We went out for 5 yrs..I'm having the healing process on my own and everything is great. I keep telling myself..he's not the old guy I loved. When everything seems alright, I logged in friendster today and found him joined friendster, he used to say he wouldn't use it 'cause that's stupid...and now he joined the same ring which I've joined and put up lots of pictures of his new girlfriend...he wrote her lots of testis...almost 1 testi a day...saying he loves only her and it's the greatest moment in his life to know her and nothing can be compared with her...my heart thumped heavily..but I managed not to cry...just few weeks before I still asked myself if we'd have chance to get back and now I'm sure it's hell no...I won't go back to the guy who say I'm a 'nothing' and make his new girl the Queen..I dun want to be a doormat..
just want to pour it all out and get some support...
2006-07-27 06:37:55 · 14 answers · asked by jeannieC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hear you. Well, you see what kind of a guy he is. I know it's an easy answer but you should be happy you did not marry him. Soon, you'll see him going from one girl to another while, you are grieving this relationship and at the same time, getting ready for a real man.. one who will not be afraid of committment, one who will treat you like a real queen. Don't think for a second that he will make this new girl happy.. the guy is not happy with himself, he probably never learnt to love himself so it's almost impossible for him to love another person.. not even a goldfish. Anyway, I understand what you are going through. I know it's tough, I'm still into the grieving period. But I know for a fact that there is a good life after a bad breakup - I saw it happening. What is important here is that you take good care of yourself. If you need to cry, just do it. There is no harm in crying, it's healthy and helps to move on faster. Write all that comes to your mind.. memories, good feelings you had with him, bad ones too.. read them often. You'll make it I know you will. Good luck, be strong.
2006-07-27 06:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shaana 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Here. Have a shoulder. He sounds like no good, and you deserve so much better. If he does this now whats gonna change later on?? NOTHING. Unless he wants to change , it won't happen. Don't be the doormat , you are worth much more than that .
Chin up and go get 'em!
2006-07-27 06:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lily18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. My ex does that to me with his new girlfriend. I think there is a site manager for friendster. Ask them what can be done to get him out of your ring.
2006-07-27 06:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a commitment problem, you should thank the new girlfriend for saving you from this total asshole. You are much, much better off without him, and deserve someone who will treat you like a queen. He's out there. Best wishes.
2006-07-27 06:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on and stop living with any hope of getting back with him as he has surely moved on. It's no use saying you wont go back to him, he has someone else.
I feel for you though and know your feelings. I moved across the country because of one guy I dated for 5yrs who found someone and I still loved him but after a while realized what we had was over he moved on and it was my turn.
2006-07-27 06:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by moglie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay. start doing things for you...have a u day. get your hair and nails done, and stay busy! stay off of friendster, thats just gonna piss you off. hes doing that purposely because he wants you too see that he has moved on and with someone else. a little immature, but you check it all the time. do you girl!
god bless
2006-07-27 06:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a loser. It sucks sometimes when guys play with our hearts. That's a crappy thing for him to do. I know its hard but try to move on and put up some pics of hot guys on your page that should make him jealous. Get some sweet revenge.
2006-07-27 06:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by not_your_average*chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a dog and you deserve better then that there are plenty of guys out there that will treat you better but you have to stop letting him back in your life or he will continue to treat you this way close the door and dont open it i know it hurts but you will and can get through this you are better then that dont let him see hurt he enjoys that pick yourself up and go on girl hes not worth it
2006-07-27 06:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In situations like this, the only person you should listen to is yourself. You know by now he's a dog, you also Know by now that he has "replaced" you. Now all you need to be certain of is if you want to subject yourself to his bullshit. Take what you want from this and follow your heart, not your punanie. (jamaican word for vagina)
2006-07-27 07:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree- I think you should write the ex and thank her....
Forget him, he's a jerk and you don't need him. He might have even joined on purpose to upset you. Don't let him get to you... the same thing happen to me- block him so you don't have to look at him!
2006-07-27 06:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋