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2006-07-27 07:16:37 · 6 answers · asked by strawberry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well here is your very first lesson on what it takes to make a marriage work........compromise. I highly doubt he is "just saying that". He may just want you guys to take your time and have plenty of time to plan the wedding so its not so stressfull. Planning a wedding is hard work and isn't something that needs to just be thrown together. The fact of the matter is he wants to marry you. If you are going to be together forever whats the rush? Does it really matter if it happens tomorrow or 3 years from now? You need to get use to not getting everything you want and you also need to get use to putting his needs before your own. If you can't compromise about the wedding date then you guys are in trouble before you even start. Give him props for wanting to do things right. I highly doubt most men propose thinking that they are going to have to walk down the isle immediately upon asking. A year engagement is about average and by no means unreasonable. Once you get married you will learn to pick your battles. This is one I would give to him considering its what most people do anyway.
2006-07-27 07:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend said the same thing originally and then I expained to him that we could just marry with immediate family and very close friends and have a dinner for all of us. After this we could have a party or so for everybody. It's better financially and then you don't leave anybody out because of financial reasons.
And you get to spend the day with the ppl who really matters instead of being tugged in all directions.
2006-07-27 07:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would not favor to marry you. If he "receives annoyed" each and every time you carry it up, that ought to allow you to recognize something. Did you purchase this abode at the same time? did you help %. it out? Is he letting you %. out issues for it? And he ought to have somebody else in options for the pastime. and that i consider you why wait, if both one among you're settled in a mushy pastime and funds seems no situation, why wait to any extent further? he's not that dedicated to you, or your courting. it will be time to flow on. do not forget that I easily have study extra of your information, He purely may experience forced by each and every man or woman to get married. Do you imagine that purely per chance he ought to like it to be his theory?? decrease backpedal!!
2016-10-15 06:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already don't trust him. Is this a strong basis for marriage? Talk to him. Ask him if he has other reasons for wanting to wait. Tell him why you want to go ahead and get married. If you can't have an honest, adult conversation, you aren't ready to get married.
2006-07-27 07:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be true or he could have cold feet as the saying goes. What's your reason for wanting to rush into marriage. It's not all wine & roses, it should be given a lot of thought if its for the right reasons.
2006-07-27 07:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex told me the same thing...but he wanted 2 years.
That is why he is my ex. Especially when we've been toghether for 5 years. I thought why in the world would he want 2 more years?
CONCLUSION: He wanted to get married just not with me.
2006-07-27 07:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋