my husband and i just moved to cali about a year ago...and we have been married for 2 years...we have been having problems in our marriage to the point of we are about to get separated.....well while i went down to visit my hometown recently and met up with a guy i used to work with ....and we went out to dinner ...and everything...and i really started to fall head over heels for this guy......and i am extremely confused...i don't know if i should tell this guy how i feel or if i should get a divorce or separate and move back down with my family or what? it is driving me crazy
2006-07-27 06:26:26 · 5 answers · asked by aagee1003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe you owe it to your husband to work things out with him. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. If you try whole hearty to work things out with your husband and are unable to rekindle your marriage then at that time it would be good to separate. Jumping from one relationship to another is never a good thing. In between relationships you need to work on yourself, and evaluate why your marriage didn't work in the first place. You need to determine what things you need to do differently so the next marriage you have isn't a failed one as well!!!
2006-07-27 06:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off you need to figure out if you want to stay in the marriage or get out before you figure out your feelings for this other guy.. let your decision about the marriage be based on the marriage and not this other guy!! Then when that is figured out and decisions are made then and only then decide about the other guy!!
Now are you falling in love with this guy are is he the way out? An excuse to end your marriage??
I don't think you should tell this other guy anything yet because you don't have the answers about your marriage yet!!
Good Luck!!
2006-07-27 13:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on your relationship with your husband for now and think only of you and whether getting out of this marriage is the right thing to do - do not let another guy in your life cloud your judgement. You could end up regretting something.
2006-07-27 13:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just getting out of a relation ship,looking needing a friend,the feeling you have are good but you should examine the whole thing,would you end up bring the extra baggage to a new relation ship,and what are you hoping for out of the new relation ship,just some one so you wont be alone,comfort you ,is it fair to the guy you are dating or want to date when 6months down the road you don't feel the same for him you want something diff,is he just the rebound guy,lots of ques ton,just be sure ,its OK to have a rebound guy after a break up just be honest with the guy you like
2006-07-27 13:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My "expert" advice (worth exactly what you pay for it and not a cent more) is to not get involved until you settle with what will probably soon be your ex. Liken it to falling into big holes. Make sure you get out of one before you go into another.
2006-07-27 13:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋