I've been with my husband 8 years married for 4 years.We have custody of my stepdaughter and yet her mother wants child support for the one month that she gets her a year,now the problem is that she hasen't done anything to help us in the past year and we haven't taken her for child support, should we?
2006-07-27 06:59:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think she should pay child support. If you and your husband have full custody then why should she not help in providing for her? If she had full custody, don't you think she would want everything she could get? Why does she want child support for one month? Is she lazy and doesn't work? I think your husband has been overly nice by not demanding it but if nothing else, you need to get it for your step daughter. She needs to know that her mother also helps to provide for her. It will send a positive message to the child. Best of luck!
2006-07-27 07:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by blondie7795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be asking because she does not feel that she can compete financially. Most states have a minimum support amount that a noncustodial parent must pay in support of their children and there are deductions for extraordinary overnight visits, but in general she will not be entitled to child support for visitation time.
Do you feel that you need child support from this woman? If you are more financially secure you may not want the legal hastles that setting a support order can create. While I feel that every parent should take responsibility for their children, this includes financial, that is just not a reality. I would count my blessings that your husband is a good father, let her initiate a request for child support if she so chooses and not begin one yourself unless you need the money for your child. Chances are if she initiates a proceeding then she will be ordered to pay you support.
Lastly if the court orders support payments TAKE THEM. If nothing else start a trust fund with the money.
2006-07-27 07:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by one_derful_day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that child is with you most of the year, then she should be paying child support. What makes her any different than a father who doesn't have custody and has to pay child support? What are you waiting for, go to court and demand child support for this child, if she had her, she would be there so fast, it isn't funny. She really has a lot of nerve asking for child support for the one month a year she has her. I can see why she doesn't have custody. Good luck. I hope your husband goes through with this.
2006-07-27 07:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister has the same problem she has raised her step children for 11 years and the mom took one of the boys for 2 months for the summer she went and applied for welfare and know my brother in law got a child support order from welfare because of it and she hasnt paid a dime in the whole 11 years. My sister and her husband have decided to sue her for back child support and im not saying that you should but its preety ridiculous and nervey of these absent parents, dont you think?
2006-07-27 07:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be funny if it wasn't true. First, is there any order of support for anyone (ie in a divorce decree or something like this)? If yes, petition the court to remove it at once. If no, simply have your HUSBAND tell her she can contact support enforcement in your state and they can file this motion for her. Of course, once you are severed you can request the support be paid for the other 11 months of the year by her...she would doom herself without either of you ever doing anything "mean" or "nasty". It brings a smile to your face, doesn't it?
2006-07-27 07:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband an d i just went through the whole child support thing not too long ago. i think that if she's trying to punk your husband and yourself for money for the one month that she has her you guys should most definetly try to get child support from her a s s. in the stat of california you can get depending on both biological parents income about $300 - $640 amonth for child support.
2006-07-27 07:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Maria Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-28 17:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by likins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to court and have her pay her share of the child support - it took two people to make her - not one.
2006-07-27 07:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with your husband and see what he would want to do. Then he should discuss it with his baby's momma. Then you should stay out of it after that.
2006-07-27 07:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by sara bellum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely. If she wants to play hardball, then give her a good game of it.
2006-07-27 07:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋