My wife Say's she loves me...?

Question

We have sex every night, unless I'm tired from work or she is too, I don't do anything wrong in my eyes such as look at porn sometimes, but she do too, I don't "rub off one" or nothing like that. I got my co workers # before she sd no. I just forgot it was in my car, it even had tint my windows for $250 under the #. She don't kiss me anymore, she don't tell me she Love me unless I say it first, it's like I feel like the female. I love to cook, I have to clean up after her, which I don't mind but all she do is complain because she just want's to go out and party and drink and wear little clothes that I don't like her to. I just work and play basketball in my free time. I love to go out but we have two kids and only time for the weekend that we don't even plan for. So Sat. comes and here we go again, " I'm bored, I'm tired of sitting here w/ the kids" I married the wrong person. And that hurts my feelings so much I just want to leave. My dad left, and I don't want to leave my family...

Answer 1

You need to put your foot down and both of you need to be parents first! You should be worrying about spending time with your children not out partying. Boot her butt out of the house, and let her see what it is like being on her own.

Answer 2

well, first of all, i think it's awesome that ur willing to work to make the marriage work before u decide on leaving. now what u need to do is try all ur different resources before u result in divorce.... whether it's trying to ignite the flame again (date her again like it's new), or going to therapy (having a professional help u guys speak out on what u want and don't want in ur marriage), or just communicating w/ her what u expect from her as a wife, and what u expect from urself as a husband. be the best husband u can be, try to satisfy her emotional, physical needs; that doesn't mean "do whatever she wants, clean up her mess, be whooped". it means, be a man and take charge of the house, but do so while taking care of what she needs as a woman to be healthy, happy and satisfied w/ you. perhaps u guys are in a run, becuase u got used to being lazy for planning dates, trips, u have kids so don't have much time. that's the thing w/ marriage, or relationships; in order to make it work for a long time, u have to keep working at it. u can't let things slide and hope that u stay together just cuz ur married! esp in this day and age when marriage doesn't seem to mean as much anymore..u have to make it mean something. start planning weekends, get family to babysit the kids.... etc.. if that and therapy doesn't work, then u need to sit her down and talk about what she wants to do, and what you BOTH can do to change the situation. if she gave up, not willing to put in her 100% to fix things then maybe u have to think about divorce. but if she sees u care and are willing to do whatever it takes, maybe she will be inspired to do the same. marriage is hard, and if u both are overwhelmed from it, take some time to really evaluate who u are, and if u can grow together instead of apart. good luck~

Answer 3

Don't give up on your family. Try talking to her and telling her how you feel. You married her for a reason. Think of those reasons to help you get through the tough times. It may just be a phase or maybe she's in a slump. Anyone who has been married for some time knows that everyday is not roses and candy, but both of you have to genuinely want to make it work. Also, party time is over. I'm not saying you can't go out together occasionally, but going out to party without my husband doesn't even appeal to me. You both have to realize there are other priorities that come first. Just be patient, be open, and don't give up.

Answer 4

Well you need to have a good long talk. But realize this, marriage is hard work. Some people think that after you get married, everything will be just peachy!! Well was single life just peachy? Nope, and neither will marriage be.

You are entwinning two lives and usually it's two very different lives and it can be hard. I mean, it takes time, and yes, it may even become boring, but life does at times. Maybe you should start to 'date' her again. Do small things for her that she wouldn't think about and surprise her. Make her feel speical.

Answer 5

You need to find out what is going on here.Sit down and talk to her tell her how you feel and that you feel neglected and rejected.She should be wanting to spend time with her family.Im not saying she shouldnt go out with her friends but just not all the time.You say shes dressing in skimpy clothes.That dosent sound good sounds like she is trying to attract other men.Be careful that shes not cheating.She dosent show you any affection she dosent say she loves u anymore.Shes having some issues that you have to talk about and if you two talking dosent work then you may want to consider councelling because if not then your relationship is doomed and it will never get fixed

Answer 6

Hey! Sorry for all the trouble. I'm not sure I understand the whole number of another woman gig...

But nonetheless, think about this... Do you want some other guy to raise your kids? I'm guessing not, because you seem like a great decent guy.

You're going to have to be patient, and continue to provide a safe home for your wife and kids. Be patient.

Perhaps you might want to seek some marital counseling

So sad that a lot of women are like that nowadays. It's all about them, and what they want, etc.

Again, I'm not sure what that other woman's number had to do with it... But be cool. Your priority is your children.

Best wishes!!!

Answer 7

well take her over to the computure and say i want to show you somthingand show her this question and the answers cuz i feel shes lucky to have a man willing to work clean up after her lazy butt and she wants to party what about a drivin with the kids an amusment park i think shes ungreatful and maby you married the wrong person not her show her this and talk it over if all she wants is one night stands let her go and find a real woman but try first to get through to her good luck

Answer 8

Talk to her and be straight out with your feelings. I know you don't want to leave your family but if she is sooo tired of sittin with her own kids then you and your kids might be better off leaving seperate from her. She needs to realize that its time to grow up and also realize that she has a family now. She can't just go out whenever she feels like it. Talk to her and if it still seems like doesn't want to change for you guyz then she has some serious issues. If you do leave don't take as walking out on your family, make sure you still see ur kids ( the way it seems, u would be better off having custody) and that they know you love them. Your kids will be miserable if you stay just for them. If you're not happy they will realize it, you can't hide unhappiness from ur kids they're not dumb. If youd do seperate make sure you keep them up to date and be open with them. Good luck!

Answer 9

i dont really know what you are going thru, but my parents are 2 ppl that just married the wrong ppl. and lets just say that it does a lot to the kids and to the parents. so when your around your kids, dont show it as much, just try to conceal it a little. i know its hard, but if you guys are seriously starting to get angry with eachother or u feel like its just totally wrong, divorce might be easier, and you dont have to leave your kids. still live remotely close, and you'll still have shared custody. the only way you can leave them is if you dont make the effort to be close. and i think u would make that effort. but i also think that you deserve to find the right woman.

Answer 10

get her out on saturday night. hire a baby sitter or ask a parent. you cannot ignore her need to be out an about and you need to be creating memories with her. don't give up just yet. she's hinting that going out is something she really needs, maybe it's time you give in to this. as for sex, spice it up a little. don't do it at night, do it in the morning. either way, try to work on your marriage before walking away.