that can talk any sense into her or anyone that she will listen to at all it would probably be her sister. I am completely against abortion too. I say tell her sister & don't worry about who gets pissed off at you for saying it. If someone does talk her out of it you will be glad that you told her sister but the baby may have no chance at all if you don't say anything. Do what you feel is the right decision.
2006-07-27 09:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by sweetamberwaves 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As a good friend, I would approach her to let her know that you are aware of her situation and without being judgemental, suggest that she either speak to her parents or encourage her to speak to a doctor regarding her decision and a counsellor to help her to make the best decision for herself. If she decides to continue the pregnancy, she is going to need medical care immediately as the first trimester is a critical time in providing the proper nutrients for the baby. If she is thinking about having an abortion then she needs proper counselling to make sure this is her decision and not coersion from the boyfriend. She is probably terrified right now and you could let her know that you will support her either way. I really stress that she should speak to her parents, no matter how hard that is. They really do know what's best for her and how to handle it. If you can't convince her to do that then offer to go to the doctor with her. This is too large an issue for her sister to have to deal with or to expect the sister to keep confidential, which would be extremely unwise and unfair. You could encourage her to have her sister help her to tell her parents if she is too afraid.
2006-07-27 07:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am the same way. I am against abortion except in a few special circumstances. All that aside, abortion can cause emotional trauma, so I would tell the sister. She shouldn't have to go through it alone, whether it is an abortion or adoption or even keeping the baby that she chooses. I had my baby when I was 16, and I couldn't have done it alone.
2006-07-27 07:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that her man is running his mouth you found out she was pregnant and if you can be there for her you will. Even if you are not for the abortion part just having someone to talk to helps as long as you can controll your thoughts on her and not what you belive in and yes that would be hard but a friend never judges one.
2006-07-27 07:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> I'm with ya 100% girl! << Whoa! First off, none of your business... BUT since her big mouth boyfriend is yappin, he just made it your business!
You have a duty as a friend to speak out girl! First talk to this girl (the one who is pregnant) and tell her that you heard it from her loser guy. Tell her that she needs to talk to her sister and her family about this. And she should NOT let anyone pressure her into doing anything she does not want to, but express to her that abortion has it's consequences.
She is going to have to fess up to someone! It's better she speak up than her family hear it from someone else. Also, if she does have an abortion, (I hope & pray not) she is going to have to deal with emotional and physical consequences. Better she do it with loved ones, then alone!
Let her know that you are concerned, and that she should consider accepting the consequences of her actions. If her guy is insisting she abort, he really does NOT love her! He's a scared, irresponsible, LOSER! >> If my best friend knew my sister was pregnant and wanted to get an abortion, and did NOT tell me.. I'd kick her @**! <<
2006-07-27 07:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can go either way. Either your friend hears it from someone else because the sisters boyfriend has a big mouth and you pretend that you didn't know OR tell her before the news gets to her just in case she finds out that you already knew. Personally, I would rather hear the news from a friend. I think that you should tell her.
2006-07-27 07:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the girl. it might stir up some confusion, but someone has to be sensible. That is a decision that she's gonna have to live with for the rest of her life, and just because some $@#!*&% guy is trying to pressure her, isn't a good enough reason.
Give her courage.....there are tons of single moms.
She will never be alone in the struggle.
2006-07-27 07:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Unbreakable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a touch spot to be in. I would tell your friend. You may have the sister mad at you, but in the long run, she will be thankful you spoke up and gave her sister a chance to be there for her in whatever decision she decides to make. Good luck and disregard the moron who wrote that it's none of your business and to butt out. You should speak up. If not, your lying by omission
2006-07-27 07:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by C H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, let me understand - she has a decision to make about her body, her future and his future and your place in this is where??? If the BF doesnt want a child and you convince her to have this child, are you going to pay his child support payments??. Are you going to raise this child until the age of 18 or 25 if they go to college.. What part of this childs life will you be. I dont agree with abortion either, but I at least know what my boundries are..
2006-07-27 07:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is none of your business. She is the one that is pregnant. Let her handle it. It will only cause problems if you tell her you know because you aren't supposed too. Just hope she does the right thing. Ultimately she is the one that has to make the decision and she will make whether or not you agree or not.
2006-07-27 07:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by AlyssaLeigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋