My kids are afraid to go to their dad about things cause all he does is yell at them. This has been going on for ALONG time I'm tired of it and I think it is time we split up.He never thinks he is wrong and never says sorry about anything he does. If we fight it is ALWAYS me who has to say sorry and take the blame. I've been doing this for 6 years. I think I have worked hard enough??
2006-07-27 06:38:03 · 11 answers · asked by Colleen C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think if you still love your husband and being a family...you should go get some help. all of you. if your husband doesnt agree to this and continues these ways...then it is time to go and take your kids from a verbally abusive household.
2006-07-27 06:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your husband should go to marriage counseling. If he doesn't agree to go, then he isn't willing to except the fact there is something wrong with your marriage and he will never change. You can't do it all yourself. It won't work if he isn't willing to go to counseling, too. If he does go, great. Good luck to you both! If not, he's not willing to except the fact that something is wrong in the marriage and he'll never change. That's when I would take the kids and leave. File for divorce. It's too bad, too. But I wish you a lot of luck! But remember, it's NOT your fault. If you were willing to try to work things out and he wasn't, then you did the best you could. I hope things work out for you.
2006-07-27 13:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOmetimes parents stay together for the good of the children and end up doing more harm than good. My parents stayed together for thirty years before my siblings and I sat them down and advised them to separate and move on. That was sad- we were ages 26, 20, 18 and 10.
We thanked them for staying together for us but knew they were not happy so my dad moved out. Neither of them had another partner since (that we know : )) but at least they weren't fighting any more.
If you can financially support your kids and think that this is really best for them I say go for it. Sometimes one loving parent is a lot better that having both- one scary and the other scared.
Good luck and I believe you can do it. My mom did!!! She fully supported her kids in all aspects- financially, morally, spiritually, etc and we never felt as though we missed out, and that was even before dad left. That's why when he left no one even needed to adjust.
2006-07-27 14:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he agrees to some major family counselling, or leave. Your kids will grow to be anxious adults and the last thing you need is for them to behave the same way with their children.
Again, if he's not willing to change, then take your kids away from that type of hurtful environment. They are the ones who are suffereing far worse than you are. Think of the kids.
2006-07-27 13:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he having any stress outside which is making him so or is there any other women? try finding out what his problem is not by fighting with him but by being understanding with him and talking to him like a friend. if hes been like that all the time since your marriage then i think hes a nag. if you want you can go in for a divorce if thats what you are thinking about. take your kids advise too. thats very important.
2006-07-27 13:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seam your husband is tired of the kids and you he just want to be left alone he doesn't want the stress of a family i think all he need is a maid to cook his dinner and then go away
well my opion is you need to move out for the kids sake and for your but be prepared this is not going to go over easy because he going to think about child support lawer he is going have to pay
for plus all of the bills and that is a lot of money that going have to come out of his pocket and since he has no clue about what you are thinking about doing then when he come home and find that you and the kids are gone that really going to piss him off so this is what i think you should do is file a police report on him for child abuse and the abuse he has put against you so it on record when you go to court then when you decide to move out make sure you go to a safe place to were he cant find you but make sure you tell the police were you are so he cant file charges against you for kidnapping the children so you are covering your self in two ways bye filing a police report about abuse and telling them your internecine i wish you all good luck.
2006-07-27 14:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut instinct. Seek counseling first though. IF he wont go then go with yourself and the kids. It's really a shame your kids are afraid of their own father. If all else fails, leaving him might be the wake up call he needs.
2006-07-27 13:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Rasi E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you've worked hard enough! It will be harder for you if you stay there because you kids will grow up thinking its normal, so for the sake of your children, leave him! Its not just because of the children that you should divorce him, its because you guys don't agree on things! You look at life differently!
2006-07-27 13:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by lila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM, your kids should come first. No telling what damage is being done to them. They are your precious treasure and you should treat them as such. Your gut is not wrong that is your motherly instinct talking. Make their lives and your a better place and move on. Good luck.
2006-07-27 13:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real jerk. But are you sure there isnt something going on with him that is causing this behavior? Or has he always been this way. If he has always been this way then maybe you admit your mistake and move on.
2006-07-27 13:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋