They have been serious for about 6 months, and I saw him kissing someone who wasn't my best friend and I've seen him and this girl together more than once. Should I tell her, because she thinks that he's out with his guy friends. Plz help!
2006-07-27 06:48:30 · 38 answers · asked by jessi_2089 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Think about it this way. Would you want your best friend knowing about your boyfriend cheating and her not telling you?
2006-07-27 06:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this is your best friend, you should tell her. If she were a mere acquaintance, I would say stay out of it and mind your own business, but your best friend is your business. She may become defensive of him but accepting that your boyfriend is cheating is hard, especially if she thinks that she is in love with him. She deserves to know the truth. Be ready for the possibility that she might remain in the relationship with him. The choice is hers. At least you will arm her with the truth and she can make an informed decision about the status of her relationship. Good luck.
2006-07-27 06:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation before and the best thing for you to do is keep your mouth shut. Mainly, because we as women tend to always get upset with the other person rather than our mate when we find out information on our mate that could be damaging to our relationship. This is when the army rule should come in handy for everyday life "Don't Ask Don't Tell." If you tell her she is going to become angry with you and then she is going to feel like your making these accusations because you are jealous of her relationship. If you want to help just find ways to get her to see it for herself. Say, you see him out with someone else at a particular location call her and ask her if she wants to join you somewhere so you guys can chat thats nearby where you seen them at. If she see's it then it is on her but don't get involved in it
because it will cause trouble between your relationship. Sometimes, being a best friend means minding your own business.
2006-07-27 06:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Revea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've asked the same questions many times in my life, unfortunetly. And a lot of people say "it's none of your business" but I don't agree with that. Us girlfriends have to stick together, and if it means giving her news that will upset her now, but help her later, than you should tell her. Of course she will get hurt, but it's not your fault, and if you don't tell her and her feelings develop even more for this cheater, she'll get hurt worse in the long run. Help your friend out, let her know what she's dealing with, and then let it go.
2006-07-27 06:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell exactly what you saw--no embellishment. If she doesn't want to hear what you have to say, then stop and tell her you'll talk about it when she's ready to listen. She may even be upset with you at first, but if you give her some time to absorb the information and decide what to do, she'll come around. Most of all--be kind.
2006-07-27 06:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you tell your best friend about their boyfriend cheating, they will get mad at you thinking that you are jealous or so. My suggestion, make a picture of them kissing with you phone camera and media message it to her. She'll get it. Or try to find out when the two of them are going to meet and have your friend standby unknowingly to see the real deal.
2006-07-27 06:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with telling her, but make sure that you get proof of it i.e. pics of him kissing the other girl, holding hands. Because with some females they might think that you may want their man (even the best friends).
2006-07-27 06:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by clmcmillon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your friend about it, but first, give the cheater a chance. Tell him that you saw what he was doing and that you are going to tell your friend about it tomorrow. Give him a chance to tell her. If he doesn't tell her, then you should. And you should also be prepared to help her deal with a cheater. It wasn't just an innocent thing...he knew exactly what he was doing. Call him on it but give him a chance to tell her himself.
2006-07-27 07:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by RedyRob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would mind my own business, and say nothing about this to anyone. Thre have been cases similar to this one when the best friend and other party teamed together against the well meaning person who snitched.
2006-07-27 06:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a cemera phone you need to take a picture of who he's with & or what they are doing. Then bring it to your friend and let her know that you're her friend and as a friend you saw "so&so" with someone else. Let her see the photo and be her support if she gets very emotional.
2006-07-27 07:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋