Is that wrong? She is very attractive and fun and sweet but she does not want to do anything outside of missionary sex. No oral, no anal, no role play, no fun positions, no random locations. Its like one of those Capital One commercials- NO NO NO. Its not like Im asking for a 3 way. Both of our families are already making wedding plans and she is picking out houses. Im not a guy to cheat and Im afraid Im gonna regret having such a boring sex life if I marry her.
2006-07-27 07:20:55 · 70 answers · asked by Rob L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get her really drunk-everything else will work its self out
2006-07-27 07:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Don’t Tread On Me 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
I'm not a guy but I'll give ya my 2¢ anyway...if you HAVE tried to talk to her about it and she's not willing to do anything different, then yes...break up and go your own way. Sex isn't all there is to a relationship, but it is important...an unhappy or unsatisfying sexual relationship for either party will lead to other issues in the marriage/relationship (possibly including cheating)...
If you know this is a problem, you'd be a fool to go ahead and marry, knowing how you feel...someone else may find her satisfactory in bed...move on so she's got a chance to perhaps meet someone who digs her sexually...and so you can meet someone more in tune with your desires as well...
2006-07-27 07:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change... She'll probably get more into it in time if she is anything like you and if you show her how fun it is. If she isn't willing to try anything, my guess is that you should have chosen a more open-minded person. But yeah, you shouldn't marry someone just because of that! If you really loved her, how could you consider breaking up with her because of that? Maybe you are just too nervous here or frustrated at the moment about the whole commitment deal.
2006-07-27 07:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by flour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl, I know that it can get boring sometimes. Try suggesting something you know she'll go for. All girl like to feel beautiful--try picking out some sexy lingerie, or maybe a cute little costume. Just make sure it's nothing that will offend her.
You shouldn't try to talk her into something she's uncomfortable with, but maybe you can ease her into being a little more adventurous in bed. By starting with small things (lingerie, maybe some massage oils) you can show her that you aren't trying to change her, but just to liven things up a little.
It's a good thing to be adventurous, and just explain to her that you want things to work out, and keep things exciting!
2006-07-27 07:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have limited this question to just guys because all guys think alike.
Did you ever think it might be you and your approach? Some of the things you mentioned sexually, I know a lot of girls would not do. Don't compare a wife and mate to a hooker or someone to fulfill your every sexual need or want.
It sounds to me that you are using this excuse not to get married. It appears that you cannot think of another way out and this is all you have! If you are not ready, just tell her the truth. Please don't get married and maybe have kids and then get a divorce. It's much easier and less people get hurt, including the families, if you do it now.......Don't leave her with kids to raise on her own.
I think she would appreciate your honesty. If this is your idea of a sex life you cannot live without, give it up and get on with your life.
2006-07-27 07:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is worried that you won't see her as a potential wife and mother if she is sexually adventurous. You might want to explain to her, when not in the heat of passion, why you want to spice things up. Start with little things, like change up foreplay, things that are less overt. She may be satisfied or may not see any other way for her to have a climax. While I would not stay in a relationship without a satisfying sex life, if you are talking marriage then there is more to your relationship than just sex.
2006-07-27 07:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by one_derful_day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I can say never marry someone who is boring in bed. It should be fun, sexy, adventurous, romantic and even sometimes funny in bed. Keep in mind, you'll be sharing that bed virtually every night for the rest of the marriage. I suppose you could opt to just get good sleep!
2006-07-27 07:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by smartblondebelieveitornot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down with her and explained to her how important this is to you? I have to say I used to be one of those girls who only wanted to do it the "missonary" way until my boyfriend was like do you think we can try something else. Don't force it on her but slowly try something new. Rent a porno that has different positions in it and watch it together. While watching it ask her if there is something in there that turned her on and would like to try. Explain that exploring each others sexual abilities is fun and exciting that could add to your sex life. I would not think of splitting up with her just yet until you have explored all your options. Especially since your parents are picking out wedding locations and shes looking at houses. If this is someone that you truly want to spend your life with you will take the time and discover all the options. Who knows after investing the time to make her comfortable in the bedroom she love having sex and love the fact that you gave her the time to explore that with her. Best of luck...
2006-07-27 07:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok- wait....she won't let you perform oral on her?!?!?! wow! I think you should talk with her first about this and let her know how your feeling. You can't just drop her because of a boring sex life with out atleast trying to resolve that issue. If it can't be resolved...then you'll have to decide about the pros and cons of staying with her. Usually as a female matures they become more experimental...she could end up being pretty freaky (in a *fun* way) if you give her the chance!!! ;)
2006-07-27 07:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, she won't change...she's a product of her environment. The inhibitions are bread into her. Sex is dirty, sex is for making children...I'd guarentee that once a baby arrives, even the Mish position goes away. If a woman is afraid to touch me or play, I take it that she really downs't care about anything but herself. She only has sex because she's obligated..it's a duty. I can speak from 21 years of experience. and something I'm shortly gonna fix.
2006-07-27 07:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man don't be stupid. Be honest tell her what you feel and what you want. And try to LISTEN to her and find out why she doesn't want to have sex in other ways, there is a reason, I'm sure, all women have a really sensual and sexual side, they just have to get in touch with it, maybe she's not comfortable with having sex before marriage, or maybe she doesn't trust you, or have you considered that maybe you suck in bed? trust me, talk to her, for every problem in a relationship there is a reason to it.
2006-07-27 07:26:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋