I heard somewhere that when picking a partner for life you take half the mans age and add seven years to it. It makes sense to me that the guy should be older since women do outlive men but how much older is appropriate? When is it considered "robbing the cradle?"
P.S. keep in mind this is picking a life partner NOT casual dating and your both going to grow old together.
2006-07-27 07:22:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that there is a 'perfect age' for people to be together as a couple. As long as both of them are over 18, then it should be fine.
As for me, I have dated younger guys, but we just didn't click for a long term relationship. That's why we moved on. But, I also know guys older than me that didn't click with me either. So, I don't think it's an age thing. I think it depends on each person's maturity and responsibility levels. When I was 19, I dated a guy that was 12 years older than me. It didn't work out. When I was 20, I met my ex husband and he is 10 years older than me. We were together 20 long, miserable years until I left for good and divorced him. I am now 41 and met my fiance last year--he is 54. He is very mature and responsible and we 'click' together like two peas in a pod. We consider each other soul mates.
I don't get hung up on the age thing. It's only a number. Age doesn't always bring maturity and responsibility. My ex husband is now 51 and STILL isn't responsible or mature!!! So, I say don't get hung up on the age thing (unless you are 21 or younger) and go for the one that makes you happy.
2006-07-27 08:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I consider age a number. I am very mature for my age of 25, have two children, I'm in school, I work, have my own place and my bf is 47. He also has a daughter whom is 22 and we all get along fine. Some people would consider our relationship as wrong and say that he's robbing the cradle, but we're happy, been together for almost three years and to tell the truth this is the most stress free, and happy relationship I have EVER been in. Everyone is different so I guess it depends on the persons individuality.
2006-07-27 07:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a lady irish girl but i am a little over middle aged ,, I will ask is this man a friend that has been known for some time? Have the 2 of them spent time together that the other can know them to a degree that they can take a chance to see weather or not it is a infatuation or more serious?, I can say that in a relationship it takes time to see weather a friendship can develop to a love relationship and being 26 he is very young and many changes can take place later in his life, you were asked weather or not you were rich and I personally do not see this but I ask if this woman u referring too has children for this may play a factor in her decision?. WOULD IT HURT TO much to go slow and see if this young man is serious ? what about the womans emotions towards him are their feelings their that would like to have him as a possible husband? HAS she been hurt before in a marriage that she scared to take a chance again ?all this is to be considered and if this young man has ever looked at her in a way that makes her uncomfortable? HAS he been respectful and cuteous? has she asked the Lord for guidance in this decision through prayer and even fasting? IF THIS WOMAN IS YOU DO U HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE Lord that u can know it is right for u to look into it further or is this young man a christian too that they both may inquire of the Lord to see his will ?
2016-03-27 02:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, legally the age is 18 (I think). It might be younger but who wants that? I am 33 and my husband is 33 so I guess that would be my answer. I wouldn't go out and look for someone that is exactly a certain age because you could be missing the person that is meant for you. If you have an attraction to someone and they have the same feelings for you, then age shouldn't really matter. Now, would I go out and marry someone that is a lot older than me (Anna Nicole Smith)? No, I wouldn't, but I also wouldn't turn someone away because I am 33 and they are 53 or even 23. I would have to be looking for other more important traits.
2006-07-27 07:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im almost 21 and my husband just turned 25 so I think its the perfect match. I dated younger man but thier wayyy too immature.
2006-07-27 07:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 15 years older then my man...don't care if I go first or not...Ive lived my life so far, to the fullest. Enjoy your life no matter you age!
2006-07-27 07:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id want my man to be between 30 and 35
2006-07-27 07:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by scorpionwoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be old enough to be my father. Or young enough to be my son. Everything else works.
2006-07-27 07:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋