do you think its his true feelings coming out> Every morning after he says sorry and kisses my but i dont understand
2006-07-27 06:40:58 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-07-27 06:41:43 · update #1
Next time he's sober, dump him. It's not fair to you when he plays with your emotions like that. It's not going to get better. He's not going to stop dumping you. Move on. Find someone who is deserving of your love and companionship and let your alcoholic boyfriend go.
2006-07-27 06:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Tia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Understand this. If your boyfriend routinely gets drunk and is verbally abusive and disrespectful, he has issues. If you remain in this relationship, his treatment of you will get increasingly worse. His intoxication is just an excuse to be a jerk. Don't play this game with him. If he has done this more than once, he is fully aware that drinking is a problem for him. If he still drinks knowing that his behavior while under the influence of alcohol is asinine and cruel, then his chances of being an alcoholic are great. Alcoholism is much bigger than you and him. He needs help and you can't change or save him. Run like the wind now if you can and will. You will save yourself a lot of sorrow and strife.
2006-07-27 06:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you have to figure out if he has a drinking problem and if he does you don't need to have him in your life or your sons. If he knows what he does when he is drunk then he knows what he is doing!!!!these are his true feeling and alchol just allows him the courage to express himself. Your son and you deserve respect. your deserve a man who loves you all the time and has no question whether drunk or sober whether he wants to be with you. If he can hurt your feelings over and over what makes you think that he is sincere every time he says he's sorry? love yourself and your son and find a man that considers your feelings at all times. Do you want to continue to wait for the breakup and heart break with the next drink. If you do just by stock in Kleenex because you will need them.
2006-07-27 07:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by micki D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds mentally deranged. If, when a person is drunk and they express things radically different than when they are sober, this means that they are internalizing their true feelings and outwardly acting in a different manner.
A person's behavior on the outside, should, to some degree, mirror who they are on the inside.
I think he has some serious emotional issues. If it requires alcohol for him to express them, this means that he is afraid to speak his true feelings while he is sober.
It could be that he is harboring homosexual feelings that he is in denial about. Could be he hasn't resolved an argument he had with you 6 weeks ago and is hurt but doesn't want to appear "weak" by admitting he was hurt by something you did.
I'd recommend that you ask him a lot of open-ended questions. If he responds with one syllable answers, that tells me that he has created an emotional wall between you and he (guys do this all the time, it's their gutless way of saying they are afraid of their feelings). If he cannot open up to you, his behavior will affect you eventually. Therefore, suggest a break up with him and see if he opens up. If he doesn't open up his feelings, you'll never know who he REALLY is and THEREFORE, he does NOT deserve to be with a special person like you who cares about him (I'm assuming that you are very open to him about your feelings).
2006-07-27 06:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this bad relationship!!! You deserve a better man! I had also bad relationships in the past and they could have ruined my life!! I finally realized I needed a good man and I started to meet nice, wonderful men...20 yrs ago.
Now, I'm married for over 15 years to the Best Man ever!! Later on in our marriage, I got very sick and I can't help in the household chores due to my arthritic pain. He is the best! He makes dinner, he 's just the best man ever! If I had been married to my first husband who was abusive, I would really be in a bad way. A good man takes care of you and he stays with you in thick n thin.
Getting drunk and then breaking up and then apologing to you, if it happened once, you could forgive. But if this is a chronic thing, you need to get out of this relationship before it becomes violent & more abusive. I take it that you aren't married yet. Beleive me, that once he says I do, he will become more possessive, more abusive, he'll apologize less and he won't give up the drinking. He needs to get his life together by giving up drinking & go to AA and you need to leave him and go to Alanon, or join a group for those involved with alcholics, such as Children of Alcholics, etc. His drinking is ruining your life!!
I gather that you are young and that you have plenty of years to meet another man who treats you well! Don't ruin your youth and then one day find yourself married & old, it's much easier to meet men while you are still young!
2006-07-28 03:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by JosyMaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared about you he would not dump you even if he was drunk. And if he knew he kept dumping you when he is drunk he would do the smart thing by either not getting drunk or not getting drunk around you. He is not worth being with if he continues to get drunk and do that. Find yourself a gentleman who will treat you right.
2006-07-27 06:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to deal with someone who drinks alot and then dumps you. Don't you have any pride or dignity. Women stop the abuse. If you let him get away with it just because he was drunk would you let him get away with it if he cheats on you. Being drunk its not an excuse. He made that choice so he should know what the consecuences are.
2006-07-27 06:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this happen often? Maybe YOU may want to rethink your relationship he may be giving you a glimpse into your future and doesn't sound very promising to me at all. Even if he kissed your butt after wards it's not worth arguing and fighting every time he gets drunk. Take care of yourself first....always!
2006-07-27 06:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Steffy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok girl.....why would you want to be putting yourself through this little "game" he plays? You sound like you are relativily grounded and trustworthy so then why are you giving it to someone whom had none of these qualities? There are so many wonderful men out there....and you are wasting you time with "Mr. I am sorry for getting drunk YET AGAIN and breaking your heart all at the same time". Move on girl there are plenty of men out there that are looking for a great woman. Start fishing !!!
2006-07-27 06:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him so drunk he passes out, then put red lipstick on and kiss his abdomen and sign it love whoever and then leave a note saying sorry hun, but i may have given you this STD, signed by the same name. You can also put beer caps in his undewear and zip up his jeans, nothing like sharp things sticking into your boys to wake you up. Take pictures too, post them on the net. Dump him of course.
2006-07-27 06:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋