Why do men cheat?

Question

I am in a commited relationship with a man whom I have spent the last 3 plus years with. My issue is this, since about a year ago when I started looking at the phone bills I started noticing odd numbers being called. I kind of went about my business and figured it was probably nothing well some of the numbers continued to show up on new bills. So I finally confronted him and he said he was sorry all over the place and told me he wouldn't do it anymore. Well now I am finding strange numbers again and when I use the reverse directory it just about all comes up with a womans name. When I discovered him making these calls again was around the same time we had broken up and then gotten back together. Do you think that if you call, IM, or meet in person with another woman that if you get back together with your suggnificate other that you should tell them? I dont want to play games nor do I want to have a man who feels the need to seek attention with other women. What do u think I should do?

Answer 1

Personally and I am sorry to say this but I think you should break away from him completely. He has already admitting to cheating on you once and I am not so sure that he isn't doing it again. I think when he told you he was cheating on you and apologized that made me think he wanted to be committed to you. If that is the case then yes he should have told whoever he was cheating on you with that it was over between them and that he wanted to stay with you. If the numbers keep coming up on your phone bill I would once again confront him and tell him that it was over. Walk away with any pride you have left now before you lose it all later. Best of luck.

Answer 2

First of all there are just as many women who cheat as there are men so your question should be why do people cheat. Secondly people usually cheat because they are lacking something in their current relationship. If you are serious about saving your relationship and can truly forgive him for his past transgressions then you need to figure out a way for the two of your to communicate with each other better. Sit down in a non-hostile environment and tell each other what you expect/need from the other person. It will give him the opportunity to tell him what he is getting from these other people that he isn't getting from you without him feeling like he is going to get attacked by doing so. Don't make him feel like everything is his fault. Acknowledge that you realize that you aren't perfect and have your faults and are willing to work on them as long as he will communicate with you and let you know what those things are. Many couples have survived infidelity but it takes both people giving it 100% to succeed. I hope it works out for you.

Answer 3

It isn't your place to tell these 'other women' that you are back together with your man. It's HIS obligation to do so if he wants to be in a committed and adult relationship.

Everyone can make a mistake. You are a strong lady to have forgiven him the first time. When he does it multiple times, think twice about giving him more opportunities to hurt you.

There are committed, mature men out there who do not cheat - I promise you that.

Answer 4

Men cheat because they can, and women let them get away with it. You, for example, have forgiven him at least twice.

Should he tell her he is back with you? No, why bother. You broke up with him once and can do it again. He should keep as man women on the line as he can, so as not to be alone. Say he dumps her, then a week later you dump him, then he will be alone...but not if he keeps her on the back burnner.

You might just want to move on, he sounds like a real player

Answer 5

You answered your question by saying you don't want a man who seeks attention from other women. Either you stay or leave, but he's not going to tell the truth or stop what he's started, OK. Do what makes you happy.

Answer 6

get away now i wish i would have i forgave mine 3 times this is the 4 time its over i regret not opening my eyes the first time sorry they do not do not change i know myself how much we wnt them too & the better we treat them the worse they abuse ue maybe u dont see it this way but i realized one thing it is mental abuse i am married pleae i beg u dont be a fool like me u can find 100 times better out there or enjoy your life trustinj yourself no trust there definetly is no love sorry its hard for me to we are still married not 4 much longer we cant even look at each other anymore without an arguement tell me what is it worth

Answer 7

First off I just want to say that not only men cheat... a lot af girls do too.. Just keep asking him whats going on. if he wants to keep playing around give him an altimatum, he stops or you'll leave.... thats what i would do... Say you aren't gonna let him plays games around you and that you want more of him then what u are getting... if he still doesn't stop callin gher, then leave him... why waste your time on a loser.

Answer 8

He's a man ain't he, it they have a d i c k then their going to be thinking with it. Sorry but mine cheated too and the "i'm sorries and the i'll never do it again came a little too late.

Answer 9

If you keep letting it go it gonna keep happening. Men don't always cheat I am blessed with a loyal honest man. Confront him and dump his lame ***. You deserve better then that if he loved you he wouldn't keep doing it.

Follow your womanly instinct, listen to your heart AND your brain.

Answer 10

you keep forgiving him, that's why he keeps doing it! this is why women are considered the weaker sex because of people like you! Have some pride in yourself and stand up for yourself! We let our emotions control us! They let their ***** control them! Get up and leave his a**!