and all of my doctors have given me between 1 to 3 years to live.Of course they all try to give me encouragement and tell me about this miracle and that miracle...I have gone through the period of disbelief and anger....but I no longer resent my destiny. I think that's how it should be. I am ready, as I have been for the past 2 years (I really did take life for granted in those years).I don't even think I am to live that long. My heart tells me a few months is all.I have not told my family. I don't have the courage to. I love my son so much.I can't think of leaving him and often think of what he would do without me being there for him.I don't know if it's better to let them know. What would you do? And thanks in advance for answering.
2006-07-27 07:12:15 · 12 answers · asked by onlyhuman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a father, or as my 7 year old son calls me Babs!
2006-07-27 07:38:28 · update #1
I think if I were in your family I would want to know. I don't really think that knowing will make the loss any easier but it will make it so they can make the most out of the time they have left with you. Don't give up hope, you never know what could come along in the way of treatments.
2006-07-27 07:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey!
I dont want to tell you how sorry i am. But i m sure telling you that i am here if you want to talk about it, any time. Feel free to use my email.
Now, i ll get right to the point. My girlfriend is an intestine cancer survivor for two years. I told her once that if something similar happend to me i would never told my mother, because i know that this would kill her day by day and would make me worse... She told me that they have the right to know, they have the right to prepare theirselves (i know you can never be prepared for this...), they have the right to express you the love and know that when you live they had the chance to tell you how much they love you. I think i agree with her. Her family knows about her health condition and try to be supportive and loving. Ofcourse they are sometimes sad but what can we do? You didnt choose anything of these... But you have the right for support, mostly by the people who are nearest to you.
Sorry my english (i am from greece).
Hope i helped you somehow. And i hope you find all the courage you need.
2006-07-27 07:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Limosn@ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, im very sorry. You need to tell your family right away so thta they can be with you. My mom is very upset, see her brother(my uncle) didnt tell anyone he had Cancer my mom found out when his wife called from the hospital. She had a plane ticket for Saturday which was 2 days after the call, he passed away before she could get there and it was devastating for her. Not because he had passed (That hurt her too) but because she couldnt see him before hand. She did however talk to him on the phone and told him she was on her way and that she loved him. Dont deprive you and your family of the time you have left. Surround yourself with the people that love you believe me its the right thing to do. God bless you and dont be scared.
Love, a stranger that cares
2006-07-27 07:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be better to tell them then let them find out the hard way. because they all want to say goodbye and tell u they love u. because when i was 5 my grandpa die of cancer and i know i was young but i would like to have got to say goodbye and i love u for the last time. but see i did not get that chanes my mom did not even let me go to his f. well i am sorry to hear about that and i hope u will take my avice.
2006-07-27 07:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tristin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this yes do tell them you will need their love and support and they would be resentful for you hiding it I have had so many people I know fully beat cancer after a doctor prescribed death sentence please don't give up and God Bless You
2006-07-27 07:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by wvgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need 2 tell them.
It's only fair they should know, how would U feel if it was UR dad & he didn't tell U?
It's better 4 UR family 2 B prepared.
2006-07-27 07:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my family and close friends and then enjoy every minute I had with them. Life is too short as it is to worry over trivial things.
2006-07-27 07:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by odi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg yes...tell ur family and close friends...dont need to tell the world...but the ones u really care about ..yes u must tell them...not only for you ..but for them as well....no one wants to die...and when its our time...we all sit and say or wish we said things we never had the chance to...for one...it gives ur loved ones a a chance for closure...and two...give you the chance to be at piece with yourself....trust me...been there..and going thru it myself!
good luck and god bless you love ..../hugz
2006-07-27 07:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want to know. It will give them the opportunity to properly say goodbye in the time you have left.
2006-07-27 07:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! AND LIVE LIFE LIKE TODAY IS YOUR LAST DAY ON EARTH, DO IT UP SO YOU'LL HAVE NO REGRETS AND INCLUDE YOUR FAMILY. FUN SHOULD B ALL THAT U THINK ABOUT NOW. B STRONG AND TAKE CARE..........
2006-07-27 07:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋