Feel like I am bothering the wife...?

Question

I travel a lot for work. I am usually gone 3 out of 4 weeks during a month. A lot of times when I call my wife while on the road, I feel like I am bothering her. It's the tone of her voice that makes me think this. I ask her if I caught her at a bad time and she always snaps at me.

What should I make of this?

I have tried talking to her about it and she says I am just reading into things. I have tried to get her to come join me while I am traveling and there is always some excuse.

Answer 1

Well are you calling her 5 times a night? If not your her husband and you have every right to call her when you choose to unless your calling her a 2am. Sounds like something is going on btwn you to and you both need to put it on the table. She should appreciate the fact that you love her enough to make sure everythings okay. I would be offended if my husband didn't do so. Talk to her about it.

Answer 2

She hates you. You aren't saying the right things. You don't express that you miss her enough--or she doesn't believe you when you do say it. She thinks you are cheating on her--and that REALLY pisses her off but she can't prove it. She doesn't get enough attention or affection from you. You DON'T CALL ENOUGH to tell her that you just miss her and wanted to hear her voice. When you do call she probably gets the feeling that you expect her to just drop everything she is doing and hang on YOUR every word instead of asking how she is or how she is coping. Or maybe she's cheating on you and you are bothering her because she is over the whole marriage. But i think it's mostly all things i said before that because it doesn't sound like she's guilty and trying to be mad at you to turn it around on you as much as she sounds pissed that she is going through a lot and YOU are never there for her. That's just my opinion. Being gone that much sucks for a marriage.

Answer 3

I would come home a little early and peek in the windows if I were you. Then you can see for yourself why she might be snapping at you.

I am always happy to hear from my guy who is gone alot, can't wait to hear his voice, so if she acting annoyed I would try and find out why.

Hope she's just stuck on yahoo answers or something!

Answer 4

My husband doesn't travel but he does work and I stay at home with our 2yr old and 1 mo old. He always calls when one is crying and the other wants to eat or he is getting into everything and it pisses me off that he just calls me like nothing and wants to chat when I am going nuts at home and then when he gets home he expects me to leap into his arms and tell him how much I love him! By the time he gets home my son is ready for dinner and my daughter is screaming and all i want is for him to hurry up and eat dinner so that he can take one of them off my hands and then he has the nerve to come home pissed because he says i don't pay attention to him.........maybe you should really consider trying to find a job that doesn't require so much traveling. I don't know how you guys can hold a marriage together when you are only home 1 week out of a month.....to me and this is my opinion........I know you work and you have to make money but sometimes money is just not worthing loosing your marriage to. I know this cause my husband buys me things takes me out...ect.........but it means nothing to me if i am home alone to enjoy what he bought me.......Its just my thought. Talk to her and she what she thinks about you getting a job close to home where you don't have to travel so much but may be less money.......see what she thinks......she may jump with excitement and if she is doesn't it may be to late, she probably is cheating since you are never home.....I'm sorry :(

Answer 5

Oops! I don't know, but I do know when my husband was out on the road, it was stressful. I may have been snappy at him at times, when I was busy, but I don't think it was all the time.

She may be peeved that you have to be gone all the time. I don't know but you may want to have a good long talk when you come home and just tell her how it seems to you. Be open and talk about your feelings, and hopefully it isn't nothing!

Answer 6

I think she is angry because you are not around.It is very hard to be married and yet be alone.Think about it,when you're not around she has to do everything in the house take care of the kids ,and everything else. It is very hard .She probably doesn't know how to express her anger.I do not think she's cheating.I think you should try to find a job that lets you stay at home more often.

Answer 7

your wife probably misses you. Is there a chance of taking her along some time, or sending her flowers . Do you have kids and she is the lone ranger with this task.. If you want to save your marriage , you might want to change jobs . Woman get lonely, need of nurturing , hugs, reassurance.

Answer 8

It doesn't sound good. Personal experience. I would be a little leery. She might she might not be up to no good. I like the idea of coming home unexpectedly. It should clear up a few things and it may put your troubled mind at ease. And you judge by her reaction.

Answer 9

Just ask her. It would be easy to jump to conclusions here, but it could just be that she's annoyed that you're gone all the time. The point is, you don't know.

Answer 10

honey, maybe there is something at the bottom of the issue!!! Maybe she doesn't like you being gone that much. I dont know personal opinion, i just think there is more to the problem!!! sorry!