I work at a 40yr man's business. He and his wife go to my church. He has told me that he wants me and that he is a dog. He keeps rubbing my arm and making sexual comments toward me. I am being attacked by a lustful spirit. His wife is a woman of God, and she is very dear to me. I don't know what to do in this situation. I am 23 and a born again believer of Jesus Christ. I desire to please God. I am not sure what I am to do, or who I can talk to...
2006-07-27 06:30:05 · 18 answers · asked by snickerriffic2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get away from him FAST! This cannot have a happy ending - there is no happy ending to this picture. RUN!!!
2006-07-27 06:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by verdes0j0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spoken like a true cheater,Owen_T....The answer lies within you my dear...ask yourself one question and the answer will become obvious, Are you a whore? or Do you want to be looked upon as a whore? You say you are a born again...I detest most religions, but aren't one of the commandments Thou shalt not covet thy neighbors wife (your case husband) or things?????You should not be drooling (lusting) after your friend's husband...He is the worse person in this situation right now,because not only is he being a hypocrit by going to church,and then playin a fool the other 6 days a week....He is the EXACT reason I do not agree with the whole religion issue and I do not trust most people who "claim" to be a follower,but he is breaking his wedding vows as well! I believe in a higher power,and I live my entire life by one simple rule....Do unto others!!!!.....Think of how you would feel if this was YOUR husband(doesn't say if you are married but if you had a spouse) and you find out he has been carrying on an affair with one of your friends??? This is why there is so much evil in this world....no one thinks of how they would feel if the same thing happened to them,they just think of the immediate gratification,not the long-term reprecutions. If you desire to please god then your answer should be an immediate and firm NO!!!!! As for telling his wife,I would just because that is me,I don't think ANYONE deserves to be cheated on and lied to,there are waaaaaaaay to many ways to die or be forever un-comfortable with the S.T.D.'s now-a-days...however I am always ready for the significant other to not believe me or dissolve the friendship for the "accusation"....til later when they get the reality punch in the face!Ultimately the decision to tell the wife is a decision you will have to weigh on your own heart...if he is 40,they probably have been married for quite sometime right. Then she may already know and just deny what he is doing which is seriously un-healthy for her well-being mentally and medically...but she has made her decision...if he has admitted to being a dog....then you are NOT the first,and you will NOT be the last....don't even play yourself the mistress...I am sure you deserve better,there are plenty of men out there willing to be yours and only yours,do not settle for less than you deserve!!!! Good Luck with this issue,I hope you chose wisely! Have A Great Day...Careful what rattle through your vocal cords out of anger,for once it parts your lips the damage is irreversible!!! Peace,Love,&Happiness to All!!!
2006-07-27 07:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by xaviersmother2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can sue him for sexual harassment. Get enough evidence, like tape or video. You never know, maybe he is trying that with other girls too. Start looking for another job. That is if you want to get even with him and show him a piece of your mind.
If you don't want to cause any problems, just start looking for another job and get out of there as soon as possible. Even a part time job will do for now.
Confronting him is not the right move. Because you work for him. He will either fire you right away or make you do whatever he wants in order to stay with your job. You cannot tell him you'll tell his wife. He will make a fool out of you in front of her. She's religious so she'll probably just try to keep the peace at her house.
I wish you good luck. What a scum bag he is.
2006-07-27 06:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a dillemma usually spells two minds- - - either you love the man or not. Stop placing God in such a situation coz it is satan at play here.
Option 1: Find another job and tell him that if he persists with his sexual moves you will inform his wife no matter the consequences.
Option 2:When we pray, we don't pray to the church but to God.Churches are like the different races, but if you look at them in a humane frame of mind then I advise you to seek an alternative church.
God advises us to love but not in a promiscuos way.This man is married so stay away from him .His marriage is what has led you to your dillemma.So steer clear of such obstacles for they bring only grief.
Find yourself a single man who is prepared to love you openly.Remember, if a relationship starts well, then the end result is worth waiting for. Don't destroy this family because of lust. Good luck!!!
2006-07-27 07:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about quiting the job? Sounds like the best thing to do.....Go to his wife and say you need to move jobs when she ask what is wrong tell here that you feel uncomfortable with the situation and that you do not want to be in the middle that you love her and that she is sweet to you that is why the advances from her husband is getting to be to much!
just say it maybe it will save her from a disaster down the road!
2006-07-27 06:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell your vicar/priest and ask him to intervene.
Not as harsh as telling the wife but will still scare him to death when he gets a talking-to. Telling the wife rarely ends up with a positive outcome. He'll persuade her you're lying, she'll not want anything to do with you (whether she believes him or not), she'll never trust him even if he DOES turn over a new leaf, he could make your life hell at work.
2006-07-27 06:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure he knows you are not interested in him. Then if it continues I would approach his wife and tell her in kind words whats going on and you feel uncomfortable. Be careful wives tend to believe their husbands this could end disastrously but she has the right to know and you have the right to be safe. If she shuts you out you are better off without them. Good Luck God will come through for you.
2006-07-27 06:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by sunnyday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is tell this guy your boundaries and that his behavior is inappropriate. Whether or not you recipricate his feelings does not matter. The man is married and is off limits.
The second thing you should do is tell his wife about his actions so that they can work it out. Even if he stopped hitting on you, he would go on to someone else (if he hasn't already). His wife needs to know about this guy's wandering heart so that they can resolve the issue within their marriage.
2006-07-27 06:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lord_of_Armenia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell his wife or someone in your church.Failing this report him to the police, for harassing you. How can he be a church goer if he is a Pervert,nasty man.
2006-07-27 06:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by ladybee5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you like him? if so you need to let him know your feelings and his wife
if you dont like him? tell him no that you want nothing to do with his feelings and dont get in the middle of him and his wife
unless you like him...you have no right in telling the wife
2006-07-27 06:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋