Anybody have experience with marriage counseling? Does it actually help? What can I expect?
2006-07-27 07:17:53 · 13 answers · asked by roadtoad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage counseling is actually great. It teaches you to share everything with each other. Not to keep any secrets. That marriage is work. And not to give up at the first sign of difficulty. As for if it works or not well that depends on the person in counseling. And if they want make there marriage work.
But I would recommend that everyone who is planning to get married go through counseling. It will also help answer question that you may have been afraid to ask your significant other.
2006-07-27 07:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by chevy_gal73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good counselor will ask questions and not take sides. They usually start with 'What can I do for you.' or something along those lines. The BEST advice? Be honest and open. It's very possible you may say something and your hubby will get upset, but if it's something you feel you need to talk about that you can't seem to discuss with the hubby one on one, it's probably worth it. Counselor's are really there to direct conversation between you two and 'peel back layer's' by asking one question and asking for elaboration..etc..etc. They then usually offer some advice to do or try and it's your choice to take it or leave it. Sometimes we just don't communicate to our spouses in a way they can understand so the counselor can sometimes clarify and reword things so the other hears it correctly. In the end, counseling can help if you're both willing to really listen and work on what's suggested. If you both just go and expect the other to change, you're heading for failure. You have to be able to hear the good and bad, and be willing to change yourself.
2016-03-16 06:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't hurt any thing and may be a big help for you ---it is designed to help your marriage out! If you are speaking about counseling after marriage(some people get some counseling before hand) it will work if both people are there and really trying!!!! If he/she trys to put on a show for the counselor and does the yelling at home forget it!!!
2006-07-27 07:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have experience.
You can expect to pay less for counseling than you will pay for a divorce.
It helps if you both actually want to be married.
If you don't both want to stay married, you can go to counseling, and it will help you determine that one or the other or both of you don't want to be married. Then you'll likely get divorced, and sometimes that's better. I'm fine with my decision to get divorced, because I know that there was nothing more that I could have done to fix my marriage, and unlike a lot of divorced people I know, I have "closure" for lack of a less tacky word.
Good luck
2006-07-27 07:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i just married in May of this year and it was required for us to go to marriage counseling if we wanted to get married in the church....it helped us a little bit on how to deal with problems, but you sortof learn how do know and deal eachother through living everyday with eachother.
2006-07-27 07:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by errnmann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling helps if its excepted with a positive attitude. Both of you have to be open & honest about everything to have it make a difference. If the lies still don't change, then you are wasting your time.
2006-07-27 07:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , You will lurn how to hear each other . If you will do as they tell you. Most people are so worked up in what they want to say they don't hear what the other person is saying.
2006-07-27 07:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a joint effort between spouses....and you must know marraige counselors are not there to make you feel good...their job is to point out problems and to show you how to solve them...hearing painful reminders of ones own role in marriage is not easy ...but if your willing to give your all to save your marriage ...listen..and try to make the necessary changes. even if one spouses decideds not to go to therapy ...going alone can and sometimes does save the marriage....good luck love
2006-07-27 07:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will offer a series of compromising situations that you will try to rationalize as which is best for you.
Good luck
2006-07-27 07:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got nothing out of it he lied the whole way thru the more i talked he over talked me i really wanted it to help us but if either party dont want to be there or isnt honest forget all about it
2006-07-27 07:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋